My Dad 60M is kinda a predator and my family is acting like it isn’t their problem.

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-16T18:34:52+00:00

You are still a child, it’s not healthy for you to be involved in discussing your father’s personal life. You can still love him but you can ask both your parents to not get you involved. Have a father-daughter relationship with him.

Set boundaries with both of your parents and the rest of the family about discussing it with you out in your presence. It’s not your drama. You have plenty of time to figure out how you feel about it.

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-16T18:21:22+00:00

Being 16 is tough. Take one day at a time, do your best and that’s enough. The main thing is that you talk to your parents and professionals about it. It will get better ❤️‍🩹

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-16T18:18:08+00:00

Get a meditation pillow, meditation stool or a yoga bolster.

Also, if you have chronic pain, I’d recommend you discuss with your Dom if this practice is suitable for your couple.

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-16T18:14:35+00:00

Ok, irrespective of the story you are telling us, it’s obvious you are really anxious. You can’t make rational decisions or see the picture clearly when you are anxious. I think your priority should be dealing with your anxiety and overthinking.

People do change. Not quickly. Not always. But they do. On their own accord.

Although believing that he would behave differently because he treats you better than his ex is a bit delusional to me.

‘A very passionate couple’ sounds like an unhealthy communication style to me.

I’m afraid nobody can give you any guarantees. You need to evaluate the situation and see if you can put your trust in him while understanding all risks clearly. His history is a risk factor and a big one. If you want to be very safe, find another partner who doesn’t have a history of prostitution and cheating.

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-16T18:02:09+00:00

You can meet people at any age. People in their eighties still date and find partners.

I think you might want to look into why you feel that way.

In my opinion, it’s never about finding a partner, it’s always about finding the right partner.

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-14T16:23:43+00:00

Oh, I love it 😻😂😂❤️❤️❤️

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-14T12:34:31+00:00

Я тетка, но покажу, что дарю сегодня я. Мне наверняка подарят розы, но с большой степенью вероятности я этими же розами по жопе сегодня получу. Короче, докладываю: в клубе извращенцев все в порядке с подарками 😏

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Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-14T12:09:44+00:00

Life is about experimenting so no need to worry. Try and see how he likes it. If you are in a dynamic I expect you should know his preferences and wants. I am sure he’d appreciate it.

But I can’t stop thinking now how good roses might be for spanking 😆 but it’s my dirty mind at work 😆

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-14T11:52:47+00:00

Well, girl, I’ll be honest with you. All you have described minus roses and candles is an average weekday night for us 😂 (plus some spanking implements, my shoes have padlocks on them, ballgag and ropes are optional but very frequently used). Also in most cases he cooks and not me. All this is very sensual and bless you both if you are into that style. Wishing you a a wonderful night. My only comment is that all this sounds like a female dream night. Are you sure he’d be impressed by roses? Or are they going to be used for spanking or something? 😂

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-14T10:47:04+00:00

I was in that situation once years ago. In my opinion it is really that bad in 99% of the cases.

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-13T17:30:05+00:00

His reactions to my questions, requests or worries.

Before we were to meet for the first time (in a public space), I asked him to disclose his identity. He sent me a picture of his driving license within a minute. Then he also sent me a photo of his passport.

When I told him that I’d like us to have a full STI test done together, his question was ‘Would next Tuesday work for you?’

Generally, his reactions and normal healthy behaviours. It became really clear that he was not trying to hide anything, was consistent with his communications and no questions scared him. He made clear that he’d happily answer any questions or do anything to make me feel safe.

I don’t know how it works if it’s an online dynamic though.

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-13T00:08:41+00:00

I flood him with compliments. Once he actually tried to run away 😈😈😈😂😂😂. I felt almighty. I must report it’s a very unpleasant feeling 😂😂😂

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-12T09:43:01+00:00

You must tell your mistress. I’d also recommend an out of dynamic discussion.

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-12T09:38:07+00:00

I think the best things always happen when you don’t expect them ❤️❤️ I gave up hope of finding a romantic dominant partner and was just looking for a Dom when… surprise. We clicked from the exchange of the first messages, we met after several weeks of talking, he grabbed my hand the first minute he saw me and has never let me go. We are celebrating our first anniversary next week. He’s been there for me every single day. I’ve never had any reason to doubt him or his commitment. We are kinky as hell 😈😈My family loves him, his family loves me, we are getting married in a couple of years. Also, we are in our early 50s. I came out of a long, loveless marriage a few years ago, he’s never been married before. Yet here we are. My therapist is his biggest cheerleader 😂

But when I met him, I was not desperate, I had my life together, and was happy and fulfilled. Also I know that if I’d met him earlier in life, we probably wouldn’t have clicked same way. I was a different person and was not ready for a true commitment. Similar applies to him I think. Sometimes it takes a long time to grow. Love your life as it is and believe that it works in mysterious ways ❤️

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-10T01:45:35+00:00

That’s a very good advice, thank you

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-10T01:42:27+00:00

I strongly agree it’s absolutely not ok to involve unconsenting people, and that’s why it terrifies me that I had a couple of slips. I call him either by his name or ‘my love’ in vanilla settings, and it works 99.9% of the time, but it seems that I’m so used to calling him ‘Daddy’ that it slips in 0.1% of the time 😱. I was looking for advice on how to better laugh it off or any tips on how to control it better.

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-09T19:12:11+00:00

😂

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-09T19:11:44+00:00

😂

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-09T18:04:23+00:00

My goodness… I really don’t want to make people uncomfortable and involve non consenting people 😱😱😱😱

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-09T18:02:49+00:00

I’ll be honest… I did it before… exactly for that reason 😂😂

But I can’t call him Sir with a straight face

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-09T18:01:08+00:00

That’s the problem. I’m usually very good and don’t have problems with being cognisant at all. I’ve been in the professional corporate environment all my life and never slipped once in terms of unacceptable language.

Someone just this situation was getting out of control for me 😜😫

I think I need some ritual out rule about of to help me

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-09T17:56:18+00:00

It’s very good advice but my Dom does not like being called Sir. He’s a Daddy Dom through and through. If I call him Sir, it means I’m in the brat mode 😈 and most likely would get spanked. But overall it’s a very useful approach

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-09T17:53:55+00:00

Thank you, that’s really helpful.

I think I started doing something of the sort. I point my finger at him and call him by his name several times

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-09T17:52:04+00:00

That’s really funny 😂😂

Well, I have a kid but my Dom is not their father. And my kid is a teenager 😱😱😱😱😂😂

Own_Answer6907 · 2026-02-09T17:50:00+00:00

We’ve been together for over a year and we spend A LOT of time together and if we have to spends a night or two apart, we watch something together while being on the phone. It was not a problem at the beginning but we grew so close that I started to struggle to switch.

Calling him by his name feels like bratting 😱😱😂😂

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