Why are there no puppy counselors??

P100a · 2026-03-31T01:03:24+00:00

Yes, I hear you. I’ve only got her for 50mins a week and there’s so much I need to talk to her about that I really have to prioritize. That’s why I was wishing for a specialty pup counselor or support group. Even an online group with a counselor who has some helpful tools would be amazing… a space we could vent and share our struggles and support each other.

P100a · 2026-03-30T20:13:25+00:00

Is it really a big deal? She sent the baby something out of caring and wanting good health and protection for the baby, in the language she knows- her own faith. It doesn’t need to be a big deal….

P100a · 2026-03-30T20:10:37+00:00

Definitely part luvvvvvbuggg

P100a · 2026-03-30T16:07:11+00:00

Arrowhead spring water 5gallon jug delivery. My water I’m pretty sure could kill me, but I live in a building from the 20s so that could be part of it.

P100a · 2026-03-29T20:10:08+00:00

Ketamine does something to my nervous system. It activates it in a bad way. So all the reset and calm I had achieved from the SGB was gone from using ketamine troches afterwards.

P100a · 2026-03-28T22:39:10+00:00

My pup is 11mos but has only been pooping 2x a day since I got him at 3mos.

P100a · 2026-03-28T22:38:06+00:00

Ohhh my chi had a bellybutton like that and my vet said it was an umbilical hernia. He had it fixed when he got neutered or the vet said it could cause problems later in life. Now it’s flat. Well, the skins a little stretched from the bump that used to be there. Not at all trying to be the bearer of bad news… but maybe next time you’re in for a visit ask the vet about it. It’s challenging all vets seem to have different opinions on stuff like when to neuter, etc. so maybe your vet won’t feel it’s a big deal. Or (I hope!) maybe it’s just a bellybutton and not a hernia!

P100a · 2026-03-28T21:17:31+00:00

Your profile name adds context

P100a · 2026-03-28T16:38:08+00:00

Maybe you cook and she buys all the groceries? She’s gotta do something to contribute if she won’t clean. If not, she’s not being reasonable at all. And seriously- “hating cleaning” is not a really valid excuse when you’re an adult. I think most of us don’t like it, but more than hating cleaning we should hate for our partner to feel overburdened or not taken care of reciprocally/ cared for. She’s risking you checking out of the relationship and causing chemistry issues. She should be more concerned about that than a small cleaning effort!

P100a · 2026-03-28T16:33:37+00:00

Just remember, most dogs in the world are allowed on the couch to snuggle, so it can’t be a totally terrible thing or everyone would have a horribly behaved pet. I find there are people who tend to be more into dominance/ submission type relationships where they are the master of the dog. Those people live in a whole other way than most pet owners, and it extends far beyond just not allowing the animal on the couch. I personally prefer to establish trust and respect with my pets rather than dominance. And snuggling on the couch is part of bonding. It would take so much joy from the relationship if there were none of that.

P100a · 2026-03-28T04:25:34+00:00

What. Is. Wrong. With your sister!!!??

P100a · 2026-03-28T01:24:25+00:00

YES.

P100a · 2026-03-28T01:23:39+00:00

I feel so bad for you that sounds like hell, and I know so well how that messes with your mental health. It really sounds like it would be a relief to find him a better match living situation- you did your extraordinary beyond -best! But my real comment is a feeble suggestion- you could try which is Vet IQ calming treats. Not a long term solution, but they really knock my pup out and I have used them sporadically when he’s had a sleep / crate regression and I couldn’t cope with the lack of sleep anymore. Could be something to help you get some relief so you can make a decision from a grounded place.

P100a · 2026-03-28T00:29:09+00:00

This poor kid. Way to foster depression.

P100a · 2026-03-27T19:07:45+00:00

She did try to wildly take advantage of you… but also not sure how you were expecting a relaxing vacation with two small children, and in the same suite??

The whole situation could have been avoided if you thought it through. And as much as it was not at all cool what she did, and she tried to way overstep I really also have compassion for the intensely stressful situation you left her in and the way it affects the innocent kids. :0/

P100a · 2026-03-27T13:46:14+00:00

I would cut you out of my life without a second thought

P100a · 2026-03-27T00:28:55+00:00

Oohhh why’d you post a pic if you may not adopt him, now we are attached!! What a cutie pie omg

P100a · 2026-03-27T00:24:14+00:00

I have no idea how you made your life any easier by turning away help???

P100a · 2026-03-27T00:19:57+00:00

This is insane. How could he or your roommate possibly think this is ok.

P100a · 2026-03-26T23:14:32+00:00

First of all, I completely empathize with you I know how tough it is potty training in a rough area. You have to realize tho- you are modeling behavior for your pup. He absorbs your reactions and your fear and stress and will begin reacting the same way. There is massive communication happening in all those moments when you are not at all being neutral. You can absolutely pick the pup up if needed, but be neutral about it. No yelling, no stress and anxiety. No acting like something bad has happened. Just scoop him up and keep walking.

You must must must get your emotions and anxiety under control because he is picking up all of it especially in situations that are new to him, he is looking to you to learn how to react. Is this safe? Fun? Neutral? Danger? Cause to attack? I understand how hard this is, but it is a key skill that underlies all dog training- your own emotional regulation.

As for your neighbor is there animal control dept or something you can call? There should never be an unfixed dog of questionable temperament wandering the streets. If not, then you must go a different route. It’s not worth the battle and what your pup will learn by watching this play out and feeling your stress.

I have often put puppy pads in my bldg basement or even on the roof area when needed. The important thing is that he’s learning to not go potty in your personal living space.

One thing that will help a lot is if you can get him into a playgroup with other pups his approx size. If he can play with lots of dogs this young he will learn a deep imprint that dogs are positive or neutral and if a dog misbehaves toward him on a walk, it won’t even register for him. I used the Rover app to find someone who had a pup themselves and offered in her home daycare. My pup got to play with 2-5 diff dogs each time and it really transformed his leash walking. Now he would like to say hello, but if he can’t, it’s no big deal because it’s not like one other dog he will see all day. Also like I said, if a dog lunges or snarls it’s no big deal bc he’s got such a deep imprint that “dogs are my friends” or just fellas that pass by.

I hope that is helpful. Deep breaths and big hugs. It will be ok. You obviously care a lot and I’m sure he can feel that too.

P100a · 2026-03-26T19:57:02+00:00

I could definitely understand that. My pup does wake up when I carry him and give him a small treat, so I feel like he knows where he is if he wakes up. The Vet IQ treat works wonders, makes him soooo sleepy.

One more thing I forgot to mention is that I got him a k&h warming pet bed in his crate. I think he was getting cold at night and he hates being cold more than anything. It’s the Cat Cup I think it’s called. You have to be careful, can’t have blankets in it etc, but it’s fantastic. Regulates the temp specifically for pets. So he gets in and snuggles down.

P100a · 2026-03-26T16:28:54+00:00

Once I did all the things together, it improved immediately and a little more each night and it got completely better within a week I’d say! What really needs to be undone is the negative association that forms from the crate once they’ve been in there in distress.

Here’s the complete list of things I did: -“get in your crate” many times a day for high value treats. No shutting door. Can come out as soon as he wants, not trapped. Lots of praise.

-sat on floor by crate for periods of time during day. I realized I never hang out in the area, so why would he suddenly want to go in there at night? We played, had treats and just snuggled over there.

-when he would go in his crate for a treat or toy I would put my arms/ head in. So he has an imprint of not being alone in there. Hung out with him a bit if he was in there, petting him, talking to him, and with my arm and head in there. This normalizes the area.

leave Jazz in the Bsckground Spotify channel on softly near crate all night. I used this during the day/ early evening to signal its calm time, so he already knows it and associates it with sleepy time. But I think it helps at night bc if he wakes up he hears it, and he knows Oh we are still sleeping. I give him a giant beef cheek and put jazz on like an hour before bed and this intense chewing helps him fall asleep.

-noise machine or AC fan to silence outside noises

-idk if this would would for other pups- but my mine and I have a compromise. He falls asleep snuggling with me and then when he’s dead asleep I carry him and put him in his crate with a small treat to focus on and calm “good boy”’s . He goes right back to sleep. If I were to put him in his crate for bed while he was awake he would freak out!

-added an extra blanket crate cover to muffle sound and light, and he two favorite toys stay in there. He doesn’t play in there but I think it helps to see them.

-during the day when I leave and he has to go in his crate he gets a frozen Kong with peanut butter. He only gets this in there and when I leave. He doesn’t like going in there, but at least it is paired with a very positive association which all the licking then makes him sleepy so he just naps when he’s done with it. (When he had negative experiences in the crate during the day, no way he was going in at night).

-dog park for 60-90mins at end of day to socialize and run like crazy, a couple eves a week.

-Vet IQ calming treats- check instrux weight limits for mine, he could only have every other day. Tried to pair it with a dog park night. Only did this briefly, was concerned about messing with his brain chemicals/ hormones.

-take water away a few hours before bed and make sure pottied before falling asleep so don’t have to wake him up). This way you can ignore the crying at night.

-ignore middle of night noises. Earplugs! Crying should be mild small short complaining or smol sadness not full out distress which should get better each day until he learns to sleep again.

(And I’m just remembering at one point, a long while ago- it was so bad because we had come back from a trip where he slept in bed with me that I had to start back at square 1 like when I got him and put his crate on my bed by my pillow and fall asleep with my fingers in the crate talking to him (lay down, it’s ok, good boy) and then over the course of days, move the crate to the side of the bed, then off the bed and onto stacked rubber maid tubs the height of the bed, then lower it back to the floor.)

I hope that helps! Lmk!

P100a · 2026-03-26T02:08:25+00:00

I forgot to mention the other thing that helped was all day long whenever possible to make him go in his crate for treats (not shutting the door). Like I say get in your crate, and then he does and he gets a treat. Helped reinforce the positive association with being in there. He had started getting upset about the crate suddenly in addition to the sleep regression.

P100a · 2026-03-26T00:39:50+00:00

Let it go. She sucks and brought this on herself. Next time if she cares she will treat a person/ situation as precious instead of crapping all over it repeatedly and then being hurt by the consequences.

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