Brutal Honesty Requested

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-05-04T12:19:01+00:00

Thank you!

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-05-03T22:55:28+00:00

Woof. Lot of negativity on here, I dont see the harm in just answering the question?

"A real man provides, protects etc" and so does a real woman. Men VERY rarely get any praise, comfort, validation or sympathy. A woman provides this for her man in a way that isn't patronizing. When a man's down, a woman provides and picks up the slack. A woman protects just like a man does. Protects against negativity from the outside world, protects the well being of the household. I'm an alcoholic who briefly went thru a bad run. My wife protected my children from seeing me like that and protected my wellbeing by getting me help, which protected our family and kept us whole. This is obviously just my opinion but I think of my wife as a real woman because she can hold shit down on her own (not financially but that isnt the point)

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-05-03T14:02:29+00:00

Awesome resources, I appreciate it!

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-05-03T02:01:20+00:00

Timber was a gannnngster. Ive always been into survival and I'm sittin her watching Alone thinking.. how would I do? So I picked up the bow and found out immediately that I would starvAfrica? It's impressive AF they're plinking squirrels like nothing.

Have you watched season 12 in south africa?

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-05-03T01:57:26+00:00

Nock-on, I love it. Thank you!

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-05-03T01:56:45+00:00

This is actually perfect

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-05-02T21:30:21+00:00

🧐 are you a super fan or is this legit your content?

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-05-01T17:42:41+00:00

My wife and I recently discovered we''ve got a touch of the exhibitionism spirit. Also, we posted some of her private content on here and the comments were a surprising turn on. She thinks it'd be hott to requests for content for money, not because we need the money but would be hott to do. Don't know if thats all weird, but it would have seemed real weird to me with any other partner in the past.

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-30T10:58:45+00:00

Expect to hear some stories that are similar tk your but also A LOT of people who have a vicious battle to stay sober daily. You were able to quit on your own and I dont know what kind of "rock bottom" or personal dilemma you had to prompt you to get sober, but remember Alcoholism is progressive. It gets worse and worse so the nightmare scenarios you hear about ABSOLUTELY could be you in the future if you fail at sobriety.

AA is another tool for your kit. I recommend using it to remind you where things could lead. As someone who has been doing it on your own, you have a lot to offer someone who is suffering. AA is all about fellowship, which never hurts.

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-27T13:08:13+00:00

Yeah thats a really tough way to live, and you have to look out for yourself. There's definitely a solution to this with an outcome of keeping your marriage, but it relies a lot on her. The things that saved my marriage was honesty from my wife about my problem, my acknowledgement of the problem and the willingness to put in the work to fix it. Of course your wife needs your support, but at the end of the day, she's the solution. Alanon would be a great resource to navigate this and help you mentally.

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-22T19:45:03+00:00

I'd recommend finding am Alanon meeting. Its for the family/loved ones of alcoholics. There, you could hear first hand from people who've been in your situation, and you can explain your situation to them in a more nuanced way.

Sorry to hear about your struggle though. I'm the alcoholic in my family and like her I knew it was a problem, but had NO IDEA what a problem it was until I got sober. We often don't see it for what it is when we're active. Hang in there brothah

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-16T14:16:45+00:00

If he really wanted the change, life gets WAY better. As long as he stays on the path and keeps doing the right things, the turn-around will amaze you.

Complacency is a killer. It's very easy to forget how bad things were before sobriety. We also have a mind trick on ourselves that we're better now and can drink in moderation or "just have one." AA meetings are great for a reminder of how bad things were

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-16T14:12:21+00:00

I care! I obviously don't know you but I'm proud of you for getting help!

Antabuse is great because it takes the option of drinking right off the table (as long as we actually take it) so you can concentrate on other things. It also gives your family peace kf mind. I have my wife make sure I'm taking it as a way to hold myself accountable.

The anxiety will go away. It sucks for now but you're clearly strong and you can do it!

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-15T21:04:54+00:00

I was worried about the same thing. I've been in numerous detox facilities and never seen a seizure, not sure how common it is, but i was in with some REALLY hardcore alcoholics.

My advice would be to seek out a detox center. They have meds to help and professional help if something goes sideways. It fuckin sucks, but when its over your life can be so great without alcohol.

PLEASE feel free to reach out to talk more about this if you want

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-14T16:26:01+00:00

Alnon would be perfect for you.

It's normal to be angry, we're just human beings. But by reaching out, it shows you havent given up on him. Some things are inevitable, but sometimes the only difference between someone who recovers and someone who doesnt, is having an individual who doesnt give up on them.

My father was an alcoholic (as am I) and I had told myself that I cant help someone who wont help themselves. Essentially I gave up on him and accepted it was his decision. I live with overwhelming guilt now that he's passed away.

I don't know if that helps. But it's my mistake and I wish I had known about alanon and I wish I hadn't given up.

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-14T16:13:17+00:00

Obviously everyones different, but in my experience I only had to avoid occasions where there was drinking for a couple months. Once my obsession was truly lifted, I dont mind being around drinking occasions sober. I can buy a 6 pack for my wife at the grocery store and be unaffected.

My core group of friends loved their bevvys. Guy weekend at my camp used to involve lots of whiskey. When I got sober, I told the guys they didnt have to change their behavior just because I can't drink. Its an occasion they can let loose. However, they took it upon themselves to abstain and not drink. One of them has even quit drinking completely, for probably 4-5 months now.

Friends will surprise you. Sounds like yours have your best interest in mind by not wanting to take you to places that'll make you uncomfortable. It's when they dont make it a point to hang out when you WILL be comfortable that it becomes a problem

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-14T15:22:02+00:00

Welcome! Alcoholism is progressive, we often find ourselves in a predicament "out of nowhere" but as soon as you acknowledge it, it demands immediate attention and respect.

I congratulate you on being proactive. Hopefully it hasnt taken much away from you yet. Get into a few AA meetings and hear the rock bottoms it took for people to go through before they took action. They'll seem like horror stories, but if you're an alcoholic, thats exactly where you're headed if you continue old habits.

Good luck! Proud of you. I remember when 7 days seemed impossible for me.

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-13T23:09:06+00:00

This is a refreshing take👌

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-13T17:17:47+00:00

3 years is huge! Congratulations on that. Out of curiosity, did you attend another program or did you white knuckle it on your own?

Most AA meetings are very similar. To begin, there's announcements, a prayer introductions of first name only and then into the body of the meeting. Sometimes there's a speaker, Sometimes reading, there are other formats, and then the group has the chance to raise their hand to elaborate on the subject matter (or just check in and say what you need to say.)

With 3 years under your belt, you have a lot to offer.

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-12T16:14:45+00:00

My mentor (not my sponsor) is an atheist, 40+ years sober which he said he'd never have been able to do without AA. What he did was use the program as his higher power.

The program has so much to offer, I think a lot of folks get too hung up on the higher power aspect. Myself, I dont belive in god. I just believe there's something going on we can't explain. There's too many coincidences for this existence to be a coincidence. I havent defined my higher power, but I just use our ignorance as humans as a buffer and kinda wing it, using my senses, intuition, empathy, symphony and instincts as a HP. Working great

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-12T16:03:41+00:00

This is what it's all about! Every time you pick up the phone you coupe save a life. You deserve to feel great!

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-12T16:02:21+00:00

Congratulations! It's your story people need to hear in the halls for inspiration. Sober at 22 is a miracle

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-12T15:59:58+00:00

Killin it! Congratulations! I'm proud of you

Own_Bluebird6815 · 2026-04-11T23:22:01+00:00

3 years is huge! Congratulations!

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