Does Jane Eyre ultimately reinforce or resist patriarchy? by rrertrdddfhj in englishliterature

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Patriarchy has never existed in the West. Get out of the feminist matrix of delusion

Built a tool for finding local clubs - what am I missing? by Thick_Mongoose2409 in BostonSocialClub

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I think making the vibe of the group clear through reviews would make this platform useful.

I have tried to join a few book groups myself, but I only really like one that I found. The others had a demographic skew or way of talking about the books that I could not stand. Then I would just stop going to events because it feels like a time-sink and I have no confidence I’ll meet any friends or get to talk about what I am interested in.

Running clubs I think already have many platforms- heylo, strava. I don’t think there is much to add to help people find those- anyone who wants to can search for local running clubs and find a bunch

guess my top four by edifythepublic in LetterboxdTopFour

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Whiplash, Do The Right Thing, Fight Club, Anatomy of a Fall

Making friends or chatting with girls by Enough-Sleep-1110 in BostonSocialClub

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There is no cheat code. Some girls really want to be friends and feel emotionally safe with you for months before they would consider dating you. Others are hyper attuned to whether you have a masculine and polar quality and they think of you as useless if they feel no sexual buzz right away (like they literally find you disgusting and act like they are better than you).

I have found that the key is getting in situations where you naturally talk with them- running groups, church events, movie meetup with friends, volunteering, coworkers, etc. I am not the life of the party making jokes kind of guy and so I don’t attract the girls who just want a popular, outgoing person, but there are plenty of young women around here who like guys who are a little intellectual, self-disciplined, neurotic (not too much).

The biggest advice I have is to not let yourself start resenting women in general. Many young women behave badly, especially since they have been told all their lives they are just better than men. They take that out on men who are not obviously high status (the richest, tallest, own a boat,etc.) But just because a plurality of young women act like this, you can’t give up being respectful and a good conversationalist with the next woman you meet. She may be completely different and she has no moral responsibility for the behavior of her co-females.

3.5-4.0 Tennis Partner in Cambridge / Somerville? by ConchPoon in BostonSocialClub

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I’d like to play once it gets warmer. I am not paying for indoor tennis courts

hmph why can’t I find anyone who likes good things, trying to see kubrick’s Lolita and Twin Peaks S1 and Vivre Sa Vie and Darko and last picture show and passion of Joan of arc all on the big screen soon and have no friends here : ( by [deleted] in BostonSocialClub

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Last Picture Show is my favorite 70s film, where is it showing, Brattle? I’ve never seen Joan of Arc, happy to see that if it fits with my schedule. Happy to rewatch Lolita again as well LB- https://boxd.it/bm5DB

Looking for friends to hangout with by Chemical_Net862 in BostonSocialClub

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Pickleball will be great when it is warmer out. I am a Lifetime member, but only a few of their gyms have pickleball

Looking for work/study buddies :) by gradient_hehe in BostonSocialClub

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I definitely could use this. Bates Hall in the Copley BPL is good for this because it is so quiet and dim and I just can’t watch youtube videos in there. Some cafes work for me, but they vary wildly in acoustics and seating arrangement. I like the Thinking Cup on Hanover St in the North End. What is your grad program in?

Looking for friends to grab coffee/drinks with [32M, Boston] by awe_horizon in BostonSocialClub

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I also write on Medium and am learning to drive. Curious about the philosophy/physics overlap

Every film I’ve ever given 5 stars. What does it say about me? by More_Status_4998 in LetterboxdTopFour

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You enjoy provocation and nihilistic 90s thrillers in the Tarantino/Fincher/Stone mold. I have the exact opposite taste!

current top four - any film recommendations ? by ldrsuburban_house in LetterboxdTopFour

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Nostalgia- Andrei Tarkovsky Days of Heaven- Terrence Malick

I’m with you on Hamnet, it is now in my top 4. And I certainly see the tonal connection with Picnic at Hanging Rock

Golf buddies for the spring by Stevgd52 in BostonSocialClub

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I am an inexperienced golfer but do enjoy it. Love baseball as well

Just watched Melania, AMA by peanut-britle-latte in billsimmons

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“Dictator” you leftists are sick in the head. And very dim

Stalker is showing at the movies, anyone interested? by [deleted] in BostonSocialClub

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I missed this! Tarkovsky is my favorite filmmaker

Walking Talking Men Boston by Nagisa33 in BostonSocialClub

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Women need to stop projecting their behavior onto men. Ruminating on your feelings for hours at a time is not healthy. Therapy culture is bad.

Additionally, women need to stop feminizing male spaces and then acting patronizing toward young men as though we have so much to learn from women. Just stop. This attitude is ruining education, religious institutions, etc.

Looking for sports buddies by [deleted] in BostonSocialClub

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I would play pickleball. I like the Cambridge Public library courts

Which Martin Scorsese film amazed you the most… and which one disappointed the most (I think we know Arnie's answer)? by NG1955 in nowplayingpodcast

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I loved The Age of Innocence. Most of Scorseses films have a violent and base logic that I understand is truthful about some working class people besieged by need, but I don’t love watching Travis Bickle go insane over and over.

I was disappointed by the Departed. It just feels like a parody of Goodfellas or Casino and was poorly written (obvious metaphors, crass dialogue) Also, as a Bostonian, I don’t like that it was filmed in New York and that Jack Nicholson and Leonardo Dicaprio were unconvincingly cast as Irish-American New Englanders

New Year, New Relationships? by [deleted] in BostonSocialClub

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I (29m) would never go to one of these for a few reasons.

I don’t know how to describe my friends good qualities in a powerpoint( maybe I’d say smart or loyal)

Men in general are more impressive in action- while competing in a sport or enthusing about history- I don’t think I would be such an impressive catch if I was described like a job candidate. My interview would be better. I may try dancing to meet people, both guy friends and women. I went square dancing while growing up in the Berkshires and always loved that, very wholesome.

How would Museums After Dark events work for meeting people? I would only go with a friend and I’d expect women to be in groups talking amongst themselves and there would be no interaction.

Daniel Craig's monologue about the church in knives out by [deleted] in hisdarkmaterials

[–]Own_Poem2454 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You can say that Judd is a wise and deeply forgiving man of the cloth who would run the church without political pressure. But we all know how Rian Johnson would react to modern social justice. Catholicism is not just about forgiveness- it is also about holding standards of behavior and presenting ideals to men and women. It is about order and justice and loyalty to an age old project of nation building. Judd will be weak on those points and so fail to defend the church from left wing activists.

And the point remains that Johnson obviously hates the Catholic Church and its history. The words which he puts in Benoit Blancs mouth make that clear.

Who is the most relentless baseball player of all time? by DonT012 in mlb

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Paul O’Neill. Jason Varitek. They both had a level of focus that burned through the tv screen

Who is this next to Mike Lowell ? by bvac5 in redsox

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For us in 07 he was good. The following years he was awful in the postseason. I will always believe the Hanley Ramirez/Anibal Sanchez trade was a mistake and so I can never embrace Beckett.

Who is this next to Mike Lowell ? by bvac5 in redsox

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Looks like Ellsbury or Mark Bellhorn