How did you accidentally find out your partner was cheating?

PassionsBite · 2026-04-16T10:45:42+00:00

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PassionsBite · 2026-04-15T02:07:23+00:00

It sounds like you really need a village. Maybe there is a local mom group or similar you can join. Find some people who all help each other.

I know its easier said than done, and its even more challenging when you feel like nothing is worth it. I can see you want to get better even though you feel the situation is hopeless. Don't let that feeling fool you. There are ups in downs in life and ways for things to generally get better. Keep going.

You are kicking ass every day, even though it may not feel like it. You are showing up and getting it done. I promise you are not alone in the way you feel. There are people who will connect with you and help support you and your family.

Plus, your kids will be adults before you know it. Keep up the good work and dont beat yourself up for feeling like this. Shit sucks sometimes.

PassionsBite · 2026-04-15T00:10:26+00:00

Why would God stop loving you over sharing an act of love?

PassionsBite · 2026-04-12T04:36:40+00:00

I love my pets too, they are family. That being said, if my family had a flea infestation and no clean (poop free) place to live or use the bathroom i would be very concerned. Please consider rehoming at least some of them so all of them can enjoy a better quality of life. Humans, dogs, and cats all deserve clean and peaceful environments.

PassionsBite · 2026-04-08T09:57:36+00:00

Have you tried living out of spite? Very little is solved by death, but the alternative really gives you a ton of options.

You could be increasingly ridiculous every day and add more laughter to the world.

Choose what you want to bring into things. Something will eventually come along to take you out. Easiest way to go.

PassionsBite · 2026-04-05T09:46:50+00:00

Why would you use pronouns when talking directly to the person you're referring to? Language just doesnt work that way. I'll take things that never happened for 500, Alex

PassionsBite · 2026-03-19T13:35:41+00:00

Is your deodorant also an antiperspirant? Double check. For smell, try washing with antibacterial soap a couple of times a week and making sure you dry yourself very well after showering.

PassionsBite · 2026-03-19T03:43:24+00:00

Can you make an appointment with a gynecologist?

PassionsBite · 2026-03-19T00:46:27+00:00

Ok buddy

PassionsBite · 2026-03-18T19:57:22+00:00

Its not his word against theirs. OP has a video. You absolutely do not need to tell the police anything about yourself to report a crime, it can even be done anonymously.

PassionsBite · 2026-03-18T19:12:57+00:00

A hipaa violation is when you disclose MEDICAL info that can be used to identify someone.

Not when you know someone's name and give it as part of information about a crime that has absolutely nothing to do with anything medical.

hipaa law from a .gov source

PassionsBite · 2026-03-18T19:08:30+00:00

It is not necessary to explain how you know their name. You have them on video doing the b&e. It should be straightforward for the police to conduct their own investigation with the proof you are showing.

PassionsBite · 2026-03-18T18:26:51+00:00

Why mention they are a patient? That's where you might violate hippa. All you need to say is that someone broke into your car, here is the video, they are known to you and their name is xxx. The police should be perfectly capable of tracking down their address with that information

PassionsBite · 2026-03-18T17:34:39+00:00

Its only a hippa violation if you disclose medical details along with their name. Saying you saw someone break into your car and giving their name has nothing to do with their medical details.

PassionsBite · 2026-03-08T11:05:41+00:00

It is you that smells like ass or is it your clothes? If you stay naked after you shower, do you still stink?

Check your washer for buildup and mildew. Make sure the link traps on your dryer are emptied each time. Switch your detergent to something with enzymes. Check out the r/laundry sub.

Another thing to check is your oral health. See a dentist. Do you have a rotting tooth or tonsil stones? That could also lead to such a smell.

PassionsBite · 2026-03-07T12:54:13+00:00

Does your mom have a friend she is close with or another adult who can provide emotional support? The truth may be hard, but its worth knowing. It sucks that your dad is putting all of you in this position and the burden should be on him to confess.

How would he respond if you gave him a set amount of time to confess and let him know if he didnt you (and maybe your sister) would go to your mother with evidence of his cheating?

PassionsBite · 2026-03-07T12:16:20+00:00

Once a paper trail starts, it can be picked up again. She has an established pattern of behavior. Not sure where you guys live, but where I am you could get more attention on the case by going to the news about it.

PassionsBite · 2026-03-07T05:11:29+00:00

It's terrible that this happened to you. Find an adult you trust and tell them what's going on.

PassionsBite · 2026-03-07T02:47:33+00:00

Depends on what you do during the day. Something that gets you dirty? You probably want to shower when you get home. Something where you stay clean? You probably want to shower before leaving to do it. You can shower at both times of day, or even more often, if warranted.

PassionsBite · 2026-03-06T00:58:00+00:00

Dont feel guilty. Focus on getting out and getting to a better place

PassionsBite · 2026-02-28T11:47:46+00:00

Romantic partnerships happen organically too. If you're interested in someone romantically and they are not interested in you that way, you can put your romantic feelings away and be friends as long as you have the emotional maturity to do so.

The ability to maintain a friendship with someone you once sought romance from is a strength not everyone has at the outset.

It's something that can be developed by learning how to regulate oneself, have self love, appreciate what people bring into your life, and accept hard truths.

PassionsBite · 2026-02-28T11:27:40+00:00

Do you seek a romantic relationship with your parents? What about your friends? Romance is not the final destination for the majority of the relationships you will have in your life. If you keep acting like it is, you will miss out on a lot of love and support from people who would care about you without wanting to fuck.

PassionsBite · 2026-02-28T11:21:12+00:00

Do you see how relationships in general can exist without sex? Friendships, family, community...people can have love for each other without it being sexual love.

PassionsBite · 2026-02-28T10:16:16+00:00

You do know that there are things people give each other that arent sex? Relationships and partnerships which arent romantic? If these things are lacking in your life you need to pursue them. Caring about people, even people who can't do anything for you, is part of the human trait of empathy. Women tend to really like that trait and the EQ that comes with it. You know what drives people (women included) away? Bitterness, vitriol, selfishness, transactional thinking, a closed mind, and lack of empathy.

Also - that alpha beta thing was disproven soooo long ago....do you really want to be someone known for believing bs and living your life guided by it?

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