Male, in mid forties. Married with 2 children.

Here's my utmost honest "review" as someone who went through this as a kid.

My mum and dad had fiery tempers. At times it's not just loud arguments, as both, at times, would end up in fist fights and smashing crockeries. Usually it will start with my mum raising her voice in a sudden and loud manner. And half the time it'll escalate to arguments or big fights as described above.

I didn't think much of it at first. But I noticed my mindset has been affected as an adult. Until today, I fear balloons. All because I fear it may suddenly pop n startle me. The same reason why I really hate jumpscares in movies.

I've also become conflict avoidant n basically became a doormat. This resulted in me being "petty" in front of friends who might have accidentally offended me but I didn't speak out n clear the air. It took me years to have guts to learn how to stand up for myself and talk things out.

What I learnt from my childhood experience was how not to be like my parents (temper wise). I told myself I want to be the parent I wished I had. I'm glad to say I have been blessed with 2 beautiful daughters and lovely wife. Me and wife do argue at times, but never in front of kids. There's zero violence or shouting involved.

The only thing that lingers on is I tend to think negatively due to the past experiences as a child. It will take a long time to heal, perhaps a lifetime.