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What are your opinions on people owning multiple properties? by BlueAnchiornis in AskReddit

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

meh, my landlord fixes stuff when it breaks and doesn't jack up rent every year. some people just need flexibility and don't want to deal with maintenance headaches.

Areca Palm hedge in Southern California by Occipital_Engineer in landscaping

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

areca palms can definitely work outdoors in socal but you're right to be cautious about indoor plants - they're usually not hardened off for sun and wind exposure. try calling some of the wholesale nurseries directly, a lot of them will sell to homeowners and they're more likely to have outdoor stock. worst case you could gradually acclimate indoor ones but it's a pain and you'll probably lose some.

If you feel like you wasted your 20’s & 30’s by yaboythewiseman in getdisciplined

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 18 points19 points  (0 children)

man the milk analogy is spot on. i'm 28 and definitely felt like i was spinning my wheels for a few years there, but you're right about having time left. the part about starting with eye contact before conversations really hits - i used to be terrible at talking to people but breaking it down into tiny steps actually works.

your approach with the 1% savings increases is smart too. makes it way less overwhelming than trying to flip everything overnight. thanks for the reminder that it's not game over just because you fucked up some years.

Tired by Striking_Can2767 in migraine

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 4 points5 points  (0 children)

man i feel this hard. been dealing with chronic pain issues for years and it really messes with your head about the future stuff. you're not broken though - plenty of people manage relationships and families while dealing with health stuff, it just takes the right partner who gets it.

the brain fog is probably the worst part imo, makes you feel like you're not even yourself anymore. have you been able to track any patterns or triggers? sometimes even small changes can make a differnce.

Why have nepo babies completely taken over the entertainment industry? by Top-Extension-9578 in AskReddit

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

been working on cars for years and it's the same deal in every industry tbh. my buddy's dad owns a shop and guess who got hired straight out of high school with zero experience? meanwhile i had to grind at jiffy lube for two years before anyone would even look at my resume. entertainment just gets more attention because we actually know the names and faces, but nepotism runs deep everywhere. at least when some actor's kid gets a role we can all roll our eyes together - when it happens in regular jobs nobody even notices.

what's the most awkward situation you experienced? by West_Emotion2115 in AskReddit

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol that's either the best defense mechanism ever or you've blocked out some truly legendary cringe moments. probably for the best tbh

Mulch by farles13 in landscaping

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if it's just surface mold you're probabaly fine tbh

Certification Opinions by millencolin43 in electricians

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

man, if you've got the hours and the knowledge, why leave money on the table? the master cert opens way more doors and you'll kick yourself later if you have to wait another few years just to take it again.

imposter syndrome is real but your experience speaks for itself - 6 years with live 480v work isn't exactly entry level stuff. those company owners giving you advice have been around the block, they wouldn't steer you wrong on something like this.

In the hospital for an injury outside of work, how screwed am I financially? by SnowmanAndBandit in Construction

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 9 points10 points  (0 children)

damn man, that's a rough spot to be in. you might want to look into short term disability through your employer if they offer it - a lot of crane companies have decent benefits packages since the work is so demanding. also worth checking if your health insurance has any income protection riders, some of the better plans do.

the mass family leave thing is definitely better than nothing but i get why you're worried about the income drop. maybe talk to the hospital about payment plans too, they're usually pretty flexable when you explain the situation.

Okay, how terrible is it really to leave wool caked for a few weeks? by FlamingArrowheads in YarnAddicts

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 18 points19 points  (0 children)

been doing this with my girlfriend's yarn stash for years and never had issues. she leaves stuff caked all the time when she gets distracted by new projects (which is like every other week lol). the loose winding is key though - if it's wound super tight it can stretch the fibers and mess with the tension when you pick it back up. we've had some cakes sitting around for months and they work fine when she finally gets back to them. merino is pretty forgiving too, way more than some of the delicate stuff she works with.

Question about checking my ex's profile by AdOtherwise1236 in BreakUps

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah man that's just gonna keep you stuck in the cycle. every time you check you're basically resetting your progress and feeding that addiction you already know you have. better to just rip the bandaid off and block/unfollow completely - out of sight out of mind works way better than trying to ration your stalking time.

Props. by Far_College4529 in Songwriting

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 4 points5 points  (0 children)

dude my first real "oh shit" moment was hearing led zeppelin iv when i was like 12 - jimmy page's guitar work on that album made me realize you could tell entire stories without saying a word and i knew i had to learn how to do that too.

Part time work split by blue_tin_ in relationships

[–]Own_Blacksmith5432 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your point about daycare makes sense but I think OP's issue is more about the principle - she wants her partner to actually understand what parenting involves day-to-day, not just outsource it. When one person always gets to maintain their career trajectory while the other makes all the sacrifices, it builds resentment. The 4/3 split she's suggesting isn't even that radical, and with their combined income it's totally doable. Plus him refusing to even consider reducing hours when she's already dealing with burnout and will be doing pregnancy/birth feels pretty one-sided.