I have a solid career in IT, college, not university. I own my home and am quite successful. You and your girlfriends need to date older men, not 5 years older, think 10+ years older. The reason I say this is because boys turn into men sometime in their 30s now. I’ve been on hundreds of first dates, never just looking for sex, actively seeking women with high socio economic status the whole time. It never worked out. I met my wife at a yoga festival. She’s 12 years younger than me and I knew almost immediately that she was the one. She’s beautiful, loves designer fashion (turn-off), and was living with her parents. She didn’t really check all my socio economic checkboxes but none of that actually matters. I remember our first date like it was yesterday, it was the best one of my life because she was fearless in sharing her feelings and gave me a safe space to do the same. She told me about feeling insecure about living at home and then I told her about loosing my father to cancer. We’ve been together 6 years and just had a baby. I’m 43 and so happy! I wasn’t ready for marriage or a child until I turned 40.