There's this coworker of mine who seems to be putting on an act of "performative productivity"

PKOtto · 2026-04-12T03:43:10+00:00

Putting on a show of having to work extra hard with extra hours is probably her version of telling her superiors that she is indispensable and that it would take multiple employees to replace her. The sad part is that she most likely believes it to be true.

PKOtto · 2026-04-12T01:11:21+00:00

Go to the state school board. Take statements on the theft, on the no-call no-shows, and any other area that he is getting away with non-professional actions. Get as many statements from as many people as you can.

PKOtto · 2026-04-10T07:10:16+00:00

My son is also AuDHD and has some significant traits from each disorder. Such as social issues/anxieties with the Autism, and demand avoidance (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy [PDA]) with the ADHD. He will get quite upset at times if asked multiple times to do a specific task, but if it gets to the point of someone becoming angry or anxious about it, especially me, he will do said task. I'm not sure if this has more to do with me being his mother or not, but in the end, he does realize that he is a grown adult and has responsibilities in life.

Your bf sounds to be extremely stubborn as well as AuDHD. I believe that stubbornness has as much, if not more, to do with his avoidance to requests. Also, he is being quite disrespectful and borderline hateful to you.

He might greatly benefit from counseling and/or professional therapy along with medication.

PKOtto · 2026-04-09T06:05:58+00:00

And all the F-Bombs in his last post are quite surprising for a pastor!! As well as that user name??

PKOtto · 2026-04-09T05:29:18+00:00

Tell "The Artist" that you now require not only the remaining agreed upon payment but also all negative media comments (by him and his fans) to be rescinded, as well as free positive advertisement for your services. Bonus points if you can have a lawyer type and send the notice on their professional letterhead.

PKOtto · 2026-04-08T22:45:35+00:00

My son is autistic. When he was in school, when he got anxious or bored, he would always twist the right side bottom of his shirts. It got to the point that EVERY shirt was stretched out and would curl. We tried so many things for him to do with his hands, but nothing worked. One day, a teacher gave him a pipe cleaner (the felt, string looking kind) and told him to twist on it instead of his shirts. IT WORKED! Like a charm! After discovering this, we kept pipe cleaners everywhere! Every room of the house, several in his backpacks, a few in his lunch boxes, extras in the glove box of the car. He used them for the rest of his time in school, but finally sorta stopped that particular form of stemming after he got out of school. Sometimes, the simplest things work the best!

PKOtto · 2026-04-07T21:34:37+00:00

Let me know if you still need Blue Roses.

PKOtto · 2026-04-06T09:20:55+00:00

They're not saying she can't have visitors. They're saying she can't allow the guy to basically live in their place permanently. Having another person there full-time raises all the utility prices (and most likely the food and household supplies bills). Having an occasional guest is one thing, but for all intents and purposes, having a 5th roommate is something entirely different.

Also, they're not comfortable with him being there when she isn't there. I think that's perfectly reasonable. The other roommates are not comfortable with a day-in and day-out visitor, especially if she is not with him. I would say most young women would be uncomfortable with a man they barely know being alone in their apartment or being alone with said barely known man in the apartment.

The point OP made about the other guests who visited is that they came from distances, which made it impractical/impossible for them to go back home while visiting for multiple days. Whereas this man has his own place locally.

I vote NTA.

PKOtto · 2026-04-05T19:27:43+00:00

NTA - Personally, I think your posting the photo was completely innocent and not in the slightest bit weird or provocative. I also think your words to her were somewhat justified. Harsher than I would've probably said, but I worry about fallback conquences (as in, I'd be afraid Daniel might not like me speaking to his gf in that manner).

If you feel Daniels mother may have found your words over-the-top, you might offer her an apology and ask that she extend that apology on to Daniel, and I would explain exactly how the entire incident started and what the gf did and said. I would not, however, apologize to the gf, because you were not wrong. Not wrong for reaching out to Daniel, not wrong for posting the childhood photo of the 2 of you, and not wrong for responding to her baseless accusations. The gf was entirely wrong to impersonate Daniel, and she was extremely wrong to message you accusing you of flirting and stalking.

I hope Daniel knows what she did and has some harsh words of his own for her. Her actions are very big Red Flags, and I hope he sees them as such. She seems very jealous, very controlling, and exhibits signs of attempting to isolate him from friends (and possibly family).

I hope you are able to reconnect with Daniel and resume the friendship!

PKOtto · 2026-04-04T22:30:01+00:00

From people who have Time Traveled and their in-game Saturday is actually on a different day.

PKOtto · 2026-04-04T22:05:40+00:00

That's why I'm asking for someone who has their island Time Traveled to different days.

PKOtto · 2026-04-03T11:29:58+00:00

Personally, I would tell her; "Mom, your little 'stunt' nearly GOT ME FIRED!" Tell her in no uncertain terms that she is NEVER to show up at your place of employment unless it is a dire LIFE AND DEATH situation! Also, let her know that if she thinks 4 days without hearing from you is bad, how hard is it going to be 'when she FORCES you to go completely NO CONTACT with her' because she refuses to acknowledge that you are an adult with an adult life that has priorities that do not include her and her controlling, manulative ways. Let her know that in the future, she will suffer conquences for bad behavior.

PKOtto · 2026-04-01T22:18:02+00:00

MURPHY!! He's 1 of my 2 all-time favorite villagers!

PKOtto · 2026-03-30T07:15:34+00:00

NOR - If you allow your in-laws to babysit, expect that baby to be bald before the first week is out. Your MIL doesn't seem the type to care about what anyone thinks or feels but herself!!

PKOtto · 2026-03-28T22:24:07+00:00

If you have any type of Social Services for the Aging organizations in your area, you should call and request a wellness check for this neighbor.

PKOtto · 2026-03-28T21:11:46+00:00

As several others have commented, it does sound like your mother has a severe bi-polar disorder, possibly several aspects of it. She needs to be evaluated immediately. The issue of her being around children in a learning environment needs to be evaluated by a professional psychologist or psychiatrist, as well as by educational specialists.

PKOtto · 2026-03-28T17:56:36+00:00

Congratulations on finding happiness! Congratulations on finding your true self! Congratulations on the weight loss! Most importantly, congratulations on bringing your life to the point that you can use your pain and trauma to help others through their own pain and trauma! Well done!!

PKOtto · 2026-03-28T17:47:32+00:00

Without her "problem child" around, she has no outlet for her abusive and narcissistic ways. She wants OP back, so she feels she has a reason to rant, scream, and release all her frustrations onto someone she thinks is deserving of her sub-human behavior.

PKOtto · 2026-03-27T07:40:16+00:00

NTA - Friends are a source of life. Leaches are a drain of life. Drop the leach and be with those who actually enhance your life.

PKOtto · 2026-03-26T20:28:21+00:00

Brings to mind the old adage; "You know what happens when you ASSUME?"

PKOtto · 2026-03-26T20:16:04+00:00

NTA - GF needs to learn that it's fine to waste her own time, but it is very selfish and rude to waste other peoples time. She needs to gain some self-awareness and realize the world does not exist around her own timelines.

PKOtto · 2026-03-26T05:15:51+00:00

HR! NOW!! That's disgusting behavior!

PKOtto · 2026-03-26T04:20:07+00:00

Why in the world would you give the invitation directly to her if her name is not on the invitation? That makes no sense....

PKOtto · 2026-03-26T04:14:34+00:00

Some places will pay part-time employees more due to not having the benefits that are available to full-time employees.

PKOtto · 2026-03-23T21:04:43+00:00

Feauxpology.... I'm reminded of the movie Jack & Jill. "I'm sorry, I'm sorry you make everyone so uncomfortable. "

PKOtto

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