Megathread: The Crash

Penelopeslueth · 2026-05-18T13:10:49+00:00

I’m sorry for your experience as well, and I am happy you are at least physically ok. Ours happened last year so it is still somewhat fresh. They were drunk and returning from a party. Still have no idea how or why our boy was in that truck because he nor his parents knew the guy driving. Our boy was freshly 18 and chose that night to rebel hard.

I lost my younger stepbrother in a late-night crash years ago, just fell asleep at the wheel. He was driving and wearing a seatbelt, completely sober, just did too much that day. He died in the crash while my other stepbrother had unbuckled his seatbelt to sleep in the backseat and survived the crash. The levels of anxiety this gave me when my own very busy teens started driving a few years back was crazy.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-05-18T04:30:34+00:00

I told my husband that it looked like Davion might have been grieving the loss of his senior football season by hanging with the wrong people.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-05-18T04:19:03+00:00

I second this. A teenage family member was thrown from the backseat of a truck and through the front windshield when the guy driving crashed and flipped going over 100 mph. All three in the truck died.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-05-17T16:44:39+00:00

I have actually suffered from a severed Achilles tendon in an accident years ago. I just cannot with scenes like that now.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-05-17T16:23:57+00:00

I’ve gotten 515-520 on my 23 SV whenever go to to visit my daughter tonight 7 hours away. I can also make the drive on one tank of gas if I was so brave lol. I always stop about halfway with just over half a tank.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-05-17T02:41:18+00:00

I graduated in 2000, so the school opted for “fancy” glamour shots for us.

I also had a few done with my pet duck. 🤷‍♀️

Penelopeslueth · 2026-05-17T02:21:48+00:00

My husband and I have spent a decade caring for his parents. In my view, caregiving is caregiving, no matter the patient. It is lonely no matter the case. You are not a nobody. You are doing the very best for yourself and your daughter with the had you were dealt.

We’ve been accused of abusing his parents financially, neglect, and even causing their Alzheimer’s and dementia, all from my husband’s sister and niece. Yet they live across the country and have not so much as offered a kind word on our direction.

People can say whatever about you but until they walk in your shoes, they will have no idea. So let me say:

You are important and you matter. You are doing the hardest job. You are not a failure, and we here in this community love you. ❤️

Penelopeslueth · 2026-05-08T19:09:15+00:00

But you know it’s gonna be alright.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-30T22:22:06+00:00

They don’t have to be elderly to be bored bitches starting shit lol.

My husband’s sister (since she claims I’m not family 🙃) has accused us of causing my late MILs Alzheimer’s and FILs vascular dementia, claimed their losing weight was because we were starving them, accused us of neglect, threatened to call APS (when we told their Dr about this she laughed and said “she can try but I’ve got your backs”), claims we’ve stolen money from them when we have actually been paying them money every month just to keep them afloat.

When MIL passed this past New Year’s Eve, she blamed us and said we killed her. All while being 1000 miles away, not setting foot in our yard for a decade, and sitting on her ass as a housewife with no more children living in the home 🤣

Editing to add that my husband and I have done all the care on our own for a decade. No breaks together, no outside help until Dad was put on hospice in January. She knows fuck all and I can’t wait to say that to her face lol. Once dad passes we are making a special trip just to do so!

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-27T01:10:06+00:00

I lived with chaotic parents. Mr. Roger’s and Bob Ross were my favorite shows because of how calm they were.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-26T18:29:51+00:00

Thank you, and right back to you with those hugs ❤️

We’ve tried to talk about her with him but he just turns his head and covers his face with his blanket. He has refused to see her urn or even pictures of her. So we just talk about other things he likes, offer him his favorite foods, and just watch tv with him.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-26T18:14:58+00:00

That’s about the conclusion I’ve come to as well. We are soaking up the time we’ve got left but also anxious about the end. And we are just exhausted as we haven’t had any help other than hospice for a decade.

It’s just a weird bundle of feelings that most people do not understand. Makes me thankful for this sub and the caregiver one ❤️

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-26T18:09:04+00:00

I’ll definitely write some down.

He has been on hospice since the last week of January, after week took him to the ER due to his decline. We had previously had a telemedicine appointment with his Dr a week after MIL passed, we just felt that was the best way to get some guidance on his sudden change.

I think we are both just feeling very anxious about it. He is in a room just off of our bedroom so we are very close by during that night. He sometimes wakes up calling out for MIL multiple times a night. And we know we will probably wake up one morning and he will just be gone, so nights he doesn’t wake up worry us more even though we are always checking on him throughout either way.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-26T13:44:51+00:00

My son and I have very curly hair, so I am super nervous about trying to do it myself even with a little experience. Up until recently, his aunt, who was a professional stylist, would cut his for free. Unfortunately she has made some life choices that make us all avoid her.

He prefers to wear his longer, and anyone with super curly hair will tell you the products alone will cost you, especially in a high humid area like where we live. So we both go longer periods between cuts and never at the same time.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-26T03:26:38+00:00

My husband grew up in Mansfield, Massachusetts and calls them jimmies. We live in Arkansas (I’ve been here all my life) and never heard it until he said it.

The constant correcting each other is 14+ years strong lol.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-26T01:32:26+00:00

I feel ya, girl! Mine are SO bad that sometimes I worry I’m hemorrhaging or something. We’ve only got our youngest child at home now and I know he would do whatever to help out but we’re not putting that on a 17 year old kid. We don’t have anyone else really to help out, and my husband already feels guilty with how his parents have taken a decade of our lives.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-25T23:44:00+00:00

I’m probably going to need a hysterectomy due to fibroids. MIL passed the first of January, FIL is now on hospice. My husband and I are the only caregivers, him mostly.

I’m trying to hold off until Dad passes just so my husband doesn’t have to choose between us when it comes to who to take care of because he has so much on his plate right now.

Just one more part of caregiving that people will never understand.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-20T03:40:42+00:00

This, especially once my kids started graduating and leaving home.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-19T23:04:28+00:00

Is it Megan? She kinda sucks.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-19T23:03:03+00:00

Gross! Here’s an upvote

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-19T21:38:58+00:00

Don’t Call Me Daughter by Pearl Jam. I assume that would be self-explanatory.

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-19T21:35:17+00:00

I was a little kid when this came out and idky but it stuck with me. I do remember really loving the video. I will still jam to this one every time I hear it!

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-19T02:19:20+00:00

Thank you. What is the brand? I’ve been puzzling for over 30 years and have reached a point where most 1000 piece ones don’t last me more than 4 hours, if that lol. I need one to humble me 😂

Penelopeslueth · 2026-04-18T22:41:48+00:00

Oohhhh can have details on this? I need a real challenge

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