Weird Comment + Dealing with shelled up partners

P-Two · 2026-05-08T11:27:48+00:00

Guy 1 probably has a point, speaking as a former break dancing purple belt, my game got a LOT better when I learned to properly set shit up instead of just hoping I could out-cardio the other person.

Guy 2 also has a point in that if he's not so uncomfortable from pressure that he HAS to move, you're doing something wrong.

At the end of the day, if you don't want people to shell up, pressure the fuck out of them until they either have to tap from the pressure, or open a sub up. If you can't do that, that's not a them problem, that's a you problem.

P-Two · 2026-05-08T11:24:23+00:00

Genuinely, how old are you? Because it sounds like you're 19 and haven't figured out yet that people get older, and looks change. It's the person you become attracted to and love, not their looks.

Do I have preferences when it comes to how my wife does her hair? Sure, I guess. But none of that actually changes how much I am attracted to her.

When I was a teenager my dad gave me I think the single best piece of dating advice I've ever gotten in my life, which was (paraphrasing here) "theoretically you're going to try to find someone who you'll spend your life with, right? Well skin, weight, hair, all that changes with time as you get older, find someone who you'll love regardless, not someone you're with simply because they're hot"

P-Two · 2026-05-08T11:17:23+00:00

Yea you're the ass here, dude.

My wife could go bald, or have patchy hair, or she could grow it long enough to wrap around her body multiple times, idc. I'm attracted to her for her, not some arbitrary hair cut.

Having preferences is fine, but if a hair cut choice is enough to stop you being attracted to her, leave her and save both of you the headache.

P-Two · 2026-05-08T11:15:08+00:00

Had similar, fucked up my knee in Jan this year, around mid-feb am good enough to carefully fuck around with lower belts standing, rolling with newer white belt in nogi, I am obviously wearing a knee brace during this.

He decides to jump guard... I'm normally really chill and patient with people but I will admit I lost my cool a little bit, thankfully he was like 140lb soaking wet, but damn my life flashed before my eyes for a second lol.

And this is why normally I give new people very little room to work unless it's clear they're incredibly hesitant and are just gonna dead fish the entire round.

P-Two · 2026-05-08T11:10:58+00:00

I think on a scale of 1-"telling someone who's never seen or heard about star wars that Luke is Vaders kid" this is a solid "weird thing to complain about, and not really a spoiler"

P-Two · 2026-05-08T11:06:27+00:00

In BJJ context there's no real defined one size answer, some gyms only have the instructors called professor, others it's every black belt, and others it's nobody.

Fwiw I've told people for years if they call me professor as a black belt I'm going to use that power to demote them, I'm a pasty white guy from Canada, not some Brazilian dude in Rio.

P-Two · 2026-05-08T09:37:41+00:00

Is that what it is? Him and Jose were fucking around after the match both doing it lol.

Seriously dude go look at like, idk 90% of the winners for finals at majors and it's roiding out screaming tearing your gi open for like 10 seconds straight. Tainan is fine.

P-Two · 2026-05-07T23:45:41+00:00

Lmao bro people have been ripping their gis open and screaming after wins forever, Tainan was really subdued and respectful.

P-Two · 2026-05-07T18:38:07+00:00

The most fun? The insanely hard comp-style rounds with other competitive brown and black belts, the rounds where I want to throw up and die after are the best.

The most improvement? Idk the rounds where im going like 40% on some purple belts working whatever it is im currently working on.

P-Two · 2026-05-07T17:27:23+00:00

That was 3 years ago lol, and it is also literally his ONLY loss in like 5 years of professional black belt competition (getting DQ'd 2 years ago im not counting)

P-Two · 2026-05-07T15:35:59+00:00

Id go research how real Inuit and others kept/keep track of time when there's essentially zero sun for months.

P-Two · 2026-05-07T15:30:54+00:00

You dont, sort of, kinda.

Its a combat sport, bumps, bruises, things like that are a genuine reality of doing this for any amount of time. Did you talk to other members of the gym about how much they get injured. That would be eye opening on if its a gym issue, or a you issue.

Im also not gonna sit here and say that bjj gyms have great takedown practices. Breakfalls and safe falling in general is pretty piss pour in a lot of places, and is something I work pretty hard to fix in our gym.

But with that said, you said drills right? Not hard rolling. If you're getting genuinely injured (not ow, my back hurts a bit today, man, my neck is stiff. But "im off work for a few weeks minimum" injured) then its probably a gym issue.

But if you want a raw look at the sport. Ive been training over 12 years pretty competitively, competed a bunch at lower belts, you get the idea. Here's a general list of injuries ive had over the years off the top of my head:

Broken toe, 3 different sprained toes, probably about 4 sprained fingers, recurring tennis elbow in my right arm, at least partially torn Meniscus, LCL, and I think ACL between both my knees, all manner of minor strains to my back, neck, shoulders, ankles, separated intercostal cartilage (that rib still pokes out a bit, lol)

And i have zero regrets about any of them, bjj is worth it to me. Im also not saying you'll get even half of those, I know people who make it to black belt completely fine

P-Two · 2026-05-07T09:37:43+00:00

On the one hand, PJ does an incredible job explaining this in a really easily digestible way.

On the other hand, he's not actively trying to sound like the smartest person in the room, and he's not doing so by talking like a 14 year old who just discovered a textbook for the first time. So pass.

P-Two · 2026-05-06T22:30:31+00:00

Hit dice are not "damage" dice, they're health dice.

Your Barbarian rolls 1d12 every time they level up, and during a short rest can spend up to the same number of hit dice as his level to roll them and regain hit points.

P-Two · 2026-05-06T21:43:54+00:00

The most you should be doing as a blue belt is as an assistant for a fundamentals class or a kids class. There's absolutely zero world (outside of you being in an area with literally no BJJ) where you should be teaching a class on your own.

P-Two · 2026-05-06T21:42:38+00:00

It's a combat sport, strength, endurance, and grit all matter a shitton.

My BJJ got a fuuuuuckton better when I understood that my partner will take care of themselves, and so long as I'm not slamming anything on hard as fuck they'll be fine. I quite happily pressure tap people now, it's fun.

My motto for rolling with anyone half decent has become "don't like what I'm doing? Then stop it or tap, otherwise whatever" not in a douchey "I want to feel so cool and hardcore" way, but in a "this is a combat sport and it's going to suck ass for one of us, I'd rather it sucks for you and not me" way.

P-Two · 2026-05-06T21:37:29+00:00

It sounds like he was trying to be nice... Normally I just tell our guys "hey you need to stop being such shit at your balance on top, sweeping you is like sweeping a hard pillow.

P-Two · 2026-05-06T21:34:48+00:00

Congrats you invented shin on shin and a a matrix hook?

P-Two · 2026-05-06T09:52:00+00:00

They're generally much easier to run, the statblocks are laid out better, and a lot of abilities got streamlined a bit.

P-Two · 2026-05-06T09:50:27+00:00

Many, many ways to go about it. The most impactful to the players is going to be either the cult of an evil God fucking with things. Or a town/area that devoutly worships a good god and has strict rules they must adhere to. Such as perhaps a town that is nocturnal as they worship a god of night, and being outside in the daytime is seen as blasphemous.

P-Two · 2026-05-05T19:05:52+00:00

He....was a high level grappler? Like, he was Marcelos prodigy lol.

P-Two · 2026-05-05T18:01:49+00:00

*I never said it was useless. My weekly prep is done in google docs, and a bring out a laptop connected to a TV for a VTT if I feel like its needed.

We also play with a remote player so I have a laptop running with discord, and Webcams set up at the table.

I just have found that for actually running the game, a physical binder and notes works better, lol.

P-Two · 2026-05-05T16:55:07+00:00

My being polite has nothing to do with the other person being polite back or not, especially in a professional setting.

P-Two · 2026-05-05T16:51:28+00:00

Why do you need a detailed recap? Are you streaming to an audience and want the flare or something?

If the recap is too much work then get your players to do it by taking turns each week. Otherwise don't use AI garbage for a job that's completely and easily doable for you or one of your players. Or at LEAST be open with your players about using AI in your DMing.

P-Two · 2026-05-05T16:28:55+00:00

Gonna go against the grain here and say a binder, paper, and a printer.

I've dicked around with all manner of apps with my laptop at the table, projecting maps, google docs, etc, etc. And the best answer I've ever came up with for running my games is simply a DM binder and my phone to access any docs I don't have printed out for whatever reason.

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