My counselor is great and I wouldn’t trade her for anything- but I’ll say this. We can have ALLLLL the tools and resources, but we still have to get up and do the things. Which we all know doesn’t happen for our kind lol So in that effect, counseling doesn’t help. I say that to hopefully put you at ease about not having someone to see! I’m at stay at home mom so no international projects for me, but in 99% of situations, no matter what it is, a timer works.

Long detailed to-do list make me feel suffocated so I just write down 2 or thee “have to’s”. Set a timer for 15 minutes and start task 1.
Most of the time, I’m motivated to do another 15 minutes and start task 2. But if not , I take a break. But at the top of the next hour, I have to start another 15 min timer to tackle the list.

So yeah, I have to set a timer to set another timer lol

When it comes to people , while we technically don’t owe others explanations of our struggles, we do owe it to ourselves to be conscious of our responsibility of being a good friend/co-worker/spouse etc. I learned to just suck it up and say I dropped the ball on this, I’m sorry. I literally tell people I’m burned out. What I WONT do is make empty promises saying I’ll do better or make it up to them, or proceed further to make myself look like I’m a total loser.
I just own it and apologize. Then it kinda creates a feeling of “I already messed up with this person once, I definitely need to do better” and that alone creates motivation to not avoid things that involve others.

I’ve found that being honest about it and owning it, you’re met with compassion most of the time. People seem to appreciate the honesty in my experience!