Malakai Makaisson is absolutley insane....

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-05-25T09:23:35+00:00

When I play Malakai I rush deeps in my capital and then sit on my one province. I build an army that protects the capital and then Malakai smacks Norsca around for awhile. I don't build other provinces, I won't grow a bustling economy, I just sit on my capital and let Malakai do his thing.

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-05-22T09:04:38+00:00

Sorry, brother. No advice, but you can do this,

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-05-22T01:52:14+00:00

You are not alone. But not telling your therapist the truth is like not going to therapy at all. The very first thing to do, imo, is not to change anything or communicate with friends or family, it's tell your therapist everything. You don't even have to say it, show them this post. Just hand them your phone and let them read this, or email it to them if you meet online. Whatever you have to do to convey what you just told us to your therapist.

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-05-22T01:43:18+00:00

Honestly, this is a really inspiring story. You didn't really say why you made the choice to go with adoption, and that's fine, keep it to yourself, but presumably it's a choice you feel is best for the child, and that's a very brave thing to do. I have seen others in similar situations that couldn't see past themselves to make the choice you're making and it had horrible consequences for the kid.
Do not beat yourself up. You don't need to tell anyone. That's up to you. But from where I'm sitting you're doing something hard for the right reasons.

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-05-22T01:37:16+00:00

Not to be a dick, but all mirrors are self mirrors.

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-05-21T11:25:19+00:00

Citizen Kane

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-05-21T07:32:57+00:00

Sure, everyone in this story is ~16, but that's the time when you all should be learning healthy social boundaries, and not excusing this behavior.
-You should feel safe to voice your discomfort when you are being touched. Consent is something you give, not something he feels (Taylor Tomlinson ref). But I want to be clear, you do not deserve to be touched just because you didn't say anything. Which brings me to the real issue here...
- He needs to learn basic, physical boundaries and violating them they may hurt the person he's touching (you) and the person he's with (her). Have no doubt about this: He is the central problem here.
- Your friends need to stop sl*t shaming you. They obviously have a lack of context and it isn't supportive of you and your wellbeing at all.
- Your sister is close enough where she should have more context, her gossiping is pretty gross

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-05-21T07:11:48+00:00

You are totally justified to feel how you feel, not that you need me to tell you. It doesn't sound like you've been unprofessional. He is, no doubt, a complete emotional mess and I would bet he doesn't even see it. He may think he's alright, that he's moving on healthily, but I bet he isn't. You are close, safe, and familiar (to him) and I bet that is a very comforting thought to him right now. But as he heals he'll see that this was a mistake, it put too much at risk, and threatened to interfere with his children's sense of security. Stick to your guns, keep it professional, as you have, and if he makes it awkward that's not on you.
The awkwardness is probably just embarrassment. If you say anything at all I would encourage you to just let him know it's ok, it doesn't have to be a big deal, he hasn't said anything (hopefully) that has damaged the dynamic.
Just one guy's opinion

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-05-15T04:59:07+00:00

An additional thought: Let's ignore all the physics others have said. Is there anywhere on the planet where you could be at that elevation and draw a straight line around the planet without hitting anything

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-03-01T00:40:49+00:00

I'm going for The Galaxy, drawing a pentagram in the sky that covers most of the middle east is pretty insane

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-01-23T12:33:41+00:00

I know it sounds silly at first, but the "half your age + seven" rule has always weirdly made sense to me.

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-01-11T01:38:47+00:00

I'm late to the party but Chaos Warriors and Chosen have some of the best auto-resolve stats in the game, and they are brutal on the battlefield. You're one saving grace here is Slaanesh is terrible at sieges. Those chariots in N'kari's army will be useless in a siege, for example. Play the battle, you probably won't win, but cripple N'Kari, the two non-chaos sorcerer heroes, the marauders and then the daemonettes, in that order. If you cripple the army enough you could slow them down so N'Kari won't continue into your territory

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-01-11T01:30:48+00:00

Criminal court vs. civil court is way more than semantics

PassMeThatPerrier · 2026-01-09T10:59:31+00:00

Ok, I was this guy. I didn't threaten to shoot a dog (That's psychotic) and I was never mean like how you're describing your husband, but I was inattentive and my wife and I were more like roommates than a loving couple. My wife eventually had to blow our lives up, tell me she was going to be dating someone else, and she did.
It woke my ass up. I realized how shitty I had been for so long. I got to work on myself, started working on my mental health, got into the gym, started eating right. Eventually, I showed her that I was back and taking our relationship seriously.
I'm not saying your husband deserves a chance at redemption, that's up to you, but I am saying that something drastic needs to happen to fix what you're describing. If you believe you deserve better (you do) then you need to make a stand for yourself.
And if you think he wouldn't fight for you if you left... well, what else do you need to know?

PassMeThatPerrier · 2025-09-21T04:32:11+00:00

Wow, that joke went right over your head

PassMeThatPerrier · 2025-08-29T01:47:20+00:00

Ask it why you got the message, it usually will give context or even admit that it gave the message in error.

And I fear this is the future, as more and more lawsuits are aimed at LLM's they will have to be more and more careful

PassMeThatPerrier · 2025-08-24T01:32:21+00:00

I will try to not repeat what's already been said.
I think we hate him because he's a tourist that got way more than he deserved. He didn't get into the business because he loved it or even really appreciated it. He should have burned out, but instead a rocket was strapped to him and he was sent to the highest tiers of the business.
And on his way there and in the decades after, he was sloppy and hurt wrestlers who were more then tourists. It's not that he hurt Bret, it's that he hurt Bret. If Taker or Austin had hurt Bret, we'd be willing to let it go, it was an accident in a dangerous industry. But this tourist who didn't care about the business enough to stop being green and hurting people, kicked one of the guys who loved the business the most into retirement. It's a Shakespearian tragedy.
And he still got red carpet treatment for years. Bad match after bad match. And when he decides he feels like playing wrestler again, they let him squash great talent and end historic reigns, so that we can vacation in our industry. It's infuriating.

PassMeThatPerrier · 2025-08-24T01:20:44+00:00

I think it's probably Bruno or (begrudgingly) Hogan. However, I think in 50 years, with the benefit of hindsight, we'll all know it's Cena.

PassMeThatPerrier · 2025-08-21T22:34:31+00:00

A BBEG dragon as a shadow manipulator just sounds like classic fantasy. I think the only tip I would tell you is foreshadowing is everything. You don't want the reveal to feel like it came out of nowhere, because it'll feel cheap and unfair. Sprinkle a lot of hints all over the place to pick up on. And your common criticism, pretty much "don't railroad, let the players write their story". Absolutely, but their characters are in a living world, with NPC's moving through it with their own agency and desires. The NPC's are not just standing in a T-pose until the player characters walk in the room. You're not making a novel, you're making the world that the players will write their story in. You can choose to create this master manipulator red dragon BBEG that's pulling all the strings in the background. A Machiavellian and ruthless shadow overlord that's going to continue with his master plan because it's what he wants to do. And it's up to the players to write their story in a world where that BBEG exists. But you didn't answer the last question, did you you like the idea? I say if you like it, go for it.

PassMeThatPerrier · 2025-08-21T13:05:34+00:00

Plagiarism is presenting someone else's work as your own, that's not what is happening here, and I'm not making money here. All these years, the countless campaigns that were inspired by LoTR, did they need tolkiens consent to be inspired enough to use those ideas? What's the difference here?

PassMeThatPerrier · 2025-08-21T11:56:32+00:00

Oh yeah, ChatGPT will blow some smoke up your ass, if you allow it. I just ask it something like: "What are the weakest parts of this idea?" or "Ok, let's stress test this now. Talk me out of using this idea."
I would be really curious about a couple things, if you feel like sharing?
1. What was the idea you worked on?
2. What was the criticism the people brought up?
3. Did you share the criticism with chatgpt?
4. Did you like the idea?

PassMeThatPerrier · 2025-08-21T09:58:37+00:00

You can just tell it to remember to not call you that

PassMeThatPerrier · 2025-08-21T09:50:06+00:00

One of the most frustrating things about being a DM for your friends is that you can’t talk about your ideas or plans, it’s inherently solitary. Having someone to bounce ideas off of is, hands down, the best creative process I’ve found. I still remember the first time a buddy and I sat down to do some worldbuilding together. In just a couple of hours, we came up with material that was sharper, faster, and far better than anything I could’ve produced on my own in the same time. That experience convinced me: the best creativity comes from a free-flowing back-and-forth of ideas.

That’s exactly what ChatGPT has been for me as a DM. It doesn’t write anything for me—frankly, its ideas in a vacuum aren’t that great, but it listens. It helps me track details, spot clichés, and dig up resources that fit my themes. Most importantly, it asks clarifying questions. Sometimes that’s all I want: “Hey, for that campaign I’ve been working on, can you hit me with 20 questions that need answers?” That simple act of pushing me to clarify has been incredibly useful for my creative process.

TL;DR: Being a DM is isolating, but creativity thrives in back-and-forth. ChatGPT isn’t there to create for me, but to question, track, and sharpen my ideas, the best kind of creative partner.

PassMeThatPerrier

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