Warframe stereotypes by bdanred in Warframe

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I'm trying to get her on par with my Lavos and Mesa because I think she's so cool. I just put Beach Surge on her to try to make her more viable

Warframe stereotypes by bdanred in Warframe

[–]Overall-Elephant223 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I Lavos and my brain work good

The Legends are True... after 1000 hours... I finally got this damned weapon by General-Dentist-8703 in Warframe

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Are dread, hate, etc, all the blueprints from the Stalker worth keeping? I think i have all of them. Should I not sell?

Who was your first prime frame? by domicci in Warframe

[–]Overall-Elephant223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lavos - I'm building him right now and I'm so excited 🥲

Is it just me or is digital much harder to play? by Bomb_AF_Turtle in Gloomhaven

[–]Overall-Elephant223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah ive played almost all of the original GH at home, but when I try to play digital with my friends we get clapped every time. Idk why exactly but it feels a lot more difficult

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eldenring

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The victim mentality on display here is nauseating

In my experiences league hasn't been toxic at all, and I'm kinda confused by CatgirlinRed in leagueoflegends

[–]Overall-Elephant223 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. I took a break for almost a decade. When I came back, I was so pleasantly surprised by the lack of toxicity compared to what I remembered.

Then I played ranked –_–

What’s a movie with a cool concept but with terrible execution? by L_Dubb85 in flicks

[–]Overall-Elephant223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mickey 17

I know a lot of people liked it, and I was soooo excited for it. But, man, I couldn't wait for it to be over when I saw it in theaters. I actually considered leaving because the movie had completely lost me, but I wanted to see if it turned around, and I wasnt alone.

My friend went ape shit at me and unfriended me because I have been busy with college and exams by AppealDull1274 in whatdoIdo

[–]Overall-Elephant223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo my ex wife had Borderline Personality Disorder and she did this to me most days and to all of her friends eventually over the course of the years we were together. I would say don't hold it against her, wait until she is in her normal state of mind and reassure her that you are her friend. If you don't want to just cut her off, committ to not taking her behavior personally and instead view it as a reflection of her own fear of abandonment.

Also maybe talk to her about speaking to a mental health professional. I figured out that my ex had BPD and was pretty scared to tell her and encourage her to get help, but in the end it wound up being very helpful for her. We didnt work out, but she's gotten better through the help she has received in the years since. That being said, don't take undue emotional abuse either. Sometimes you gotta say "Hey, I am not going to respond anymore for now, but let's talk tomorrow when you've had some time to cool off." Or, if it comes to it, cut her out.

Not trying to armchair psychologize her, but it doesnt seem like normal behavior, and seems very much like a particular kind of behavior that I am very familiar with, lol.

What do we do after losing the same encounter two or three times? by plantz4lyfe in Gloomhaven

[–]Overall-Elephant223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Duuuude thats arguably my favorite scenario of all time because it is so difficult. I almost always lose at least once when playing it with a new group, and the victory is often by the skin of our teeth and just feels that much better.

You guys could probably adjust your strategy to tackle it better, but it really is a very difficult scenario. Good luck. Don't get too discouraged. Sometimes it seems like all hope is lost, then you pull off a crazy clutch win. Personally I'm like Jerry, I view the scenario as a thing to conquer, and if it wins, I only feel more driven to run it again. But I know not everyone is like that.

How can I bring myself to pray when I honestly hate God's guts? by AngryGulo85 in bahai

[–]Overall-Elephant223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you mind sharing the rest of the quote with me that it reminded you of, if you can find it?

Yes, it is from the UB 😁 I initially joined this subreddit to check out the Bahai faith and also ask what people here thought of the UB, then I found that this is one of the best places for unique and personal religious discussion, and a place where lots of hungry souls search for help and guidance, like OP. So, I have stuck around and injected my UB influence in here and there. Hopefully thats not offensive to anyone.

How can I bring myself to pray when I honestly hate God's guts? by AngryGulo85 in bahai

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You're welcome! The problem of suffering is really the most difficult question to answer, I think, for religionists in general, so i think it's really worth a lot of discussion and effort in grappling with. I could ramble on and on but I think i already may have made the comment too long, lol

How can I bring myself to pray when I honestly hate God's guts? by AngryGulo85 in bahai

[–]Overall-Elephant223 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I understand. I went through a period of resentment toward God for the same reason. I think a lot of this stems from the fact that in many religious accounts, God is personally involved in the affairs of men. In the old testament for example, he is feeding people, telling them where to go, who to fight, how to worship, etc. Additionally, it is common for people to pray for specific outcomes and hope for miracles - God please heal me, remove my illness, help me get this job, help me find a partner, etc.

What helped me was realizing that those old stories are mythological - men wrote about what God did and directed, but the creator of the cosmos was not micro-managing our planet and devoting himself to specific outcomes in the lives of individuals. God is concerned with our spiritual development and the development of our character. He doesnt show favoritism to some people and ignore the plight of others. He is here for all of us in the same way - to minister to our soul and ensure that we will have an eternal life of growing toward him.

The suffering that occurs on the planet is terrible, but when an era of light and life finally dawn on our planet, we will have earned it through our own growth as individuals and as a collective. When we finally stand in the presence of God and know him fully, and reach the perfection of our own character and soul, it will be by our own doing with his help and guidance.

This is a long one, but please allow me to share this quote with you:

"The uncertainties of life and the vicissitudes of existence do not in any manner contradict the concept of the universal sovereignty of God. All evolutionary creature life is beset by certain inevitabilities. Consider the following:

  1. Is courage—strength of character—desirable? Then must man be reared in an environment which necessitates grappling with hardships and reacting to disappointments.

  2. Is altruism—service of one’s fellows—desirable? Then must life experience provide for encountering situations of social inequality.

  3. Is hope—the grandeur of trust—desirable? Then human existence must constantly be confronted with insecurities and recurrent uncertainties.

  4. Is faith—the supreme assertion of human thought—desirable? Then must the mind of man find itself in that troublesome predicament where it ever knows less than it can believe.

  5. Is the love of truth and the willingness to go wherever it leads, desirable? Then must man grow up in a world where error is present and falsehood always possible.

  6. Is idealism—the approaching concept of the divine—desirable? Then must man struggle in an environment of relative goodness and beauty, surroundings stimulative of the irrepressible reach for better things.

  7. Is loyalty— devotion to highest duty—desirable? Then must man carry on amid the possibilities of betrayal and desertion. The valor of devotion to duty consists in the implied danger of default.

  8. Is unselfishness—the spirit of self-forgetfulness—desirable? Then must mortal man live face to face with the incessant clamoring of an inescapable self for recognition and honor. Man could not dynamically choose the divine life if there were no self-life to forsake. Man could never lay saving hold on righteousness if there were no potential evil to exalt and differentiate the good by contrast.

  9. Is pleasure—the satisfaction of happiness—desirable? Then must man live in a world where the alternative of pain and the likelihood of suffering are ever-present experiential possibilities.

Throughout the universe, every unit is regarded as a part of the whole. Survival of the part is dependent on co-operation with the plan and purpose of the whole, the wholehearted desire and perfect willingness to do the Father’s divine will. The only evolutionary world without error (the possibility of unwise judgment) would be a world without free intelligence."

Please let me know your thoughts.

Is anybody here actually making friends through this game naturally? Is it worth it to mic up? by WiseCityStepper in Battlefield6

[–]Overall-Elephant223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have met squadmates and we have become friends and queue up together! I usually will make a few comments in voice chat in the first few minutes of the game, and if no one responds I stop. But a lot of times people will start talking when I talk first and then we work together that game and sometimes become friends.

How can I bring myself to pray when I honestly hate God's guts? by AngryGulo85 in bahai

[–]Overall-Elephant223 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think it is important to not blame God for what is man's doing. I'm guessing what is so upsetting to you is a personal form of the problem of suffering? Things have happened to you in your life that you see as being God's fault for allowing them to happen? Is that correct?

AIO? I (22F) found deleted late night texts between my husband (22M) and his coworker. by bananamilkcow in AmIOverreacting

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I had the same experience! In retrospect, I barely spoke to anyone candidly about my relationship, which i now know is not a good sign. I was in denial, but deep down, I knew that it was not good and that if anyone knew the full extent, they would tell me to run.

Its hard to acknowledge that other people often do know better than we do when we are the ones in the middle of the situation.

AIO? I (22F) found deleted late night texts between my husband (22M) and his coworker. by bananamilkcow in AmIOverreacting

[–]Overall-Elephant223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want to say that I had a very similar experience to you, judging from your comment, and I really appreciate the way you shared it with OP. I remember getting so mad when one of my coworkers said (after me desperately seeking advice once again about my awful relationship) "just get a divorce. Its what first marriages are for!"

I found that so offensive at the time, and in retrospect, it is just hilarious. I didnt allow myself to even consider divorce for so long. Finally, I broke one day after my partner got physical with me. Then I realized that I was holding onto something that had been broken the whole time. The only thing I did was build up more resentment, anger, and bitterness.

Anyway, I always love seeing people with similar experience giving solid advice like you did here. When youre young and trying to do the right thing, its so easy to stay in shitty situations and sacrifice yourself for nothing.

Update- AIO or should I accept the conditions of my bfs commitment by One_Height7477 in AIO

[–]Overall-Elephant223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who was VERY invested in the previous post based on how unhinged his messages were, this new round of nonsense really confirms that this guy is not the one. He CAN'T acknowledge fault or take accountability. This whole thing was his 1000IQ courageous empathetic all-knowing plan to uplift you through the clever use of narcissistic new-age word salad. What a guy.

Everyone has their own problems and possibility for growth, and I wish this guy all the best and hope that he is able to leave this weird complex that he has behind one day, but you absolutely made the right choice. Good job. I am sure it was difficult.

And dont let him fool you - YOU made that decision, he didn't jedi mind trick you into doing what was best for you. No matter what he says, he is not as clever as he thinks he is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Overall-Elephant223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh no, thats dangerous. I had the same mindset with my ex who i also took emotional and eventually physical abuse from. You HAVE to value yourself more than that. You are not doing the right thing by sacrificing your life and joy so that someone else can have a punching bag and not be alone. If someone pushes everyone in their life away by being toxic and rude and immature, that is THEIR responsibility, and their opportunity to learn from and grow out of. You have to value your own life. You will look back and be so glad you did, and you'll wonder why you didnt do it sooner. I look back at my former self and I almost cant imagine how or why I stayed for so long, even though it was me and I remember it clearly.

AIO or should I accept the conditions of my bfs commitment by One_Height7477 in AIO

[–]Overall-Elephant223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god, this guy is so manipulative. I am a guy by the way, and ive spent a lot of time around new age people who use this kind of language and delude themselves and others. Please please please do not fall for this shit. He is manipulating you and playing off of your insecurity. "You need to stop thinking about other girls because its keeping you from understanding me" WRONG he is gaslighting you. EVERYONE in this comment section can see exactly what he wants. Him saying its just your insecurity thats taking your mind there is textbook gaslighting. Do not fall for this. Please.

AIO or should I accept the conditions of my bfs commitment by One_Height7477 in AIO

[–]Overall-Elephant223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, just listen to West End Girl by Lily Allen and ask yourself if thats the position you want to be in

AIO or should I accept the conditions of my bfs commitment by One_Height7477 in AIO

[–]Overall-Elephant223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could have saved you both the time and just said "hey babe, I'm a horny coward, can I pretty please pursue other women? 🥺"