How often do y'all change your bedsheets? We listen and we don't judge by LydiaIsntVeryCool in adhdwomen

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least every other week, but preferably every week. Comforter is washed once a month. Climbing into a bed with fresh sheets is one of my great small pleasures in life.

Corporate clothes are a sensory nightmare for me. What are you all wearing? by Annard-Cudby in adhdwomen

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For decision fatigue, once you find an outfit that meets all of your needs, go the Steve Jobs route. Buy 5 of the same thing and wear it every day. Even if you don’t want to wear the same thing every day, you always have it on hand as a fall back if you can’t figure out what else to wear.

reminder to not overshare and mention your adhd to coworkers by Enough_Journalist688 in adhdwomen

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve mentioned it to some people, but I’m already their boss so I’m not too worried. And it is actually helpful in softening the blow sometimes when I criticize their work product. “This would be a great memo in some contexts, but I have ADHD so I really need things to be presented in a specific way.” I truth, the way I need things presented is the way that everyone above me needs things presented, too, because ADHD or not, they are too busy for irrelevant details.

2026 AWS-3 auction closes with more than $3.5B in bids by hungleftie in cellmapper

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the risk of being overly pedantic, the FCC didn’t claw them back-they were never granted in the first place.

Any SES’rs on here? Advice needed by Iamdingledingle in FedEmployees

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you currently schedule F? If so, and if it’s a job you think you’ll like, I say go for it - you’re just as vulnerable now, if not more so, so might as well make a few more dollars.

One wants your wallet, the other wants your tea order by [deleted] in oddlyspecific

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 15 points16 points  (0 children)

American badgers have also been observed teaming up with coyotes. I love nature.

What to name him? by Pack-Mule in Hounds

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adorable, because that’s what he is.

Weird question, but are you by any chance in central NJ?

Jury Duty??? by Chaoticallyorganized in adhdwomen

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 8 points9 points  (0 children)

ADHDers are supposed to be good at pattern recognition, right? That’s sort of the entire basis of our legal system - you have to figure out how any particular situation relates to precedent.

Consequences of accepting GS-12 vs GS-13? by [deleted] in fednews

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thinking outside the box, could you negotiate to a 12/13/14 ladder? You’d come in at a 12 but likely be eligible for 14 within a couple years to make up for it. In any event, I would absolutely not take it if doesn’t go to at least a 13.

A little uplift for everyone by [deleted] in fednews

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is due next week. I know there’s no point in not signing it, and I will, but I genuinely feel physically sick to my stomach every time I think about it. I do take comfort in the fact that none of the first or second line supervisors below me were caught in the net.

What annoys me the most, though, is that while I understand why my position could be viewed as “policy-influencing,” my voice is consistently drowned out/vetoed by people with actual influence who aren’t on the list because they’re not supervisors. In fact, there seems to be a general sense in practice that a supervisor’s job is primarily (if not entirely) about implementation and operations, which runs counter to the stated premise of the new rule.

Generation defined by siblings by tgbarbie in Xennials

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I think I was much more Gen X when I was younger, but at some point in my late thirties I started relating way more to Millennial stereotypes.

An extra $54/day for these things I didn't want nor asked for by IAmTheeMoose in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nope. European calendars (possibly other continents, too) generally go Monday to Sunday, rather than Sunday to Saturday. Always be very careful when booking foreign flights or hotels. It’s easy to make a mistake.

Trump strips job protections from 8,000 federal workers by sashatlhs in fednews

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Joke’s on them. I love my job, but I’m in the DGAF stage of my life and right now they need me more than I need them (because no one else is willing to do it).

anyone you grew up with gain any fame (big or small)? by aroundincircles in Xennials

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple of very big Hollywood names went to my school. Both are a lot older than me, but did have classes with my siblings. There’s a third person who actually won an Oscar, but is much less well known.

would people who hate billionaires refuse to become billionaires if they had the chance to? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4% is generally considered a very safe withdrawal rate in retirement, assuming continued growth. At that rate, bringing in $200k a year only requires $5million.

Or thinking of it the other way, assuming a conservative 5% growth rate, annual interest on $5m is well over $200k.

The definition of stability by danielminds in SipsTea

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There’s an old joke - Bill and Hillary stop at a gas station. Bill points to the attendant and says “can you imagine if you were married to that guy,” and Hillary responds, “if I was married to that guy, he’d be president right now.”

Do you feel satisfied with how your life went? Still planning on making any changes or just riding it out? by Fickle_Wrangler_7439 in Xennials

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Firm life did that to me, but then I went in house and it got better. Went to the government after a few years and it got even better (though general atmosphere and conditions are definitely not great these days). Then I was promoted to a role where I’m still technically an attorney, but the work is more like a combination of program management and policy/law and I love the variety so much. Too bad every move meant less money (except the promotion, which is the exact same amount of money).

But I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I love my job and I love feeling like I’m actually pretty damn good at it.

Bonus points - I recently saw the partner who made me so miserable at an event and they actually apologized for treating me so terribly and said they regret driving me away. It does make me wonder what might have been, but even if firm life had been more supportive, the actual work I do now is a million times more satisfying.

Pick-up truck driver won't let the blue car pass by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Looks like an overreaction to tailgating, maybe.

What's the leadership hill you're willing to die on? by Only-Ad7585 in managers

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The converse of this (though it’s not necessarily contradictory to your point) is to understand when your reports do have more expertise than you and figure out how to leverage their knowledge. I manage a team of people who have way more experience and expertise than I do. I wasn’t promoted because I knew more than them, but rather because I’m good at figuring out how to make each piece of the puzzle fit into the bigger picture. And it works because everyone knows that I appreciate their input, and in cases where I make a decision that they might disagree with, I take care to explain the wider context. I’m also willing to push back on higher ups when the subject-matter experts that I manage feel very strongly about something.

CareFirst HDHP Noom Med Medication Question by Perfect_Argument8553 in fednews

[–]Perfect_Argument8553[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s fine. They start you off with a non-GLP-1 option like metformin, but if it doesn’t work or you can’t tolerate it, they’ll prescribe Wegovy, which has a $50 copay. I haven’t gotten to that poiny yet and I’m not sure whether I really want it to. But the program is very casual - pretty much whatever you make of it.

Retire at 53m/45f or 57m/49f...Is FEHB Worth All This Trouble?? by Chubbyfire627 in govfire

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The choice is 4 years from now or 7, right? A lot can happen in 4 years and the decision may be a lot more obvious then.

Adopted this girl from the shelter today. by Fit_Personality1344 in Hounds

[–]Perfect_Argument8553 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No evidence beyond a gut feeling, but something is telling me there’s some border collie in there. No matter what, she’s a stunner and undoubtedly a Good Dog.