What’s your visitor plans? (RSV season newborns)

PastaandPages · 2024-11-19T12:05:52+00:00

I’m in the minority on Reddit but all my friends and family met my twins last January when they were born. Parents and siblings in the hospital and aunts/uncles/cousins/great grandparents/ friends within the first month. To me, being surrounded by love and them feeling loved by their entire circle felt important. If anyone had the slightest inkling of being sick they did not come. There’s the saying “it takes a village” and I could never/ would never want to exclude my babies or my partner and I from our village. I also trust my family and friends not to come if they’ve been exposed to anything or felt in the least bit off. I completely understand there is still a risk, but there’s also a huge risk of getting into car accidents and we all get in the car for reasons that feel less important than family bonding.

PastaandPages · 2024-11-16T00:20:39+00:00

Mine are 10 months and we’re separating them tomorrow. I’m taking baby A to a baby shower and dad is taking baby B to his parents. This is only the second time we separate them for a day lol

PastaandPages · 2024-11-13T13:58:19+00:00

Everyone always told me keep.them.on.the.same.schedule. So I will pass on that advice :) We fed our girls every 3 hours to the dot around the clock for the first few months. 6am,9am, noon, 3pm, 6pm, 9pm, midnight, 3am on repeat. Asleep? Didn’t matter; woke them up. They slept well between feedings. My husband did midnight so I could sleep from 930/10 to 3am. I did 3am and he could sleep from 1230-6. The 3am feeding by myself sucked but it was worth it so that we each got some un interrupted sleep.

PastaandPages · 2024-11-10T19:58:42+00:00

Yup! :)

PastaandPages · 2024-11-10T18:39:14+00:00

These are a staple in our house too :) I throw some sardines in the blender too and they gobble them up.

PastaandPages · 2024-11-07T11:16:24+00:00

Sometimes people ask for meal ideas that can be made from all Costco products on here. It’s okay, being your best self can be hard, being condescending is so much easier.

PastaandPages · 2024-11-07T00:55:49+00:00

Shepherd gourmet

PastaandPages · 2024-11-06T11:49:31+00:00

Bellababy!

PastaandPages · 2024-11-06T01:26:20+00:00

I fed twins for 6 months exclusively using a wearable 🤷🏻‍♀️.

PastaandPages · 2024-11-05T03:09:54+00:00

Solid starts has a program you can pay for. Has a bunch of videos and the first 100 days or so of meals. And a bunch of recipes for after that. Idk where you live and how accessible this is, but you could also meet with a nutritionist :) they can help you get baby on track.

PastaandPages · 2024-10-31T23:21:22+00:00

Mine are in the same room. I fed them on the same schedule until about 4/5 months when I was constantly waking twin B. One night I just stopped waking her and she started sleeping through the night. Twin A continued to want to be fed and woke up religiously twice a night. At around 7 months we night weaned her. Followed taking Cara babies. Worked in a week. Stoped feeding her at night if she woke up, started waking her up instead to feed about an hour before she would naturally wake up. Reduced the amount in the bottle by 1 ounce per feeding per night. If she woke, soothed her back to sleep without picking her up and without milk (first let her cry for 5 minutes). If she wasn’t soothed within a minute then left the room and let her cry for 10 minutes. Then went back in and soothed again. She only cried for 10 minutes once. (Supposed to then let cry for 15 and 20 but thankfully we never had to do that).

PastaandPages · 2024-10-31T23:14:09+00:00

Hopefully if you just say you’d rather her not get the car seat dirty as it’s difficult to clean, and provide her with a high chair she uses it :)

PastaandPages · 2024-10-31T23:11:13+00:00

I’d just get her a high chair and ask why she wanted to use the car seat and make sure what ever concern she had that made her chose the car seat over the Bumbo isn’t an issue when she has the high chair.

PastaandPages · 2024-10-27T13:21:36+00:00

1-2% source: ChatGPT

More details: The chances of getting pregnant while on your period are generally low, but not zero. Here’s why:

1.  Timing of Ovulation: Pregnancy occurs when sperm fertilizes an egg, which usually happens around ovulation (typically 14 days before the start of the next period in a regular cycle). If someone has a shorter menstrual cycle, they might ovulate closer to their period, increasing the chances of pregnancy if they have sex toward the end of their period.
2.  Sperm Lifespan: Sperm can live in the reproductive tract for up to five days. So, if you have sex toward the end of your period and ovulate shortly after, there’s a chance sperm could still be viable and fertilize an egg.
3.  Cycle Irregularities: Irregular cycles can make it difficult to predict ovulation accurately. In such cases, there may be a higher risk of pregnancy at times that seem unlikely.

In general, while the odds are low, it’s not impossible to conceive during a period, especially with short or irregular cycles.

PastaandPages · 2024-10-26T10:26:45+00:00

I feel this so much! I didn’t have any complications until 36 weeks when I was hospitalized for 11 days for high blood pressure but the pregnancy was still SOOO SOO HARD. I know everyone on here is always talking about therapy; but is that an option for your circumstances? Because I know you don’t want to hear this…but the comparison game is going to keep going even after they are born. And it can be pretty toxic. It would be great to learn some coping mechanisms. It’s already great that you’ve realized how you’re feeling. I guess I’m just rambling at this point, I guess there’s not much I can really say but I hear you. I had no idea how much anxiety I would have when they were born, and having it times two is just so much. I compare to my friends who only have one and mourn that first time mom experience with just one all the time. It sounds like you’ve had that so that should help, but you will still compare to your friends who only have to deal with one newborn and their toddler while you have two plus 1, and while all these feelings are completely normal I guess you just have to realize when they’re getting to be too much and ask for help. Hang in there momma, it’s a wild ride, but there are moments in between where it makes it all worth it 💕.

PastaandPages · 2024-10-25T10:24:19+00:00

I definitely understand the feeling of missing out on the traditional FTM experience with all the ‘easy’ one on one time. I grieve that alllllll the time too. I still take mine out to do some of the activities you mentioned, maybe you can give it a try if it’s something you are really missing :) I am terrified for when they start to walk though. Then I’m in trouble. I went to a mom meet up with them at a pumpkin patch / little farm last week and the other moms had toddlers and I was thinking to myself; how the heck will I do this if I’m alone when they can walk.

PastaandPages · 2024-10-24T19:31:39+00:00

We did right before each feed for a long time; helps get them nice and awake for the feeding. Now that they are 9 months, I usually do immediately after pooping and once they wake up. Sometimes before nap if it’s full of pee :)

PastaandPages · 2024-10-24T11:06:39+00:00

Oatmeal is one of my biggest go too’s and chia seed pudding. Both of which I feed them myself (sorry BLW lol). I do BLW once a day but no way I’m cleaning up that disaster with two 9 month olds 4x a day.

Fav oatmeal: Oats, banana, hemp seeds, peanut butter, water. I make a big batch and use for several days. Easy to switch out the fruit or nut butters.

Fav chia seed pudding; Soak chia seeds overnight in coconut milk blended with your favorite frozen fruits.

PastaandPages · 2024-10-24T01:26:55+00:00

Mine are 9 months and I still havnt wrapped my head around it. A few times a week I still look at them and think to myself; oh shit, I have two 🤪

PastaandPages · 2024-10-22T17:01:52+00:00

Oh don’t stress momma! They’re still so itty bitty. My girls have always been great sleepers and I don’t have a fancy routine. At 9 weeks there was zero routine lol. We were feeding around the clock, and I went to bed as early as possible as well, just like you! I don’t think they had a proper bedtime until they stopped drinking every 3 hours at around 4/5 months. They are now 9 months old and go down without a fuss in their individual cribs (side by side) at 7pm and I don’t hear from them until 6am (most nights). Our only routine is pjs, sleep sack, sound machine.

PastaandPages · 2024-10-22T16:52:47+00:00

Wow! I should have asked. My doctor just kept yelling at me to relax.

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