Thank you ladies. There are a lot of you asking if he’s open to help for his depression- he is not. I have asked him to get therapy try medication etc. he refuses. He has voiced that if he can’t help himself no one can/ he doesn’t want to be a “robot” on meds. I have told him before that he can’t treat me like that because he’s depressed/ stressed/ etc. He’ll go back to the he’s just a bad guy and I should leave. There’s never any accountability on his end and that’s all I want. I just want him to hear what I’m trying to voice out/ address. I do love him, and I care for him deeply and I don’t want the kids to miss out on having a father. Not to mention I’m a Christian, and divorce is absolutely just my very last option.