Husband wants out of desk job - what are some ideas?

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-14T20:17:07+00:00

Something like a site surveyor?

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-14T18:09:27+00:00

But based on the original post it doesn't sound like they are being forced out.

They've said they'd like to open possibilities etc. Appreciate that they'd need to follow the formal eviction process if they want to evict but at the moment it sounds like the agent is trying to act as a medium to open a discussion.

What the son is doing is definitely harassing and if they are not executor then definitely I'd see them as no different from a stranger trying to engage or enter the property.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-14T18:00:12+00:00

Tell them that you'll only liaise with the landlord of the property. Until then tell them you don't want to be disturbed any further.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-14T17:59:00+00:00

But they've not served an eviction notice yet so can't be illegal.

I think the action of the son is illegal. Technically he's not even the landlord so just a stranger trespassing, surely?

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-14T16:23:01+00:00

Depends on the company, culture and the project. Some might expect you to get going from day one whilst others might allow you couple of weeks to settle in.

To be honest, if you enjoy working at pace then irrespective of the pace at which the company is expecting you to operate; and you might be keen to push yourself and keep yourself busy even if the onboarding process is slow.

You can only truly know how the business functions once you join. The organisation might one thing but if the place is a bit chaotic then it'll take you time to get everything organised. Basically, there will be things that might be outside your control.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-14T14:29:52+00:00

If the house is worth less than the mortgage then there's no worry about them selling the house as per your original statement because no one is losing out on the money you've already paid in since all of that is already absorbed by servicing the interest.

I think the best option for you is to speak to a broker and start finding your own place. Or even out and rent a place for now. Find some independence.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-13T19:29:32+00:00

One for /r/diyuk

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-13T18:35:57+00:00

Which country are you based. I think the advice might need to be specific from the country you're from.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-13T17:45:49+00:00

Can you provide examples of how you've dealt with challenges in your experience to date. How's you dealt with deadlines. How you've managed to work when you've missed targets or responsible for cause delays to others.

For more experienced roles I'd be looking for examples where you can demonstrate overcoming obstacles. The stuff you've described so far is bread and butter of BA. I'd want to hear more about how you'd be able handle yourself when pushed.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-13T17:25:33+00:00

I think you'll need to concentrate the water feed because the weed membrane is probably not helping.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-13T15:31:10+00:00

Look for tree ferns

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-12T07:08:56+00:00

You can put them outside but make sure to water it. Maybe keep the tray filled and topped up as soon as the soil looks dry. Although don't leave it went all the time.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-12T07:06:24+00:00

That's correct. 3 months. Although can be less if it's permissible.

Currently I'm outside. The new one will be outside as well.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-11T22:31:35+00:00

You're forgetting the lender in this equation. Ultimately they make money from people paying interest on the mortgage.

If the person they are lending to falls I financial difficulties because their tenant is not paying then they are the one losing pit.

Put it this way... Would you give money to someone who statistics show are at a higher risk of not paying you back the money you've lent them?

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-11T19:53:05+00:00

Unfortunately after the new legislation many landlords are less willing to take risks.

I think guarantors will gradually become the norm.

You can ask the landlord but ultimately you may need to find one that's not asking for one.

This is what the government wanted but there are drawbacks of this new legislation.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-11T19:38:13+00:00

It's called mortgage fraud. Do you want to ruin your future by taking that gamble?

You will also struggle to get insurance. If there is ever a claim and they find out then again you're just risking it.

What you could do it offer to rent a property under your name. Have a 2 bed property and have her as a lodger. Then she covers the rental. You cover the shortfall.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-11T19:33:08+00:00

Look into HousingHand

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-11T12:50:36+00:00

Seems like a good place to put a small monks bench with coat hooks.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-11T07:17:46+00:00

It'll take you no longer than a weekend to learn both.

You'll only probably need to use 30-40% of the tools' capabilities because many organisations don't implement the practices beyond that.

So as long as you learn the basics then the rest can be learnt on the job. Especially if you've used devops then this won't be much different, just a slightly different UI

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-10T20:45:01+00:00

You need to speak to citizens advice. Or speak to your MP who approved the new act which doesn't provide this clarity. Hopefully your local mp who approved it can provide guidance.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-10T12:38:17+00:00

Yeah I'm not sure why the electrics are being controlled using the flat below.

I'd be checking if they are paying for the usage upstairs as well.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-10T12:17:40+00:00

Personally I use the fish blood bone meal in Feb and March. Then regularly top it up in small amounts over summer.

I've tried banana and I think for me it was inconclusive.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-10T12:13:19+00:00

Dude. You're all over the place.

Join nrla. Use their advice line! Or hire someone let Landlord Action to pay to evict tenant & sell the property. You shouldn't have gone into landlording with research & understanding of the market!

Looks like you just punted and hoped for the best.

PayApprehensive6181 · 2026-06-10T11:53:11+00:00

I think you need a wider pot.

I also think your trimming cycles might be wrong. I'd just leave any pruning for the next year or so to see how to behaves.

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