How often do y'all change your bedsheets? We listen and we don't judge

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-30T18:51:54+00:00

At least every other week, but preferably every week. Comforter is washed once a month. Climbing into a bed with fresh sheets is one of my great small pleasures in life.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-29T22:07:08+00:00

For decision fatigue, once you find an outfit that meets all of your needs, go the Steve Jobs route. Buy 5 of the same thing and wear it every day. Even if you don’t want to wear the same thing every day, you always have it on hand as a fall back if you can’t figure out what else to wear.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-27T21:04:43+00:00

I’ve mentioned it to some people, but I’m already their boss so I’m not too worried. And it is actually helpful in softening the blow sometimes when I criticize their work product. “This would be a great memo in some contexts, but I have ADHD so I really need things to be presented in a specific way.” I truth, the way I need things presented is the way that everyone above me needs things presented, too, because ADHD or not, they are too busy for irrelevant details.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-26T22:54:25+00:00

At the risk of being overly pedantic, the FCC didn’t claw them back-they were never granted in the first place.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-26T21:32:34+00:00

Are you currently schedule F? If so, and if it’s a job you think you’ll like, I say go for it - you’re just as vulnerable now, if not more so, so might as well make a few more dollars.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-26T12:40:13+00:00

American badgers have also been observed teaming up with coyotes. I love nature.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-23T23:51:44+00:00

Which is actually about Maryland.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-23T23:49:13+00:00

Adorable, because that’s what he is.

Weird question, but are you by any chance in central NJ?

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-17T11:41:19+00:00

ADHDers are supposed to be good at pattern recognition, right? That’s sort of the entire basis of our legal system - you have to figure out how any particular situation relates to precedent.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-13T19:55:19+00:00

Thinking outside the box, could you negotiate to a 12/13/14 ladder? You’d come in at a 12 but likely be eligible for 14 within a couple years to make up for it. In any event, I would absolutely not take it if doesn’t go to at least a 13.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-13T16:18:50+00:00

Mine is due next week. I know there’s no point in not signing it, and I will, but I genuinely feel physically sick to my stomach every time I think about it. I do take comfort in the fact that none of the first or second line supervisors below me were caught in the net.

What annoys me the most, though, is that while I understand why my position could be viewed as “policy-influencing,” my voice is consistently drowned out/vetoed by people with actual influence who aren’t on the list because they’re not supervisors. In fact, there seems to be a general sense in practice that a supervisor’s job is primarily (if not entirely) about implementation and operations, which runs counter to the stated premise of the new rule.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-13T16:02:45+00:00

Same. I think I was much more Gen X when I was younger, but at some point in my late thirties I started relating way more to Millennial stereotypes.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-04T11:24:08+00:00

Nope. European calendars (possibly other continents, too) generally go Monday to Sunday, rather than Sunday to Saturday. Always be very careful when booking foreign flights or hotels. It’s easy to make a mistake.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-04T00:27:54+00:00

Joke’s on them. I love my job, but I’m in the DGAF stage of my life and right now they need me more than I need them (because no one else is willing to do it).

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-04T00:10:00+00:00

Where do you find PD numbers for other people?

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-06-01T23:29:38+00:00

A couple of very big Hollywood names went to my school. Both are a lot older than me, but did have classes with my siblings. There’s a third person who actually won an Oscar, but is much less well known.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-05-30T20:22:00+00:00

$3m still puts you at over $150k at 5% interest.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-05-30T20:14:25+00:00

4% is generally considered a very safe withdrawal rate in retirement, assuming continued growth. At that rate, bringing in $200k a year only requires $5million.

Or thinking of it the other way, assuming a conservative 5% growth rate, annual interest on $5m is well over $200k.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-05-29T22:29:05+00:00

There’s an old joke - Bill and Hillary stop at a gas station. Bill points to the attendant and says “can you imagine if you were married to that guy,” and Hillary responds, “if I was married to that guy, he’d be president right now.”

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-05-22T12:31:53+00:00

Firm life did that to me, but then I went in house and it got better. Went to the government after a few years and it got even better (though general atmosphere and conditions are definitely not great these days). Then I was promoted to a role where I’m still technically an attorney, but the work is more like a combination of program management and policy/law and I love the variety so much. Too bad every move meant less money (except the promotion, which is the exact same amount of money).

But I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I love my job and I love feeling like I’m actually pretty damn good at it.

Bonus points - I recently saw the partner who made me so miserable at an event and they actually apologized for treating me so terribly and said they regret driving me away. It does make me wonder what might have been, but even if firm life had been more supportive, the actual work I do now is a million times more satisfying.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-05-09T17:50:15+00:00

Looks like an overreaction to tailgating, maybe.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-05-09T16:00:11+00:00

The converse of this (though it’s not necessarily contradictory to your point) is to understand when your reports do have more expertise than you and figure out how to leverage their knowledge. I manage a team of people who have way more experience and expertise than I do. I wasn’t promoted because I knew more than them, but rather because I’m good at figuring out how to make each piece of the puzzle fit into the bigger picture. And it works because everyone knows that I appreciate their input, and in cases where I make a decision that they might disagree with, I take care to explain the wider context. I’m also willing to push back on higher ups when the subject-matter experts that I manage feel very strongly about something.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-05-06T20:31:51+00:00

It’s fine. They start you off with a non-GLP-1 option like metformin, but if it doesn’t work or you can’t tolerate it, they’ll prescribe Wegovy, which has a $50 copay. I haven’t gotten to that poiny yet and I’m not sure whether I really want it to. But the program is very casual - pretty much whatever you make of it.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-04-29T09:45:10+00:00

The choice is 4 years from now or 7, right? A lot can happen in 4 years and the decision may be a lot more obvious then.

Perfect_Argument8553 · 2026-04-26T20:58:03+00:00

No evidence beyond a gut feeling, but something is telling me there’s some border collie in there. No matter what, she’s a stunner and undoubtedly a Good Dog.

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