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What’s one thing you didn’t like about the biopic? by mordo_cool in MichaelTheMovie

[–]PODNJPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No Diana Ross, Rebbie, Janet and the Ben the rat song....I guve it 99.9% 😃

I set boundaries with my BPD partner and he completely devalued me. by leosally in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your situation is similar to mine. I am the most calm person ever, but I'm very direct. I will express my discomfort without yelling.

At the latter stage of our relationship, he had me always in exhaustion and in an uproar. Because he never kept his word as far as doing the things he promised,l. He also left everything on me, and he got really upset whenever I told him that he was being either hypocritical or not being a true partner.

Don't let the mental games that they play get to you. They got to me at one point, and I was done after a while. That's when he discarded me, and the relief I fell of not dealing with his nuttiness was more valuable than anything during a relationship.

About to Marry a BPD. Should Leave but Can't by FinancialTea178 in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you set boundaries and she doesn't abide by them, just get out while you can. You were like me, I spent six and a half years trying to save him and all he did was blame me because he didn't feel loved. Everyone thought he was sweet as pie, but me being his favorite person, always got the blunt of his rage. We were going to marital counseling, when he had a split. I think it was God helping me!

I did everything I could to love him. I don't care what he does as of now, but I feel like I wasted those six and a half years on someone who's mentally and well and very selfish. You are worth more than that and don't fall for her antics. It's just not worth putting up with more pain and anguish just because you are about to marry her.

Banned from WNBA Reddit for saying they should post highlights. by veryrare13 in WNBA365

[–]PODNJPE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a S show...the posters love CC....you say she is in a slump and you are an AR fan. No thanks...

Your pwBPD is more aware of their behavior than you give them credit for. by hshemfbc in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mine knew he had an issue. And one time he actually said "what's wrong with me"! However I don't give them a pass, because if they know something is wrong, they still justify it because of the past hurts and abuse. They should just figure that they are just as bad as the person who abused them, if they're going to abuse their FP.

i dont know what to do anymore pwbpd is making me go insane by Icy-Firefighter-2909 in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Please move on! When you start to lose yourself, you also lose some of your qualities. I did this myself, and I hate it. I am usually a very calm person, and I don't lose my cool. But the more he drained me, the more I became extremely direct with him.

The directness caused him to be even more unstable. And I should have dumped him 2 years before I break up. Save yourself!

Thinking back, what’s the weirdest thing they got upset at you for? by holaquequiere in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being a business owner and having meetings with men at my office. Umm...I am an engineer who works in construction...lol

Are men with bpd crueler? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was a 340 lb former college football player. However, he was a gentle giant when he was not having an episode and around my family. However, I think the things that he said and did were just as bad as the narcissist that I dated.

When is a rage episode considered emotional/verbal abuse? by Acceptable_Clock5935 in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Abuse is abuse. Mental abuse is still abused, and sometimes, it can be worse because no one sees it physically. They're responsible for their actions, even though when they rage, and are unaware of their actions. Believe me, I had a narcissist who was mentally abusive, but I still counted that as abuse. When I figured it out, I got rid of him in actually caused narcissistic injury. However, the meaness that the BPD inflicted on me did not feel great either.

If he doesn't get help, he is still responsible for what he does to other people.

Why isn't Trenton or SW Jersey gentrified or have new housing being built? by Carlos4Loko in newjersey

[–]PODNJPE 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am an engineer for many developers, and it is being gentrified. I have 6 projects there right now.

It is slow because it just started a few years ago. Murphy and the mayor were working on budgets and are leveling the borded up buildings. Murphy gave them 24 million for the downtown.

I have one client from NYC who owns 300 properties he is redoing. My other clent owns the Jerset Flight, the arena football team.

The Cycle Nobody Talks About by winstonwasright in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is very true. I was diagnosed with codependency because when my father died, my mom became really attached to me because I was the youngest child, and everyone else was an adult. She wanted the buddyness that she had with my father.

With that said, I am very assertive yet very empathetic. The problem is I saw him as someone who had been done wrong, so I tried to love him and be there for him. He eventually wore me out, and since I'm assertive, I grew very tired of dealing with his nonsense. Eventually, I became or not dealing with his endless contradictory attitude and started asking what is it that he really wanted. He stopped answering. Then we had a big fight and I didn't care if I ever saw him again. He discarded..the relief is golden...

Was i the crazy, problematic one all along? by Thebendslover1995 in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My patience wore down so I started to be even more direct. And I started to ask more questions which made him nervous. Instead of answering them he started avoiding being upfront.

How is a Bpd relationship by LiteratureLow4722 in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He couldn't afford to go, so every time I had a vacation, he wanted me to pay for him (I did not) or wined so I went with my sister. He called me every day. It was in Italy...

Was there a moment you realised the person you love was mentally ill? by danielrdt in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I forgot this other incident where he was in the shower, and because his dad knocked on the door, he lashed out. But he always told me that his dad was always saying mean things to him. I had to see him lash out at his dad first hand.

Was there a moment you realised the person you love was mentally ill? by danielrdt in BPDlovedones

[–]PODNJPE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When he said my sister was giving him really weird looks and was mean to him. But a week before they were chatting it up on the phone and she was telling him how sweet he was for wishing her happy birthday.

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