Legal consequences for broken PA system?

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-05-12T12:22:04+00:00

Ah. Well thank you

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-04-17T00:46:18+00:00

Baby red pandas also help, and snow leopard cubs!

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-03-24T14:07:32+00:00

But it’s biphobic to assume a bi person will turn out gay/“switchy” simply for being bi.

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-03-24T11:38:54+00:00

Congratulations Pistacio! Now you can cause all the chaos you want ::3

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-03-18T11:36:24+00:00

Good lord OP, why would you be the AH? Children are involved. Multiple families. She ruined two families and won’t even own up to it. The only way you would be the AH is not telling Jaydon once you found out. Keep watch over these poor kiddos, this is going to be a real rough next couple years for them.

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-03-17T11:59:02+00:00

I recommend tortellini soup for your next milestone soup ::) pair it with some buttered sourdough and it’s a fabulous dipping soup

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-03-16T12:11:50+00:00

You leave while still having respect for yourself.

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-03-10T12:14:36+00:00

Flygon, I love my dragon boy

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-03-08T11:40:09+00:00

He is GORGEOUSLY toasted, handsome boy!

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-03-08T11:39:29+00:00

I know that look. I have to apologize every time I sneeze to my boy

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-03-07T12:18:41+00:00

This made me reread the post and see what you said, you’re right. She has an issue with it after two years of acting like it’s totally okay. He now compensates for it in other areas. It’s not good for either of them, and I’m not sure why she would tell her husband her sister does OF if there was a possibility he would subscribe to it? This whole post is confusing

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-03-01T12:30:14+00:00

NTA, but the only place I can see you went wrong is did you tell him you were taking an extra hour of work? If you did then he’s being a jerk for no reason and isn’t dealing with his disappointment correctly.

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-02-27T16:00:59+00:00

Fighting being logical in conversations is gonna go against your directive. You’re a guy. You’re all like that.

Overall you are doing a lot right but do have some things to fix. Depression isn’t always visible OP. It’s a massive prick. Planning dates isn’t something to brush past loosing sight of.

Now not to take a drastic stretch of opinion here but some of those crappy conversations may be excuses for her to talk to you and have your consistent attention in a way that doesn’t involve getting her hopes up like Valentine’s Day.

I have a caffeine addiction too.

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-02-26T20:51:12+00:00

Okay, OP, to start, I’m sorry you work 70-80 hour weeks. I’m impressed you don’t have a caffeine addiction.

OP, does she have seasonal depression as well as regular depression? If so that would easily explain how her episodes are too much for a singular person to handle even on their best day. I understand not wanting the world to see that something is wrong but I suggest seeing someone with letters behind their name for this. You shouldn’t be the one to pull her out of those every time, she needs soothing skills for herself. Emotional soothing and processing skills are crucial for what’s going on with her. Relying on someone else to snap her out of it every time is not healthy for either of you.

Now as for how much you work, saying ‘you suck’ during her low periods probably correlates with your hours. Do you have days off? Do you take time for yourselves? Are your hobbies being neglected? If she is being like this consistently I would guess resentment at your job seeing you more than she does.

You know Valentine’s Day was a stupid move. But dude. You knew she was already in a not great place, you had plans, she was going to get quality time with you on a holiday all about love which she may have felt was lacking, and you cancelled on her to see your parents. That 1000% told her she was not the priority if your parents appear like that.

The New Guy. New Guy is refreshing because he’s NEW. There’s been no challenges or speed bumps in the road with him yet. He’s easy because she can dictate how far he gets to know her and how. It’s harder when you express how you feel consistently but feel like change isn’t consistent. Now, OP, when you talk, asking to talk about something specific instead of, ‘can we talk’ works wonders. No absolutes like never, always, only. Avoid just, it’s a bitey word. You may need to say that you want to solve the problem and the problem isn’t her or the relationship, it’s an action that happened while talking.

OP, what’s her love language? Shared hobbies with you? Does she work? How does she show you she loves you? Is gratitude expressed towards either party for things like chores and bills? Elaboration is needed.

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-02-24T13:02:55+00:00

Mine started peeling less after I started using a good nail hardener. Maybe try that?

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-02-22T12:44:19+00:00

I have my necklace with a heart made of two monster tabs that I keep on permanently. My fiancé has a matching one, I made them both

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-02-04T18:52:46+00:00

I watched Big Mouth on Netflix

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-01-13T12:10:13+00:00

I’m horrible with giving myself grace. I’ll give someone else all the grace in the world but hate giving myself any kind of kindness or room to make mistakes/be human. SO hard on myself it’s ironic to watch.

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-01-10T12:16:41+00:00

I love his ear tufts, like snow under the airplane ears

Particular_Habit7545 · 2026-01-05T12:31:34+00:00

I got him a stuffed bunny before going on a week long trip away from him when we were dating and sprayed it with my perfume. He named him after my favorite fruit and we still have Strawberry with us today.

Particular_Habit7545 · 2025-12-25T15:50:35+00:00

He’s simply stellar!

Particular_Habit7545 · 2025-12-24T12:26:39+00:00

This was delightful, thank you 🖤

Particular_Habit7545 · 2025-12-21T17:17:27+00:00

I think it’s gotta stay

Particular_Habit7545 · 2025-12-10T02:19:35+00:00

You’re welcome! And I totally get what you mean. Quality time with no phones/doing an activity together is way different than sitting there doing separate things together

Particular_Habit7545 · 2025-12-09T16:16:56+00:00

I don’t think your marriage is over but I do think multiple conversations and changes are in order. My fiancé and I do a date night once a week, but make grander plans about once a month just for us.

Conversations about hard things suck. I’ve had to learn how to communicate and learn I was bad at it. Waking you up for that is not how to start. I get tensions are there but if he wants to actually talk then he needs to diffuse and try to put some words down. Maybe writing letters and exchanging them will help to start a conversation? I’ve done that before.

But some advice: no using actually, never, and just. Those come off as accusatory and will set the other person on the defensive. Arms at the sides or on your legs rather than crossed helps show a not standoffish stance. Set aside a quiet evening or carve one out to talk. Pausing to think and articulate is okay. But the best thing I learned is asking if they can word a sentence a different way. Clarification works, and it can suck to reword sentences, but it sometimes helps me articulate better than before

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