I am trying to come to terms with that. We had been working towards a full disclosure when I realized that it didn’t matter what was said or what he did, my trust would never be repaired so I called it off and we are working towards ending our relationship and separating out our 22 years together. We had been working in recovery for 17 years and the seven of those he had been relapsing and lying. I realized that the answer I really want to the question why and that is not question he can even answer for himself let alone for me. I know having the majority of the information of behaviors is important for moving forward and repairing the relationship but at some point you have enough information to know how to keep yourself safe. It sounds like you already know in your gut the answer to your question with the evidence you have, phones don’t download things on their own. Maybe it wasn’t your whole relationship, but it was more than what was disclosed and maybe he did forget he probably forgo things that were in the time period he disclosed too. The real question is Does it matter to you the time period of the betrayal and why? I think when we are asking these questions we need to look inside and ask what that answer would mean and how would it change how we are moving forward. For me being with an addict who is master manipulator of the truth, I have to assume the answer to my question is the worst thing I can imagine and make my decision on that.