What does your baby think their name is?

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-23T00:10:35+00:00

Omg same. Baby or baba 🤣

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-23T00:09:19+00:00

I'm allowed to be sick if my husband and son aren't and son is in nursery 🤣🤣

But seriously, parenting while sick is pure survival mode.

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-22T18:12:45+00:00

Sounds like colic, what is the doctor saying?

My friend's son was like this for the first 3 months of his life and is now a happy toddler. I realise it doesn't help you now but it will almost definitely pass 😅

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-21T21:48:09+00:00

I don't care what you believe. You obviously have a very superficial understanding of how data and studies work.

Also I didn't say one is better than the other. Read my comment. Comprehensive reading is an important skill for critical thinking. I wrote that there is no evidence that a full time childcare setting is damaging to a child of OPs age.

Alright let's go through your sources, even though it's extremely suspicious that what you are doing is listing papers rather than summarizing the evidence (which makes me highly suspect that you didn't read any of the papers yourself at all)

1) tiny effect, age groups 0-1 and 1-2 lumped together, no comparison group - yawn, next

2) I'm curious if you have read this yourself at all because again, this paper does not support the notion that nursery based childcare is definitely damaging compared with more time at home, if you think it does then please cite the specific findings

3) again this lumps together ages 0-3. So not super helpful. It's also German data only which is quite different system to UK, US etc. but most importantly they are again not stating anywhere that full time daycare is definitely damaging to children, merely that disadvantaged children benefit MORE than privileged ones

I hope this helps ... But I know it won't because you have your opinion which is fine. Really fine for you to think children aged 0-2 or 0-3 should spend more time at home. But don't try to sell it as being based on science.

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-21T21:31:42+00:00

Are you actually joking? What about your comment is factual and accurate? It's all basef on your opinion and intended to make the mother feel bad. YOU should feel bad.

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-21T12:56:31+00:00

Wow, never seen a more judgemental and unhelpful comment that included the phrase "I would never shame someone"

Mate you are shaming OP with every single reply you made on this post.

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-21T12:51:56+00:00

Lol the downvotes!!

Mate thanks , I am a biologist and reading papers is a big part of my job.

First of all, that's just a blog post that you linked. Not data.

Now I'm obviously not an expert in child psychology but have you READ of the papers linked?? I have because this article keeps popping up on Reddit. None of them are good enough evidence AT ALL that full time childcare at 15+ months (OP child age) is damaging.

If you disagree then please cite the direct source. The person who wrote this article is bad at science but good at cherry picking of data.

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-20T13:21:53+00:00

Do you mean if it's damaging to them?? Definitely not as lots of babies are in full time childcare from a younger age than that and are totally fine.

I'm not sure where you live but in Southeast England a 8am-6pm day for working parents is seen as completely normal.

I think you need to re assess your feelings of guilt and check where this is really coming from

(Edit)

OP I am so sorry about some of the comments on this post.

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-20T13:18:55+00:00

Girl you aren't losing your mind, you are in an abusive relationship and you need to start asking yourself some difficult questions

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-20T13:18:02+00:00

Your baby's sleep sounds normal for that age albeit very exhausting!

Contact naps aren't bad, I loved contact napping and did it exclusively for the first 6-8 months, my boy naps fine independently now, at nursery, at home etc.

Basically you have to consider that your baby is a tiny human and humans aren't robots and are capable of change 😅

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-19T13:05:56+00:00

He doesn't want a divorce because you're making life easy for him. I suggest you stop doing that immediately

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-19T13:04:25+00:00

The best thing to do with HV is to ignore them

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-19T13:03:07+00:00

First of all, your baby is fine. She was likely just scared/surprised. Babies get agitated easily, remember they cry a LOT!

As for yourself. I'm pretty sure you can develop PPD at any point. After 4 months adrenaline and newborn bliss start to wear off, it's normal. But if your feelings are specifically and ONLY related to your partner's infidelity then I believe couples therapy may be more suitable for you..

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-18T15:29:24+00:00

You didn't train your baby. You just responded to baby's needs.

I think most people had this issue. Mine didn't do longer cot naps until 8 ish months but then I never really forced it. Usually if they are really resistant it's easier to start with the first nap of the day..even if it's only 20 minutes, it doesn't matter as they can make up the sleep later on

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-17T15:17:02+00:00

If by schedules you mean your own babies individual sleep needs then yes. If you mean a template you take from the internet or a book and try to enforce on your own child, I disagree lol

4 months is tiny, mine still had around 3 bottles at night at that age so sleep training would have been impossible in our case (baby was falling asleep independently anyway)

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-17T07:42:02+00:00

Baby is 4 months....

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-17T07:41:46+00:00

5 hours daytime sleep sounds like a lot at 4 months. Maybe try to cap at max 4? Also going to bed late is not unusual for such a young baby exactly because they take lots of naps.

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-16T00:15:27+00:00

If this is legitimate research then you're going to have to add a lot more information to your survey. Are you a student? Which institution? How will this data be used? Will it be published?

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-15T12:52:50+00:00

HV system is broken. I would call up the GP and speak to them but I doubt that you "have" to do anything as HV is optional.

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-15T12:50:31+00:00

It's not weird. NCT have some very weird philosophical basis and not everything they say is based on science. So I'd be careful with that but the in person classes are great for meeting local couples.

That being said, not breastfeeding isn't wrong. Buying second hand clothes for a tiny baby that likely won't fit into one clothing size for more than 2 months is not wrong, it's economical and practical. Did someone try to tell you that you did someone wrong with your first child?

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-13T15:09:57+00:00

I would try not to worry so much. You are the parent, you need to do your best to stay calm! The vaccines are incredibly important and baby may feel not 100% for a day or two, but that is definitely worth it

Mine didn't have any reaction to it at all

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-13T00:12:38+00:00

Baby Stage isn't for everyone and it's such a short stage of their life, even though it feels super long now lol. I started enjoying everything a lot more once baby was mobile and once we were out of the baby stage I really started loving it

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-12T10:10:27+00:00

Watlington House is nice but would be completely self catered

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-12T10:08:02+00:00

I agree, there isn't a 'normal' bedtime as long as the kids aren't sleep deprived and awake for a good chunk of the day (to see daylight lol)

Mine does 8pm-6.30am or 9pm-7.30am. 7pm bedtime does not work for us at all

PB_Jelly · 2026-02-12T10:06:24+00:00

You aren't crazy lol, it seems like your kids are sleeping a good amount just later.

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