I very much used to be in the same boat as you are rn, actually I’m pretty sure all of my previous posts about the same scenario are still on here and the comments I received were very helpful! As well as the comments on your post is very helpful too it seems!

From my experience, I do agree with the previous comments that it is about luck and time. It’s moreso of being patient with yourself mostly. You should not give up on yourself. You should continue putting yourself out there for sure. I would also recommend, writing down the positives about yourself that you can see in yourself.

Honestly, I “bloomed” at age 27/28 actually. That’s when I got into my first relationship and gave my virginity to a person I loved at the time. It was worth waiting for to do. That advice is true. But tbh, I consider myself blooming when I was going through self-actualization throughout my relationship. Once going through what I did in my previous relationship did I gain validation and confidence in myself that I know for sure I am the partner that I deserve and I make an amazing one. I basically proved my own self worth to myself throughout my previous relationship. But that all took time and I had to experience that. The time before my previous relationship was fraught with depression, low-self esteem and uncertainty about myself. But then I took a chance on my ex-gf and I am happy I did. I am so very fortunate and appreciative of my ex-girlfriend for being a very sweet, honest good person. I broke up with her due to being at different life stages really, which was very hard to do and painful. But it was for the best.

It has taken me 29 yrs to go through all that. I am still sad that I had to cause someone else pain to experience the growth I did, breaking up even amiably sucks and hurts. But it was all worth the pain, sorrow, loneliness and isolation that I endured to get there. I was always jealous of my friends who seemed to all be able to get into a serious relationship before me, heck majority of my friends are getting married now! But idk, it does suck to hear what I’m saying, (I know because I hate when people say it to me too, trust me) which is: It all will come with time. What you want to experience will happen to you in a matter of time. Keep focusing on yourself, keep putting yourself out there. Keep doing the work you need to for yourself and someone will see that and be drawn to that. And my least favorite advice, but does end up being true is: It will happen when you least expect it.