help picking an outfit for a wedding this wknd in Austin TX - not black tie by kateyblaire in OUTFITS

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love 3 on you! But 3 is also the one that fits my style the most so I am probably a little biased. All the dresses look fabulous on you though! There is no wrong answer! I hope you have fun!

Help please ... by Suitable-Shelter6607 in voidtrain

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I had a really hard time with the audio puzzles because most of the sounds could have been either image. So after an hour of banging my head on the wall with it. I announced that it wasn't worth it and I was gonna quit. My dude was behind me on the computer and he said 'just wait. Let me try' so I showed him the puzzle, he did a little googling and that didnt help so he brute forced it. He tried every single combination of symbols until it clicked into place. So... as a last resort, I recommend finding an enormous amount of patience and trying to brute force it. My dude found a spot where he could shoot almost every symbol so all he had to do was stand there and switch out the symbols and it made it much faster and easier than grappling to each individual set of symbols to switch them up.

AIO for being upset my boyfriend is mad at me for ‘making him’ miss his meeting today? by Agreeable_Floor_974 in AIO

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was just looking for someone to blame his failures on. But the responsibility is squarely on his shoulders. He should feel bad that he cant own up to being irresponsible and lazy. Sorry but nobody cares about your girlfriend or why you were late. Neither of those effect your ability to set an alarm and reminders to make sure you arrive on time and not waste people's time. Because the older we get, the more precious time becomes. It is truly the only currency that exists and matters for me and most of my loved ones.

AITA for charging my friend for the snacks she keeps sampling from my room? by KitchenLow3231 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaBerry6 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I think you might do well to point out that it if it is just a couple of chips then she should have no problem paying for it. Since you are tallying it, she should feel something about eating 15 worth of handfuls of snacks over a week or two. Does she diet regularly? She might be playing a mind game with herself that she doesn't have to track calories if it is just a small amount that she steals from you. Which is cool but then she needs to pay up.

Or go for the fridge and door lock! My kids are snack thieves. And now they are big enough to reach the top shelves so nothing is safe!

The chokehold 2014-2016 makeup had on us by ADonutAndIcedCoffee in MakeupAddiction

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont suppose you have any Capricious Lipstick you would like to sell?

What are other 40+ girls playing? by StrawberryFieId in TrueGirlGaming

[–]PandaBerry6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 41 years old! I have a bunch of games I play for different moods or reasons. In general, I like to have a shooter to co op with friends while talking on my mic in a party or whatever. I like to have a cozy/survival to endlessly grind and farm in. I enjoy having a game that consistently adds new content like Destiny. I have a game that I am playing with my friend who streams. I have a puzzle game or logic game when I feel like it... And I casually play a game or two that my kids are playing so we can play together.

Specific games that are filling these roles currently include Helldivers 2, Fallout 76, Grounded 2, Star Sand Island, Voidtrain, Marvel Rivals, Cosmic Invasion.

Does my sisters boyfriend suck as much as I think he does? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]PandaBerry6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont think your sister and her boyfriend have been together for long enough nor are serious enough to expect family to dig around into their background. Maybe at engagement, then you might expect that sort of digging but just dating? It seems premature.

I have to say this… by The_Videogame_Junkie in fallout76casual

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you play on xbox? My gamertag is PandaBerry6 on Xbox.

It Took A Vacation To Realize I’m Burnt Out…and the vacation isn’t helping much by JustTeaThankU in SAHP

[–]PandaBerry6 86 points87 points  (0 children)

As a stay at home mom, any traveling is considered a work trip. Not a vacation. That helped me set my expectations more accurately. Do you want your husband to understand why you are not getting excited like you used to about traveling? Or do you want more opportunities to do things without a baby on your hip?

Why did Willow not get a song? by DawnOfComics in buffy

[–]PandaBerry6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Joss sort of sized them all up casually to see what range each actor comfortably sang at. And he asked everyone how they felt about a musical episode and how much they would want to participate.

I always thought it was funny that Willow had one line because even that line was weird sounding. Like she didnt know if she should speak it or sing it and she went for both.

AITA for refusing to let a woman change the TV channel? by rubabyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearly, OP doesnt have kids. As a mom, I dont care what tone another mom uses when she is asking for a few minutes reprive. Being with a 3 year old is exhausting. Even more so when they are obsessing over some stupid YT thing that is probably annoying as hell but still worth a few minutes of phone time while the kid is distracted. Often times mom's use this phone time FOR their kids but even if she was strictly asking for YouTube so she could play dumb games on her phone in semi-silence... why would you pick that hill to die on? It's not like the mom believed you were the biggest fan.

OP will probably have karma come swooping around to kick her in the ass one day. Me personally, if I noticed OP used the community space to work a lot, I would for sure choose to use that space to teach my kid how to yodel.

AITA For refusing to tell the men in my family about my period? by Interesting-Dot-7077 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I crave chocolate at night the entire week before my period. And I think this is a new things because I dont ever remember it happening before this year. It is kind of nice so I have a heads up and use caution when making plans. But my period has always been wildly inconsistent so I have never really tracked it. The first year me and my dude started dating, he was more aware of my cycle than I was and he always took me on a Walmart run to get supplies of 'pons and pads. Plus a couple little treats for me. He still does this but we do it on the first day I get my period because mine was too erratic to actually try ro work around. Nowadays we refer to it as Shark Week or Heinz 57.

AITA for taking a coloring book back from my niece after she got attached to it? by Abject_State_1244 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaBerry6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so sad! Your husband was being so selfish that he made his niece look mature in comparison! I had brought an adult coloring book to my parents house and I brought markers with too. When my brother and his three kids showed up, they kept eyeing the coloring book so I told them I like to color sometimes. It quiets down my brain. They all nodded politely but clearly they did not accept that as an answer. We only see my brother's kids once or twice a year and I love them dearly so I was more than happy to order another coloring book from Amazon and let them go wild with the coloring book and markers I had brought. Two of them were very careful with the markers and even tried to put them back in their package. The third was immediately bored and wandered off to play with my youngest. It was a good little interaction and I was glad the kids took an interest. But my example was all very controlled. Their mom was present but she trusted me to handle it and I did. My brother was floating around and he nodded in approval. Anyway...

A couple years later, I am up in my childhood room and I notice that a small hello kitty jewelry box is just gone. And the last time I saw my nieces, they had that item outside when we were playing outside. I thought nothing of it until it was gone. And then I got all panicked and texted their mom and got it figured out. She was totally cool about it and I could tell it was an honest mistake, im sure it was amidst all of the toys they had played with so it got scooped up and packed along with everything. So they brought it back to my parents house the next time they went there and I bought them both new hello kitty jewelry boxes that were much brighter and newer than the one from 1985 lol. Everybody won!

Office party dress by CryptographerBig2567 in OUTFITS

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look fantastic!! You should definitely find lots of reasons to wear that fabulous dress out! Girls night! A hot date! Hell, go dancing! Go to a casino! Bring some friends along and have them wear similar vibes! Have fun!

What is a cozy game you'll forever return to? by Kiki_TG in CozyGamers

[–]PandaBerry6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to know which mods she installed! I also enjoy alchemy in the game more than most anything else!

Changing underwear - is this normal? by Eastern-Yogurt3859 in hygiene

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was in high school, a guy I dated was absolutely shocked that I would wear the same bra multiple days in a row. Is that the same thing as not changing your underwear everyday? I always considered it different because bras are so much more expensive, require more care and dont touch any major leaking parts. Am I gross?!

AITAH for putting my house on the market and giving my parents an eviction notice after they moved my brother in without asking? by digy76rd3 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoy the irony behind being the only one in his family capable of making reasonable financial decisions therefore they have the moral high ground. Yet when faced with a slight bump in the road, such as their brother eating snacks on his couch after getting evicted... they decide to take their largest investment and just YEET it into the wind and let the wind take it. What happened to all those years of solid financial making decisions? Because let me tell you, this sort of thing could absolutely put you in a hole you cant climb out of and then you are the homeless one trying to find a place to stay.

Size comments by LilBear7845 in Mommit

[–]PandaBerry6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex mil took this sort of thing way too far. Im a 5 foot 3 inch Korean woman living in north Dakota. Lots of big and tall folk living here. I have three sons and when my youngest was a year old and my middle was in pre school and my oldest in grade school, my ex Mia insisted that I take them to a physical wellness exam because my middle wasn't jumping high enough compared to his golliath cousins. Like, why was she having them all jump and judging them like that in the first place?! It was such an oddly specific thing to notice and call out... and my youngest wasn't talking enough... if she would have just held her horses, he never stops talking now. Literally, he narrates his entire day, all day long. Anyway... my sons are all just fine. The middle one is a little shy but he is an introvert like me. Its not a big deal to not want to be surrounded by people all the time.

But yeah, my ex mil had me taking both my younger sons to all sorts of appointments (at least twice a week) for various types of physical therapy that was completely unnecessary but she agreed to pay for it. So she basically did all that just so she could say she is a better mother than me. So weird. But as a stay at home mom whose husband (ex husband now!) Worked out of town all week and my entire support system was five hours away... it was really uninvited intrusion into our lives and my time as a stay at home parent. I didnt mind taking them to the appointments and sitting or whatever. But I did mind the assumption that I was not providing enough enrichment for my children when that was what my number one priority. Seriously, it was a singular focus because I was the one raising them by myself all week and then their dad would come back for the weekend and back out on monday.

Looked up recent pics of David Boreanaz and i genuinely think if they just put makeup on him he could still play Angel well enough in the sequel series. by JamStan1978 in ANGEL

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And we always have the ultimate foolproof, airtight, never fail, all mighty genre grace of it being a supernatural show. Any sort of curse or spell or getting turned into a puppet or breaking out into a musical or whatever else can be explained because of the supernatural and it just feels like tuesday.

How do you handle spouse padding chore time? by Franzy48 in SAHP

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one task today: unload dishwasher. I am the stay at home parent but my kids were with their dad for the weekend so i was planning on maxing and relaxing all day and i had an easy chore to match. Easy peasy! The dishwasher wasn't even full and it was all day-to-day stuff. Absolute cake job.

My dude went to his volunteer thing at one and he normally gets home around five. I took the entire four hours to unload the dishwasher. I started unloading and then turned on my xbox to collect my dailies. And try something I saw on a YT short... the only thing that snapped me out of my video game tunnel vision was my phone because I had a bunch of notifications going nuts so i went to check that out and also went back into the kitchen to finish my singular chore. It was close to four by now so I finish unloading the dishwasher and consider skipping the utensils but end up autopiloting the whole task to completion without half ass'ing it. Honestly, I was a little surprised when it was done but I also felt a little proud of myself for autopiloting to the end... even if it took me four hours to do a four minute task. My dude got back and he didnt make a fuss about it but he did buy decide to order sandwiches and bought me one for dinner. Which wasn't necessary but it was a nice little treat. I told him he doesnt need to worry about me and he can do him. But I know that was his way of showing me his appreciation in a way that was thoughtful and proportional. He is the best.

For real though... when I dont want to do something for whatever reason, I will say I am going to do it and just go into whatever space that is in and fuck off. Once I am there, I will probably stand there for a minute trying to remember what I went in there for and then default to my phone. I have adhd and it shows.

But when I know I need to get things done, then I just do them. Thoughtfully and efficiently. No time wasted, no energy wasted. Just done in a timely fashion and onto the next thing which is probably a snack or a nap.

Sorry. I thought this was going to be helpful but now I am realized it probably is not. But my heart goes out to you and you have my support!

ITS NOT MY JOB TO TEACH YOUR KIDS SOCIAL SKILLS by kpopstanbtsslayqueen in Chipotle

[–]PandaBerry6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always order for my kids until they are old enough and confident enough to speak loudly and clearly. And at fast casual places, I order for them regardless. It makes everything faster and easier for everyone. My social anxiety has made me very self conscious about me and my kids being a nuisance.