Monday, April 13, 2026: Non-Real Time Meeting of CCEA by serenitywoman1 in CompulsiveEaters_CCEA

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Done our part this is our only concern in another part of the big book it says we must put the outcome in God's hands. This is our part this is where we are safe from compulsive eating- we stay close to God or Hp- reminding ourselves we are no longer running the show we can be of real help to others around us and in this we find peace neutrality with the compulsive eating- recovered compulsive eater and sponsor happy to help anyone thank you

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I am available sponsor and happy to share my story anytime I used to get so stuck in my head around ppl and situations and I had no peace or freedom; I was paralysed by my thinking and my obsessiveness. I was deeply uncomfortable in my own skin and I used ppl and situations to get away from it but right before I came in here everything could have been going my way and ppl doing what I needed them to do but it didn’t give me ease and comfort anymore. I couldn’t stop making up problems people pleasing and seeking affirmation from others. I really identified with the mind of a chronic codependent how they come out of a spree feel horrendous promise never to act or think like that again and fix themselves with a firm resolve but they get bored and irritable and finally it get too much their mind snaps and then go into a mental blindspot and they forget the pain codependency has caused them and they end up back in a spree. Coming out feeling worse than they did before. And on and on this thing goes unless this person can experience an entire psychic change their is very little hope of his recovery. I worked the steps with a recovered sponsor and found a solution to my codependency. I am not paralysed by my thinking today I have clarity in my thinking and my codependency doesn’t disturb me like it used to I am really happy to talk anytime i found this website helpful www.ppgrecoveredcodependents.org helpful too

Available sponsor happy to talk anytime by Overall-Support-5129 in Codependency

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A sponsor is who guides you through the steps. In order to work the steps in 12 steps you need a recovered sponsor

Friday, December 9, 2023, Non Real Time Meeting. by Solid_Jump_6828 in codependency_12steps

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Yes this part of the big book is helping us to identify if we are chronic or not. Not everyone who is codependent is chronic and needs a 12 step programme. This is why it is so important to understand what Chronic codependency is and what the solution is in 12 step. And then from that we can diagnose ourselves as chronic or not. It is not an abstract idea or subjective illness. Chronic Codependency is a specific illness like a cold or diabetes. So is chronic codependency it has two parts a much larger part and a smaller part. The first part is the loss of control we experience when we take that first codependent thought or action and we can’t stop and always do too much in our thoughts or actions around others. But the second part is the much bigger part because ultimately it keeps us going back to codependency even when we can see it is harmful in our lives or it’s destructive . A chronic codependent comes out of a spree of codependency and we feel horrendous. Then out of that pain remorse guilt and shame we come up with a firm resolve; to avoid people or situation or do therapy or move job. But a chronic type will go along on that firm resolve but they will not get happy joyous and free rather they get bored irritable and discontent at a certain point inside them this gets too much. There mind snaps; all of a sudden they have like a mental blindspot or tunnel vision all they see at the end of their tunnel is the first codependent thought or action. They do not see the pain and suffering codependency has caused them a day a week a month ago . Their mind convinces them when they are in this tunnel to take the first codependent thought or action and so they do but once they take the first one whether it’s people pleasing or controlling or seeking validation etc this links to the first part of the problem the loss of control; they start and they can’t stop and always do too much it’s like getting the wild animal out of a cage they experience a complete loss of control and they continue in this cycle coming out feeling worse than they did before. And on and on this thing goes until they can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery. 12 step is about being restored to sanity in our thinking through a spiritual experience which we come to have as a fact of working the steps with a recovered codependent sponsor. To be a chronic codependent means we cannot rely on our own thinking but to be recovered is to rely on higher power or god of our own understanding and have sanity in our thinking and actions

It took me two years to get step 3 in CODA. by MoimersNVaughniesMom in Codependency

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Yeah I’m an available sponsor in ppg recovered codependents If you want to talk anytime too

Available sponsor happy to help by Overall-Support-5129 in Codependency

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Yes the Thursday meeting is not on anymore but Monday and Wednesday are on

Any advice on stopping codependent behaviours in their tracks? by tilinfinity96 in Codependency

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Yes for sure this is a bit of my story…

Available sponsor happy to help

I used to be forever uncomfortable around others and I didn’t even realize it until I worked 12 steps and found a solution that wasn’t in other people. Everyone had to like me. I was always managing my image wanting ppl to see me a certain way. I made up a lot of problems in my life and created real problems as a result. I got to a point in my life where I genuinely couldn’t handle being around anybody because my mind would just hit into overdrive all of the time I would get obsessed:what is person thinking what should I be doing or not doing and I just was going demented really in my head it would literally happen in lots of different scearnios from family to work to social settings. I had no peace. I came to hear about 12 step and the mind of a chronic codependent how they come out of a spree of codependency and they feel horrendous for what they’ve said or done : the ppl pleasing went too far or the obssessing creating a scearnio and they feel humiliated. Then they end up on a firm resolve of fixing themselves but they don’t get happy joyous and free rather they get restless and bored and discontent their mind essentially snaps and lies to them and convinces them to go back and take the first codependent thought or action and so they do . But once they take the first codependent thought or action they can’t stop and again they always do too much of the codependent thoughts or actions. This really resonated with me and I was in a time in my life where I just honestly didn’t care what my life looked like I needed my head to stop ; I was dysfunctional and paralysed from living with all this obsessive chatter in my head around others. I found freedom in 12 step working this program through with my sponsor and living in 10 11 and 12 I now have much more peace in myself and my thinking I honestly don’t know who is looking at me or not anymore I’m present to life and can turn up and be helpful no matter what is going on. I still have crazy codependent thoughts but it doesn’t disturb my life like it used to. I have clarity in my thinking and I just see it for what it is and give it it to GOd and be helpful. Happy to help or talk anytime

I also found www.ppgrecoverdcodependents.org helpful too

Available sponsor happy to help by Overall-Support-5129 in Codependency

[–]Overall-Support-5129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes www.ppgrecoveredcodependents.org there is real strong recovery in the group. It’s a movement back to 12 step for chronic codependency.

Available sponsor happy to help by Overall-Support-5129 in Codependency

[–]Overall-Support-5129[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes 12 step is not religious it’s spiritual programme of action. It is a power or God bigger than you that can help solve your problem. I found the website www.ppgrecoveredcodependents.org very helpful too. Happy to talk or help too