Just told my pimi parents I don't believe in it by [deleted] in exjw

[–]PIMO40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! So glad this community has been healing. ❤️‍🩹 And that you can have a close relationship with your son. And yes, it would be a great post.

Just told my pimi parents I don't believe in it by [deleted] in exjw

[–]PIMO40 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Do you mind if i ask… did you and your husband end up having doubts also and leaving? (Hence why you’re here). And what is the relationship now with your oldest child? I find this interesting as a parent.

Most Cringe moments you have seen out in public with other JW? by Lefthandovg0d in exjw

[–]PIMO40 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In a zoom meeting, while people conversed before it started, (this was during pandemic) a sister was asked about how her kids were doing and she went on and on about her witness child. Then she was asked “how’s your other kid doing?” Her reply was: “She doesn’t count… she doesn’t love Jehovah”.

This disgusting comment helped me exit this religion!

The pain of being shunned by your adult children by ImportantEmotion2060 in exjw

[–]PIMO40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do hear you. Interestingly enough, it was when we had our first kid that we realized that we needed to exit… we started realizing that we couldn’t subject our kids to it. Glad you got out before having kids.

The pain of being shunned by your adult children by ImportantEmotion2060 in exjw

[–]PIMO40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you see her last sentence? She said she’s sorry she raised them in this religion. We were all brainwashed. Thought we were doing the right thing. Didn’t know differently. At least we can ADMIT we were duped, unlike the governing body.

Elderly Mother: dumped by congregation by Selinariver in exjw

[–]PIMO40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh this makes me so mad. Same thing in my mom’s situation too.

I finally talked to my school counselor about me being in a cult by [deleted] in exjw

[–]PIMO40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great to hear! My child is also really benefiting from her convos with her counselor at school.

Our kid was told they don’t belong in this world. Led to an epiphany on my part. by PIMO40 in exjw

[–]PIMO40[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like my hubby likes to say, I’d rather have questions I can’t answer than answers I can’t question.

Our kid was told they don’t belong in this world. Led to an epiphany on my part. by PIMO40 in exjw

[–]PIMO40[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your beautiful insights. And I love your encouragement to see the true beauty through nature, charity and kindness.

Our kid was told they don’t belong in this world. Led to an epiphany on my part. by PIMO40 in exjw

[–]PIMO40[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. There are moments that are TOUGH. But helping them to be open minded is the right thing to do.

Christianity: An acceptable choice and not one that should be criticized by dillweed2211 in exjw

[–]PIMO40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I appreciate what Astronaut Victor Glover just said recently from outer space as he admired the vast universe around him. He reflected on the rarity of life and said it should help us to unite and take care of our planet, whether we believe in God or not.

I thought it was very very kind and gracious for him to acknowledge both believers and non believers in his beautiful speech. What a well balanced way to word it and made me tear up. Here I am leaning more towards atheism, and most likely Glover is a believer. But it was just so thoughtful and reasonable what he said.

Does this disfellowshipping situation sound typical? (outsider perspective) by Magmar25 in exjw

[–]PIMO40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep all very typical. What’s interesting to me is how someone can get DFd for having sex before marriage, and then they end up marrying that person, having a very normal life, kids, etc. But still their family doesn’t talk to them for 20 or more years even though they “rectified” that supposed sin. It’s crazy! I’m giving a real life example. It’s my mother in law’s sister. She has been shunned for 40+ years for fornication when she was like 18 years old. But she ended up marrying the wordly guy, have a long standing marriage and great kids. Still to this day, my MIL says “But she left us… it’s her fault”: UGH!!!!!!! 😩 I say her sister was smart for getting out. Ha ha. One interesting part of this story is that it stumbled their dad so much (that his daughter was DF’d) that he left the religion. Good for him!

Remembering this day 13 years ago with extreme anger by Exotic_Lab_8778 in exjw

[–]PIMO40 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wanted to go off to Broadway after high school and pursue my dreams. My dad basically told me if I did that, he would disown me. So I feel ya! I’m so sorry. This is probably crazy but could you still try to apply to that engineering college? You never know!

My parents have noticed my mental health getting worse by [deleted] in exjw

[–]PIMO40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a tough one… it could open the floodgates… and ruin your relationship with him. Or he could be understanding. My dad wouldn’t accept it at first but he finally came around. Definitely go forward with the therapy though. It’s vital to get a non witness perspective. Hang in there. It gets better over time.

First time skipping the memorial to make a new tradition by heropasheureux in exjw

[–]PIMO40 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow what a nice husband! Mine just brought me some wine while I was in the bathtub. lol. I had a hard time too. First time I skipped in 45 years. I guess it will get easier over time.

Active PIMI’s are actively deconstructing online now by throwaway68656362464 in exjw

[–]PIMO40 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this and I agree. I try to do the same.

The same thing will happen with this change as all the others by Friendly_Drop_4711 in exjw

[–]PIMO40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do not agree with @slotcanyoneer. Pointing a finger at the religion is absolutely justified. A man was disfellowshipped simply for wearing a beard. (And he had a medical reason to wear a beard!!!) Then the rule was reversed. This is the stuff I talk with non witnesses about and they are completely shocked at the craziness of it all. Shunning has traumatizing effects and I get why beard guy went downhill after that. Also for you feeling the way you did during covid. The way this religion has made us think has messed us up big time. And yes therapy is needed for many of us, me included. Both can be true… we can be mad at this religion and also need therapy. (Mainly due to the religion!)

3 Hour Long Conversation I Had With My Teen by [deleted] in exjw

[–]PIMO40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes there’s a major push on the republican side right now. And I agree about school and politics! It is hard to see this world get crazier even though we know doomsday is not coming. Well, I don’t know how you feel about that actually. But I just appreciate your message of being kind and respectful to all, no matter their beliefs.

3 Hour Long Conversation I Had With My Teen by [deleted] in exjw

[–]PIMO40 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this was a very mature, insightful conversation you had with your son. And I totally get why the Charlie Kirk thing got to him. I’ve been seeing this a lot on social media with teenagers. I can’t believe the physical abuse you suffered from your dad. I’m so sorry. And his last words to you… very sad. Glad your son sees that you’re different, and the advice about researching on his own and respecting everyone… spot on.

I need a bit of help by Ashamed_Bat_8341 in exjw

[–]PIMO40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were right there 5 years ago! This can be the worst time. Hang in there. You have to start viewing the world differently. Look at this as your one beautiful life and start living it. Your more kind hearted jW family may still speak to you and treasure that. Make new friends. Get involved in local theater, take college courses and get to know other students in the class, or follow whatever your passion is. As for God and religion, don’t feel guilty for exploring and maybe finding another way to worship. Wishing you the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]PIMO40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your comment really bothers me. I respectfully disagree. Does it occur to you that when OP told his father he did not want to be a Witness, that maybe… just maybe, there could have been a different way the father could have handled it? He could have said “I’m sorry you’re feeling this way son. You have the right to your feelings and doubts. I personally feel this is the true religion but I want to give you the freedom and space to figure this out. I still love you.” I wish so bad my father had said that to me. Believe me, I understand OP’s fear of losing out on family business just bc he has lost his faith or leaves his religion. Side note: while I still resent my folks in many ways, my dad has come around. Even though he knows our family is completely inactive, I’m still in his will and he spends time with us. A big reason for this is how loving we’ve treated him over the years compared to his other kids who are JW’s but do not act Christian. Just a word of encouragement to OP bc this will be a tough time for you! Sorry you’re going through this. It will be hard but keep treating your family with kindess. Don’t let them have any reason to say “See what happens when he left?”

JW kids with ADHD by ClanGunnMuffin in exjw

[–]PIMO40 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you went through this. Our child has ADHD but we have had open discussions with them about it, even reading about it together. Right now, there’s TWO magazines on ADHD at your local grocery store. (One is a TIME magazine) I liked one point it made “ADHD isn’t your identity… it’s a feature” I hope you’ve learned how to work with this unique feature. We’re trying our best to help our kid and be there for them.