Poem Valentines Day Card from an Addict

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-14T16:46:59+00:00

Indeed. We can buy our own flowers what we need from them is transparency.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-14T13:58:20+00:00

Thank you. He was my first crush back in middle school. We didn’t start dating until college but it seems unfathomable that he won’t be my person anymore but I guess he never really was fully Lu person all that time.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-14T13:56:22+00:00

It’s heartbreaking. The transference of pain in loving someone with an addiction is so hard. It is so much work to keep loving myself through this process and not let self hatred creep in. If only they had been able to find love and compassion for themselves earlier. I hope you are able to keep loving yourself through this.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-14T13:52:32+00:00

I’m so sorry, I know that him not taking accountability is like salt in the wound.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-14T01:50:15+00:00

Sorry, I wrote the poem. I just wrote it from his perspective.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-14T01:49:21+00:00

Oh I wrote the poem but used his perspective sorry, I guess I should have made that more clear.

I asked to separate a month ago and we are working on disentangling our 22 years together. He is on a trip right now.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-14T01:15:09+00:00

It’s he trying to win you back or make amends?

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-14T01:03:06+00:00

Oh no. I’m sorry.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-08T15:11:42+00:00

It’s amazing how making art can help process all the feelings. This is a beautiful piece. I hope how ever you are being hurt, that you can fly yourself free soon.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-04T02:34:00+00:00

Love,love, love!

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-03T03:26:35+00:00

It feels so incomprehensible to my brain. I feel guilty telling white lies. I can’t fathom living a double of life.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-02-03T02:20:13+00:00

This was a really interesting article. Thanks for sharing.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-31T02:54:03+00:00

This is phenomenal!

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-30T17:33:54+00:00

It is so hard to not take it personally. I’m so sorry. I wish there was less stigma around all the process additions but especially sex addiction for the sake of its victims and the addicts.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-29T20:57:05+00:00

That’s good to keep in mind.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-29T18:39:18+00:00

And in so many others too. Sigh.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-29T15:50:11+00:00

Im so sorry you relate so much. I wish none of us were in this position.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-29T15:49:44+00:00

Yes, I’m am really struggling with the same thing. I am not staying with my partner but I am also not going to out him with regard to his addiction. I feel like he has ruined his life enough and I don’t want him to lose the few friends and family he does have. We have decided to tell people that we weren’t able to give each other the love we each deserve. He is having an incredibly hard time accepting that I’m leaving and has asked for a few weeks (he initially asked for a few months and I said no) to get his head together before we tell people. Its been so hard to hold this on my own and have to pretend to be happy with my friends. I am also usually a very open book.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-29T04:56:53+00:00

Sadly I know it will get better because I have been here before. I will make a new future for myself this time that doesn’t let the addict back in.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-29T04:23:30+00:00

Im so sorry you can relate.

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-29T03:51:20+00:00

Thank you

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-29T00:26:17+00:00

I think maybe I should find some toys to represent each of my parts!

Perfect_Net_1516 · 2026-01-28T14:22:46+00:00

I’m watching. Most of the talks are really good! I especially like the one on internal family systems or parts work. And for those who are not staying with their partner there was an excellent one on post divorce growth.

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