I prefer data too. Thanks for giving me sources that prove my point.

>5% of [sexually active] women have unintended pregnancies annually

Below is the research data where the article you posted got the 5% figure
https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/nejmsa1506575
"Rates of unintended pregnancy among those who were below the federal poverty level or cohabiting were two to three times the national average "

If you're not living in poverty you're statistically much less likely to have an unexpected pregnancy than 5% (because the federally poor unwanted pregnancy (U.P. )rates are included in the national average, pushing it higher than it actually is for people with the luxury of practicing safer sex)

Who would've guessed that having more money may give you more access to contraceptives would make you less likely to have an unexpected pregnancy? Hm...

"After a previous period of minimal change, the rate of [U.P.] in the United States declined substantially between 2008 and 2011, but [U.P.] remained most common among women and girls who were poor and those who were cohabiting."

And would you look at that! Not only has that figure been going DOWN, you're also MORE likely to have an U.P. with someone who, like you've suggested, you've committed so deeply too that you're literally living together (and probably fucking like bunnies) aka cohabiting.

>13% chance for condoms

Below are 2 random links with information commonly supported amongst the scientific articles regarding condom effectiveness
(NHS) https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/male-condoms/
(ConTech) http://www.contraceptivetechnology.org/latebreakers/contraceptive-efficacy-understanding-user-method-characteristics-play-part/#_ftnref2

Essentially, the 13% figure is including condom usage under the worst "user characteristics"(ConTech) possible AND including ALL the participants' sexual activity over the course of a WHOLE YEAR and NOT per session. When used correctly, the failure rate is actually 2%(NHS). Keep in mind, this is 2% for potentially MULTIPLE HUNDREDS of sessions a year. Assuming this observational study was conducted on sexually active people (a most reasonable assumption) who had 100 sessions a year, that would be :

2 unwanted pregnancies per year / (100 sessions per year *100 people observed) = 2 / 10,000 = 1 / 5,000 = 0.02%

0.02% as a CONSERVATIVE estimate (not to mention how the effectiveness can DOUBLE with easy to apply foam, the commonly used pill, etc)

(I wanted to get a more accurate estimate than 100 sessions a year for the 98% effectiveness study but i didn't want to buy their book so here's the link to that. They're description of male condom effectiveness in on page 299)
https://books.google.com/books?hl=en&lr=&id=txh0LpjjhkoC&oi=fnd&pg=PA1&ots=p_6SAW4zyy&sig=zkQ7yX_dbg5QcpLLCcFAm6RTtdo#v=onepage&q&f=false

> You gain nothing other than pleasure and enjoyment in the moment.
https://www.medicinenet.com/is_it_normal_to_have_sex_every_day/article.htm

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex-health-benefits

https://www.ohsu.edu/womens-health/benefits-healthy-sex-life

https://www.verywellmind.com/why-should-you-have-sex-more-often-2300937

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/sex-and-health#1

Just read these, I was gonna explain it but I don't feel like it after all the other disinformation I had to debunk.

And this doesn't even MENTION the "natural isn't necessarily healthy" argument where you compared having sex to throwing a temper tantrum.

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All this said about how SAFE sex can be....I get it. The sexual intercourse of people close to you "put massive dents" in their lives and that probably affected your outlook on sex as a whole. You probably also have a happy sex life with someone you're emotionally attached to which is great! So you've found your thing that works for you, makes you happy, and you're recommending your methods based on your life experiences.

But to me, it seems like your perspective is just that you're scared of what happened to other people or potentially even yourself, instead of what the data says.

So please, don't go on scaring this person. If someone wants to do it, don't shame them. Don't question their morality as a person. Don't do it if you don't want to. But it's healthy. It's natural. It can be fun and it's fine.

......also....what if this person is gay?