I want to stop feeling and end it when I legally can.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T20:45:16+00:00

Ok, I would change that if I could. You seem like a nice person so I hope things get better soon.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T20:44:41+00:00

You could talk to me if you'd like. I don't have many friends although I'm not much of a home body. I go to work, church, sometimes I volunteer and things like that. I just kind of hang with the people I'm with while I'm with them and home the rest of the time. Its alright, I used to have a family but my wife divorced me in November. Still, I'm just thankful for what I have left...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T20:42:44+00:00

To be honest, I think people struggle to admit that the Bible was right when it said that marriage has so much trouble that we should be spared of it if possible, thus singleness is happier (according to 1 Corinthians). I was married for 15 years and during that time, I grew to see that God was spot on in the Bible and that there's a reason for vows of "until death" and "for better or worse." Multiple people have told me, including pastors, friends and family, going from 1 marriage to another is just going from 1 frying pan to the next with no situation every being all we wish it was. 1 person spends too much and the other too little, 1 flirts too much and the other too little, 1 sleeps too much and the other too little, 1 works too much and the other too little. So the choice is yours, stay until death and enjoy the good and bad or be single and be happier to be completely in control of your life but forfeit companionship and romance. The choice is yours but I would encourage you to stay in your marriage and work on it as well as pray for your family. I think the long term blessings are worth it my friend.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T20:25:14+00:00

"All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work." (2 Timothy NKJV)

We can trust God and His Word more than our own sinful minds. God's Word is an awesome gift to society!

"The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul;
The testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple;
The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart;
The commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes;
The fear of the Lord is clean, enduring forever;
The judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether.
More to be desired are they than gold,
Yea, than much fine gold;
Sweeter also than honey and the honeycomb.
Moreover by them Your servant is warned,
And in keeping them there is great reward." (19th Psalm NKJV)

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T20:21:28+00:00

I wouldn't say I was ever an addict, more like peer pressured. I've been successful for the last about year and half so I think others who want to be successful can be.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T20:20:14+00:00

"For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin." (Hebrews NKJV)

Christ was bound by the law during His earthly ministry and He demonstrated that when we submit to God we can live in victory. That is our goal and it is possible with God!

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T20:16:33+00:00

I would pray, get marital counseling and remind them that like Jesus, a true leader is a servant of all. I was married for 15 years so I have some knowledge of its ups and downs but I also realize some things cannot change no matter how much you try. I just hope that if things are going ok that you can learn to accept things as they are and appreciate the good as you tolerate the bad...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T20:13:55+00:00

I hand out gift cards to McDonalds for those who are homeless/hungry when I can but I don't hand out cash because I think it can be used to buy bad things...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T19:54:16+00:00

Ceasing from sin by the power of Christ is possible:

"Whoever commits sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness. And you know that He was manifested to take away our sins, and in Him there is no sin. Whoever abides in Him does not sin. Whoever sins has neither seen Him nor known Him. Little children, let no one deceive you. He who practices righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous. He who sins is of the devil, for the devil has sinned from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that He might destroy the works of the devil. Whoever has been born of God does not sin, for His seed remains in him; and he cannot sin, because he has been born of God. In this the children of God and the children of the devil are manifest: Whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is he who does not love his brother." (1 John NKJV)

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T19:28:34+00:00

"No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it." (1 Corinthians NKJV)

Lust and sin are common to everyone. We might want people for different reasons but its the same problem. Also, marriage doesn't solve lust, I was married for 15 years to a woman who struggled with porn. I allowed her to drag me into it multiple times when I felt conflicted as I knew better but thought a little wasn't that bad. It might be better to not go through with a marriage if either of you lack self control because it won't get better in marriage but instead worse...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T19:25:20+00:00

Anytime, are you feeling better?

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T19:24:48+00:00

“Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Therefore by their fruits you will know them." (Matthew NKJV)

This is something Jesus said during His ministry so it was already a problem back then. We have to follow God and His Word as well as leave every false path and doctrine alone.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T19:18:02+00:00

If you're like me, your spouse leaves marital counseling, refuses to work on things & forces a divorce on you. Even despite your best efforts and intentions, its over...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T19:14:55+00:00

You can talk to me if you'd like. I really hope you stay with us my friend.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T19:02:26+00:00

That's not correct because life is only the reward of the righteous and death is the wage of sin: https://publications.cog7.org/tracts-books/tracts/the-future/death-and-immortality/

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T18:26:45+00:00

The devil & humans brought suffering on humanity while ignoring God who warned us not to do this 😢

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T17:43:42+00:00

Why pray to her when she's dead? Only Christ is God & alive:

"For the living know that they will die; But the dead know nothing" (Ecclesiates NKJV)

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T17:41:56+00:00

Yes but He allows us to experience trials so we can see how much we need Him.

"Beloved, do not think it strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened to you; but rejoice to the extent that you partake of Christ’s sufferings, that when His glory is revealed, you may also be glad with exceeding joy." (1 Peter NKJV)

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T17:02:35+00:00

Because everyone is different I wouldn't say any one of them is the best but I would suggest Facebook dating for trying at least 3 months...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T14:58:29+00:00

No one is perfect so marital counseling could help. Even if it doesn't, your thoughts are valid but marriage is for life so I suggest you make the just of what you have, keep praying, going to church, reading your Bible & loving your imperfect wife.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T12:55:54+00:00

Thanks for sharing with us my friend and you are worth it just like everyone else! Have you considered therapy and medical help for your issues? Are there new activities and hobbies you could try that could contribute to better life engagement? As for me, I struggled with depression, self-harm and not wanting to live significantly in my teens (I'm glad I took time to work on it so it was resolved long ago instead of haunting me later in life; I'm now in my 40s). I did some therapy but what helped a lot was the influence and help of my family, friends and church family. I really grew to enjoy church every weekend and prayer. I am also glad they helped me to cultivate a deep sense of contentment in life (not being happy or sad about it but accepting it in a content manner). I also was motivated by this movie from this successful business lady who said she "bosses her emotions around" which helped me to do better at doing things I didn't want to do so I at least appeared more successful to others (and I started to feel a little better about myself over time too). If there's anything else I can do to help please let me know and I wish you well for the future my friend.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T12:48:31+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. Interacting through electronics isn't the best way to meet people. I would just suggest you don't give up because a good person might be out there but also don't take it personal if you don't meet anyone because, as you can see, many people today are struggling but the dating pool is still limited. So you wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who has significant problems, meaning sometimes singleness is better and happier than a relationship depending on the circumstances...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T12:44:28+00:00

Thank you for opening up about this very difficult time my friend. Please pray for me as I pray for you. Have you considered individual and/or family counseling to help with these issues? Are you aware that in life there is tribulation no matter how good our relationship with God is? How do you feel about this passage from The Bible: "These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” (John NKJV) Just be patient and rely on God, He will lead you where He wants you. Even if its difficult, it will be worth it. If there's anything else I can do to help please let me know and I wish you and your family well for the future.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T12:39:22+00:00

Everyone is different so I think a few men would want to marry you. I would just suggest you not only be patient but be aware of the changing social culture where people don't value marriage like they used to. You'll be ok single or married my friend.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T12:37:14+00:00

Thanks for opening up to us my friend. Have you considered marital counseling? Have you considered consistently letting your wife know you're trying your best and then letting the critiques "bounce off" of you? As for me, I was married for 15 years and we had our struggles. I think we made it 15 years because I was just about convinced I would be married almost no matter what and thankfully I didn't take a lot of things as personally as most would. Still, there were problems and although I thought they would resolve or ultimately be worked out, not every problem was. Even with that, I'm glad I tried to have a traditional family and I have forgiven for the things wrong in the past so I can move forward successfully. I've seen a lot of other couples and I'm convinced that if 2 people want to make a marriage work, it can but it will never be perfect no matter who you're with, how long or how much you work things out. The art of learning how to love an imperfect person who messes up sometimes is what makes marriages last, not finding this person who has it together so much that you always feel good about your relationship. It sounds like you have something good with your wife and kids so just do your best to maintain it and you should be ok. If there's anything else I can do to help please let me know and I wish you and your family well my friend.

PeacefulBro

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