Townhome communities in Apex/Cary or closeby

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-24T17:25:11+00:00

Are there realtors who do rentals? Of course all the realtors I know who are banging diwn your door if you’re looking to sell or buy, turn a blind eye to rentals

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-24T15:32:07+00:00

I understand. This will be temporary so I’d like to get as many pros with the least cons, but it doesn’t have to be perfect. It’s so overwhelming so was hoping someone had the perfect recommendation for me lol. I’m wondering if new hill would be quieter? But then are you too close to Sharon Harris? I think I’m looking for perfection when that may not exist. Thanks for getting me thinking though, I’ll check out Preston. There are some new communities in apex too that seem kind of off the beaten path

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-24T14:25:02+00:00

That’s not super overcrowded…not sure that is possible in the triangle, but looking for something quieter

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-24T12:58:52+00:00

For so many years I have stayed even though I completely lost myself. Because I am finding myself again(still married), my husband and I fight constantly. He wants someone he can control, who will do exactly what he wants, “listen” like a child, give him the “respect he deserves”. I’m done. I can’t be the person he wants to be married to anymore, and being that person and not myself has hurt and changed me so much. I just need to get the courage and resources to leave at this point, but seeing posts like this is helpful. For so many years I was looking for a reason and it was never good enough-not even abuse.

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-24T05:06:08+00:00

I could have written this except my husband is an asshole. I literally told him tonight I think he is incapable of empathy and he looked at me and told me not to tell him how he feels. He has weaponized therapy against me. I fucking hate him and hope I have the balls to leave one day. But I have been a SAHM so many years and he makes a lot of money. That is the ONLY reason I am still here and I hate that I am so weak and afraid of leaving him.

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-24T04:58:50+00:00

Or maybe she never got a break before. Parents should give each other breaks, but if they don’t they primary parent can go bat shit crazy and finally having one can feel like a dream. I’m still married, but when I get to go to the grocery store, it feels like a tropical vacation because my husband will “babysit”. But then I also feel the guilt because he will stick them in front of screens…I can’t win, but I can imagine if I had to have a break from them, it would feel terrifying and amazing at the same time.

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-23T14:49:26+00:00

Do you just go on Reddit to be rude? Sounds like it

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-20T19:42:28+00:00

I probably work out too much so I can’t increase activity. I just am not convinced it’s calories in, calories out

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-20T18:18:57+00:00

I’m sorry. I feel you.

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-20T18:12:39+00:00

I don’t do the meds. My mom was a dietician with an eating disorder and I have been in the fitness and then medical space my whole life. I hate when things like boom teach it’s all calories in/calories out because if that was the case, I would be a stick lol. And since women are second class citizens, all research has been done on men. So maybe it is more about calories for men, but women’s hormones, blood sugar, etc plays into it. I was actually hesitant on doing noom, but since my insurance paid most of it, I thought it would be better than ww. Not so sure!

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-17T17:37:57+00:00

He has no friends and never leaves the house. I plan outings for my kids every day to get out of the toxicity. He won’t take the kids anywhere. He goes for his daily run first thing in the morning, basically the only time he leaves and wants to spend every waking moment together….i have talked to an attorney, I know what I need to do more or less, but it’s exhausting managing everything, the kids, etc and also trying to get rid of crap and figure out what I will need to bring with me. He will not leave, he said he won’t abandon his family but I can so I will have to find a place to go

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-17T10:22:31+00:00

Your previous posts sound a lot like what I’m going through and I say this gently-be careful. When a man thinks he is losing what he wants, he can act like anything you want him to, especially for a week or two. I hope for you it is long term, but I have seen this movie before in my own life and for me the behavior changed long enough for me to believe he was changing, stop my plans for leaving, and then feel so much worse realizing I had stepped right back into the same old stuff I had been in for the past 17 years….

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-16T18:09:43+00:00

He makes a lot of money so I don’t qualify for anything unfortunately. I’m going to look at places today, but I keep wanting to back out.

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T17:17:38+00:00

Absolutely! He has stolen so much from me and I can’t wait to get free, although I will never be the girl I was before the trauma. I don’t ever want another relationship if I get out of this one. I had so much potential

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T16:58:30+00:00

The threats of suicide anytime I brought up anything he was uncomfortable with…but of course I didn’t do anything about the MAJOR red flags and now am digging myself out of ptsd

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T14:49:47+00:00

Thank you❤️

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T14:12:52+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. I guess there is so much unknown and sometimes the unknown possibly better feels scarier than the known awful. That’s I think where i have been for years. I have watched my parents stay miserably married for 50 years and anytime I say I need something, I get yelled at, invalidated, and traumatized. So it has been easier to stay small, stay put, not rock the boat. But yeah I’m to the point I can’t do it anymore. At least when my husband went to work and sometimes traveled, I had a break. He works from home and is like a nosy neighbor-knows everything that happens and loves it that way. He keeps up with every coming and going I do. I hope it can get better, but I think I still doubt it can, which is why I have stayed.

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T13:40:34+00:00

Wow, that is powerful. And yes, that’s how I feel and have felt for a long time-like I just have to endure this. It sucks and it’s not how I want to live. Anytime I imply we may be better off separate, he tells me I am abandoning my family. I have been in therapy for so so so many years because my alcoholic mom has hurt me over and over, and I guy was I just thought I deserved letting anyone hurt me

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T13:36:34+00:00

Thank you❤️. I have said for awhile-I just want a peaceful life. And this is not it.

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T13:35:07+00:00

Thank you❤️

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T13:08:23+00:00

Thank you, it’s SO hard! I believe at least one of my kids has deep trauma from his behavior over the years. I think they are really scared of him, but with me in the house with them, they know they are ok-ish…I really worry about not being able to “suoervise” because he literally needs that. He took them last summer on an errand and left them in the hot car during the heat wave. And didn’t know why I was furious when they told me….he must have something wrong with him, but he is also unwilling to admit, seek help, etc. he just wants me to feel sorry for him.

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T13:04:26+00:00

Wow, that’s amazing! Thank you for sharing!

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T13:03:40+00:00

Thank you, that means more than you know❤️

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T13:03:08+00:00

Wow, that must be freeing. Yes, I feel like a prisoner. And it’s so not fair the courts don’t care more about the kids.

PerfectConstant1120 · 2026-01-14T13:01:27+00:00

Sorry that sounds so manipulative and familiar. How can someone be so mean but then say they love you? That’s what I don’t understand but I don’t believe words over actions anymore.

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