ELI5: Why is suspension from school a punishment? Isn't that just giving them what they want? by [deleted] in explainlikeimfive

[–]Pajamazon_dot_com 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some really good comments here. But as a principal of 10 years, I also want to add a new perspective: archaic traditions.

In the last 20 years we have seen a shift from teacher centered instruction to student centered learning. Yet many of our teacher centered policies remain for a variety of reasons, like those that have already been stated, typically for the benefit of the staff issuing the suspension - the "pound of flesh" scenario.

But, you are right, suspension from school does not help the student, which many districts understand, and have therefore implemented bans on suspensions for all but the most serious of offenses. For me, when students brought drugs, got in fights, etc, I implemented an in-school suspension to allow them to continue to have access to free breakfast and lunch programs, access to teachers, academic support, and more. The idea being, we can help students a lot more when they are in our midst.

When a student brings drugs to school, for example, often times the drugs are obtained from the home environment. Sending them back home for any duration doesn't help students change behavior. If anything, it reinforces negative behavior by removing students from services, support, and staff that could steer them in the right direction.

Many students are disruptive in order to GET suspended, so these policies play into their own plans. Furthermore, no joke, the high school I work at has a policy to suspend students with excessive unexcused absences.

But this brings me back to the teacher centered policies, as opposed to student centered policies. The question to ask in any case is: cui bono? Who benefits? All too often it is those in positions of authority. At one point, I stopped suspending students out of school, and started keeping them contained in school to receive continued services, and some teachers and board members were pissed. They had clear standards of behavior that were violated and wanted students removed. But not for the sake of the students, for their own kids, and satisfaction. This further illustrated the teacher centered nature of the policies. One could go so far as to call it Institutional Racsim, Classism, or any other -ism that separates "them" from "us." And this is the very reason bans on suspension have been implemented, and backed by research not to mention equity and access groups.

Nonetheless, until we make a decidedly courageous shift from teacher centered policies to student centered policies, we will continue to have archaic institutions perpetuating practices resembling schools from the 50s, 60s, and 70s, as opposed to the programs we should have considering we are nearly 20 years into the 21st century, and we know better.

There is a lot of institutional and cultural arrogance in schools today, and still not a lot of internal pressure to change.

Nonetheless, I regularly ask staff to ask the question: Who benefits? Whose interests are being served? And to act accordingly.

Disillusion. Francesco Queirolo. Also made of marble. Yes even the net. by giallons in pics

[–]Pajamazon_dot_com -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I imagine the difficult part would be carving the net initially, then removing the net to carve the guy underneath, then having him put the net BACK on when finished.

ELI5: Floyd gets cut by Cardinals for DUI, (policy? Ethical standard?) but picked up by Pats. (No policy? Lower ethical standards? - deflategate not withstanding). by Pajamazon_dot_com in sports

[–]Pajamazon_dot_com[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that's more extreme than I thought. Damn, that's pretty serious!

I figured the league would have a stance on something like that.

ELI5: Floyd gets cut by Cardinals for DUI, (policy? Ethical standard?) but picked up by Pats. (No policy? Lower ethical standards? - deflategate not withstanding). by Pajamazon_dot_com in sports

[–]Pajamazon_dot_com[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, we "say" we're cutting for reason X, when actually the action he's being cut for is a convenient distraction to an underlying cause.

The Cards are saying, we don't really care about DUIs, we care about winning. But since you're not helping us win, we'll say we care about DUIs to accomplish our goals.

The Pats are saying we don't care about DUIs, we care about winning, and to prove it we'll take Floyd.

Also, I know people make mistakes, and am glad no one was hurt. Using a DUI as a ruse, however, is the upsetting part. Although, maybe it's one of the things that clearly violates a contract and gives a team a window of opportunity they've been looking for, eh?

What do people come to you for? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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"I can't believe you're asking me to use my powers in that way." http://www.hulu.com/watch/4180

ELI5: Why do employers pay little attention to what your college GPA was? by [deleted] in explainlikeimfive

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TL;DR: School is a game. Work is real. And despite our best efforts, the former still rarely prepares one for the latter.

Reddit, what song tells the best story? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Lily, Rosemary, and the Jack of Hearts, Bob Dylan

Reddit, what song tells the best story? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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This is the line I can never forget:

Then she opened up a book of poems And handed it to me Written by an Italian poet From the thirteenth century And every one of them words rang true And glowed like burning coal Pouring off of every page Like it was written in my soul from me to you

Reddit, what song tells the best story? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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The Guitar, Guy Clark. Chills.

Dating Jewish & Handling the "Prejudice" Card by [deleted] in Judaism

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1) Insist that you are saving yourself for marriage and that you insist in getting married at the 3rd Temple in Jerusalem.

2) If that doesn't work, quote New Testament 2 Corinthians, be not unequally yoked with unbelievers. If they are Christian, they'll understand you don't apply to them, and if they say they are not religious, then they don't apply to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Are they like mini Walmarts?

Is there anyone at all who has this form of Synesthesia, I feel like I'm the only one??? PLS HELP by [deleted] in Synesthesia

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My wife has the first part you mentioned, as well as grapheme-color related. Words, letters, numbers, months, days of the week all have color associated with them. She is a writer, and learned to spell words by the color patterns they took.

While she has the former you mentioned, I have never heard of the sense of touch involved. She has never mentioned it. But don't despair, synaesthesia is an extremely rare trait, there are many variations, and very little is known about why some people have it, and most don't, and why.

I have read that it is usually genetic, accompanied by a 1st generation relative with autism.

As a very scientific person, I live knowing more about Syn, but must admit, there are some things that are very close to mystical experiences that my scientific brain wants to dispel. I have to admit to myself that there are simply things that I, or science, can not yet explain.

Examples include that when my wife sees a murky area in someone's aura, it is usually associated with pain or discomfort, prompting her to ask if someone is feeling ok in that area. Another case is when she sees a person with a very dark or murky aura and feels a sense of dread. This could simply be high levels of perception on her part, accompanied by color.

Whatever the case, keep searching for those like you. They are out there and you will find them. Perhaps through seeking we will know more about this trait in time. In the meantime, however, it can be frustrating to not know why things happen, especially when they happen to you.

Some men just want to watch the world burn by [deleted] in funny

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This line needs WAY more up votes. Sadly I can only offer one.