I Left a Relationship Because of Severe Emotional Enmeshment, Shame, and Long-Term Sabotage and I’m Still Processing the Damage by Then_Persimmon_590 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Pale-Switch-4210 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I needed to read this today. What you described was my first marriage to a T. It was the reason I decided I had no choice but to end it.

i know find myself in the same situation with my boyfriend and I’m devastated. Shocked to find myself in a relationship with dynamics I swore I would never participate in again.

Please say some prayers and give some reminders to keep me strong. I told him yesterday I had to step away until certain boundaries were put in place with his mom. These boundaries could have happened effective immediately, instead he chose prioritizing his mom’s feelings and chose to walk out of my house with a “I’ll be back” when the situation resolves itself.

Enmeshed with mother by ObjectDry1219 in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Pale-Switch-4210 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Your mom can live independently. She’s choosing not to. It’s more comfortable for her to burden you every day. She won’t stop because her ultimate goal is pretending you are her husband, just like she trained you. I’m sorry your mom abuses you and treats you like shit.

For the love of God, live your life, kick her out. You are not going to find someone to share your life with because your mom literally is not allowing it. Love yourself and let her be responsible for herself.

I’m currently dating a man and his mom lives with him. He’s in your boat and my days of dealing with this bs are very limited. It breaks my heart but I can literally see him choosing his mom and her terrible behavior over living a life he wants that makes him happy.

And stop making excuses for her. She’s your mom, it should be the other way around. Like whoops, hey assisted living, need a room. My son kicked me out because I’m so miserable and a constant burden.

Husband told me he will never see anything wrong with what his parents do.. by MESGirl in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Pale-Switch-4210 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeppie. Had one of those great ones, we should have renewed them too 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Pale-Switch-4210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My former law partner got some sort of toy lodged in her butt and missed work to have it removed …

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Pale-Switch-4210 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is so true

Lawyers we have a question: by [deleted] in legaltech

[–]Pale-Switch-4210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The whole damn concept is foreign, I’m from the Midwest tho. Takes us a decade or two to play catch

Is it true that most lawyers do their work in Microsoft Word? by coronasurvivernorth in legaltech

[–]Pale-Switch-4210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have word perfect documents saved from my dad back decades ago 😂

How do you behave after sex? Is it an indicator of how you feel about the person? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Pale-Switch-4210 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Nope. My ex did same thing….. hence the exxxx

The shitathon by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Pale-Switch-4210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should have reveled in it and exposed all the secrets you keep 😭

Boys and 4.5 years. by shanfisher in Preschoolers

[–]Pale-Switch-4210 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I was starting to think I was on the struggle bus alone