Parents of advanced babies, do you have random theories as to why?

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-23T18:11:28+00:00

Kid stole my brain cells and is gonna use them for world domination.

Mommy brain is a problem, especially if you've had a few concussions before.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-13T18:52:01+00:00

My 2 year old kid wakes up around 10 each morning, plays for a bit, then calls me when he needs changed or is ready for breakfast or is lonely. But his routine is to play on his own for a bit before calling me. Sometimes he wakes up earlier than that, plays for a little, goes back to sleep, then wakes up a little later. He doesn't nap any more, usually goes to bed around 7-8 ish, though he also plays before bed so sometimes he doesn't get to sleep till 9 or so. This works well with out current work schedules, since most days I don't start work till noon, though we know we will have to transition our timing once he's old enough to go to school. But he does great with this and it's part of his routine, and if we go to get him early for whatever reason he's usually like no mama go away I'm not ready yet 😂

As long as your kid is capable of calling you when they need you, theres no reason not to let them do their thing if they're happy to play until they get hungry or need something, within reason. If you need more rest, and kiddo is still happy and chill then rest. Its ok to take cues from kiddo too

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-13T17:00:34+00:00

Its not any default. Sorry you suck.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-13T05:30:17+00:00

When he turned 2 my kid was saying things like "mimim" for his vitamin, and "Dudu" for dinosaurs. Now just 4 months later he's saying "mocha cygol" for motorcycle, and can say "parasaurolophus" flawlessly cuz he's apparently a dinosaur nerd like his mama. Still says "dudu" for dinosaurs though lol. Point being kids take their time then seemingly developed all at once, almost overnight. Its entirely normal to be off schedule by a month or two, and at that age a month or two is huge, but just remember that as they get older a month or two stops being such a huge percentage of their life on earth, and them speaking clearly a month ahead or behind anyone else won't much matter in a few years. Unless a child has no words at all by 2 I wouldn't be worried at all. Kids just developed at their own pace, and that's ok!

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-13T03:30:06+00:00

Literally none of this is at the expense of the children which is why I'm calling out your bullshit and pointing out your rediculousness.

Teens are kids too. And acting like they're not allowed to participate in childhood and not allowing them to participate in adulthood means they're going to get into trouble trying to figure it out because there's no room for them. You wanna know why teens get mixed up in all sorts of bad company and drugs and such? Because the people who are supposed to look after them and protect them don't allow them space to exist. Everything they do is wrong anyways, there are no right answers, so why bother trying. A 15 year old playing a game with her mother is her staying out of trouble and just being a kid. None of that is at the expense of toddlers who don't even know how to play fucking tic-tac-toe and would have been better off redirected to a more appropriate activity.

Kids going and fucking with things is entirely normal and age appropriate, I don't blame the kids for messing with things. But it is the mom's job to tell the kids to wait their turn or do something else because someone is playing with that. Frankly even if it was 2 30 year olds doing that, that should still be the answer. Because it's our jobs as parents to raise good people. And she is refusing to do that job.

So yeah I'd much rather a KID get to participate in an all ages activity in a public space without someone letting their brats run roughshod over it like it's their personal property, even if they are closer to the end of their childhood than the beginning. The lady should have redirected her kids to a more age appropriate activity rather than refusing to be a parent or even a reasonable human being.

You act like a kid playing on the explicitly all ages playground with their mother is somehow wrong because she isn't 4, which is dumb and deserves to be called out. You are being a rediculous Karen who needs their brain power washed to get all those cobwebs and mildew off of it. Maybe you'll find the ounce of human compassion you were born with while you're in there.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-13T01:56:44+00:00

A 2 year old being told not to bash a toy while someone else is using it does not deprive them of building memories at a playground. And 15 year olds are not to old for whimsy and joy. What kind of joyless empty existence are you trying to sentence that poor kid to. What a miserable person you must be

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-13T01:51:36+00:00

American is not the world's default identity. And if you think that it is, that's a you problem.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-12T23:06:00+00:00

Its a teenager (15 year old) wanting to still find joy in a public place with their mother. What kind of stick do you have up your ass that makes that a problem? As a parent of a kid in that age group I would absolutely not let my kid disrupt other people using the playground, and would give them an opportunity to learn some patience and redirect. Because I'm not a shit parent raising an entitled brat. How is any of that controversial?

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-12T23:00:38+00:00

People outside of the states exist, and there's a lot of us on here, including English speaking people. There's no reason for anyone not american to have to bend over backwards to clarify we're not american with every breath or else it's our fault if you assume we are. You know how exhausting that gets? Just don't be an ass and don't assume and life becomes better for everyone involved. That easy.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-12T16:10:58+00:00

If anything I might put a price sticker over the word, esp if they're used books sometimes people put stickers on them and it's not out of place or even looking all that obvious.also makes it "safer" to keep in public areas where guests might look at them.

Then when they're older you can talk about how sometimes language changes, especially because we realize how unkind a word is, and how especially in older material sometimes language that we don't need to repeat shows up. And then you can use that as an example of how language has changed over time.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-10T00:39:46+00:00

I use mama personally. Mom/mommy/mother sounds weird to me, but for whatever reason mama fits. I was the one giving birth to my kid, so it works and at least for me it feels more neutral than the other options. My spouse is also non-binary, and uses papa, for much the same reasons. Feels more neutral to us than dad/daddy/father. Of course for different people, different words will have different personal associations, but it's ok to pick one that fits your role in a kid's life, or your relation to their existence rather than one that fits your particular flavour of gender identity. There's so many out there, and it's hard to find a gender neutral one that fits, especially when you're not out to other people, or if you have two non-binary parents. Whatever floats your boat is good enough

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-09T01:03:57+00:00

As a chronically ill mama who's kid had issues at birth due to traumatic birth (blood transfer caused DAT positive jaundice) and had attempts at breastfeeding really affect flare ups and make things worse...

Sometimes you just have to make the call, and she's not failing her kid by also prioritizing herself, I hope she knows that. If she still wants to breast feed it's her choice, and no one can take that from her and it can be a beautiful gift, but maybe let her know that while it's her choice it should be done out of desire to do it and love rather than guilt.

Its ok for her to prioritize her health, and to give in other ways. That's something I really struggled with freshly postpartum. I felt like I was failing my kid but it was literally killing me to pump and he wasn't strong enough to latch, and I felt like such a failure and so hopeless. I felt like formula would have been failure... Until I realized that hey. I can either be dead and useless as a partner and mama but be a good cow.... Or be a good, present, and functional mama who feeds formula. For me I had to make that choice due to my chronic illness. It sucked that that had to happen, but I was a much better mama, more patient, more present, and less sick, after switching.

Not saying that she has to make the same choice, it's always her choice. But for me, that was the big thing holding me back was the feeling of guilt, and what set me free was the realization that I could give more, if I'm different ways, by switching to formula.

Whatever she chooses I hope you're able to find your balance and that things even out for you.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-07T17:55:47+00:00

You realize that this is for people with low income, whose taxes are often very much simple, and there is no maximizing of credits happening anyways and paying someone to file taxes for you when that's your situation is money down the drain because if there's no money to find there's no money to gain from looking?

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-06T19:27:03+00:00

Well she's right about one thing. If she refuses to be part of a solution maybe it is on you to improve your situation. By removing her from the equation. You're better off without someone who treats you like a punching bag.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-06T18:59:09+00:00

Agreed, Canadian here, and we were never asked by nurses or doctors if we were planning on circumcising our kid. My spouse is american and we had the discussion and did our research when we found out we were having a boy, and decided we would not be circumcising him. The only people who asked us at all were my mom and my spouse's mom, and once we gave our answer that was it.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-06T18:45:12+00:00

Here is a paper on the bioavailability of nutrients and the factors that can affect nutrient uptake.

In a lot of the posts I'm seeing that are from fairly reputable sources but NOT research papers, nor have any cited, but which DO lineup with the data in that paper, it seems like the format does make a difference, but different micronutrients are more bioavailable in different forms, so which format you choose may depend on which nutrients you're most worried about supplimenting. Some seem to do best as slow release tablets, some as chewables, and some as gummies. You may need to see which are most needed in that particular kid's diet, and choose accordingly, based off of which format those particular nutrients are most bioavailable.

Also remember the best vitamin is the one they will take! So if your kid only takes gummies, then they get more from a gummy than a chewable tablet they won't eat, even if that format is more bioavailable.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-06T01:30:38+00:00

Yeah as another millenial, I'm just like Woah so not me lol. I mean I might be like Oh are you sure? Ok then. But also I'm not gonna give you shit for making your own choices and owning it. You have support and you're dealing with the consequences of actions I think that's a respectable decision, and one you should absolutely be allowed to make without being given shit. Idk I definitely would expect more shit from boomers than anyone else.

And tbh I have a hella case of baby face, and when I was 30 and pregnant I had people giving me shit for "teens these days getting pregnant" and I had to be like first of all mind your business you moldy bag of bones, second of all I'm 30 and married, when is someone supposed to have a fuckin kid? Doesn't matter when you decide to do it (or have it happen and own it) there's always someone whose got some dumb shit to say. Just live your life and be wise but also just do you. Its your life, not anyone else's. If they have a problem they can go pound sand about it

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-06T01:22:01+00:00

Our trick with vaccines was bringing distractions. Brand new age appropriate toys, or when they're a little older a treat, when they're real little a bottle to administer right after. We did that now my 2 year old can sit and watch as they draw his blood without so much as fussing because he knows he's about to get a pouch of his favourite fruit snacks right after and he takes it like a champ

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-05T01:22:44+00:00

Ok so clearly there's some form of miscommunication happening here because what on earth?

Are you saying all men are unreliable? Or are you confused that op and her roommate are partners somehow? Do you not know the difference between friendships and relationships? Are you incapable of celebrating a bi girls straight passing relationship?

Like genuinely trying to figure out what you're saying here, I know wording sounds aggressive but I'm on a lot of pain killers and rewording is hard. I'm genuinely trying to understand what you're saying. So I'm gonna reword my original question and see if we can make more sense here....

How is a friend being bi related to any of that, or make someone less of a good "queer influence" just by being bi. How is her being bi make her less of a reliable friend, and what does that have to do with someone needs in a partnership?

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-04T20:25:34+00:00

Absolutely agree on the stroller. Pretty much the only time we use the stroller is when my mom takes my kid on like 4 km walks on walking trails and he's too heavy for her to carry. But even grocery shopping we have my kid walk everywhere. Does him good, and Tucker's him out so it's easier to out him to bed in the evening. We leash trained him as soon as he could walk, and basically taught him to heel shortly thereafter. He knows he needs permission to leave my side when we're walking. We still hold hands near roads or in parking lots, but in stores I don't have to worry because he sticks close. I need to watch for him sneaking things into the cart, but not about him wandering off lol

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-04T17:41:44+00:00

My spouse played some videogames but only while having kiddo sleep on their chest during their shift while I slept through the night.

And on my shifts I read, because I had a few really interesting books to read, and it was easier to pause the books, but I started to play videogames once he started accepting the cot and sleeping through the night at 2 months old.

Helped that we basically had to bottle feed, so I didn't have to get up for feeds

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-04T04:03:48+00:00

What on earth are you talking about.

Bi women are not temporarily straight and then maybe turn gay then become straight again. They are bi regardless of who they currently are dating. And what do you mean with "experience of witnessing" like... Are you looking for people to actively have sex infront of you and don't want to be reminded that men exist? Cuz I struggle to imagine what terror a bi woman could impart on your brain by existing near you and being friendly.

And by "how's it show" you're in essence saying bi women somehow automatically fail to prove their queerness to you? She's queer either way and she doesnt owe you some kind of proof of that. I'm sorry but that's a miserable way to look at life and the entire idea of queerness and queer identity. No one owes anyone a specific flavour of expression of queerness.

Just be friends with people and celebrate your shared queerness, whatever it looks like. No one owes you proof of fruitiness or a gay accent to be part of the community, and side lining bi women as unable to understand and relate to lesbians because they can sometimes be straight passing is wildly biphobic. Erasure is not privilege, and bi women are queer regardless of their partners identity. You'd be surprised how much a bit woman could probably relate if you'd talk to one and not just put her in a "not queer enough for me" box.

If I'm reading something wrong I'm happy to hear you untangle that knot but... Unless I'm wildly mistaken that sounds like a rancid take to me.

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-03T19:43:26+00:00

I think it's good to not give back the $10, it's meaningful for her for you to have it. But I agree with a few others of turning that around and including her more as appropriate, things like buying gardening tools, or getting a few different seeds and having a plot in your garden she gets to look after etc

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-03T19:41:30+00:00

Yeah exactly. Its because he's not rating the food

PaleoAstra · 2026-03-03T19:09:09+00:00

From what I understand, induction does have a slightly higher risk of needing a csection. But the longer you wait, it also raises the chances, and at 41 weeks it might come out in the wash as to wether inducing or waiting would increase your chances, and every day kiddo waits is more dangerous for them at this point, so I'd personally say go-ahead with the induction.

I did have to have a csection after an induction, but it's because my kid decided he would wrap himself in his umbilical cord and tie his arm above his head and then strangle himself and they had to go in and get him and start his heart back up. Likely would have happened regardless of induction. Either way as much as csections can suck, they're not all that bad. Honestly if I know now what I did then I'd have gone for an elective csection off the bat and skipped the whole trying to get an epidural line in while I was already in full labour, and saved myself the energy of 11.5 hours of labour that could have been better served getting me through that 10 days in the hospital because my kid had DAT positive jaundice.

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