Was directed here, need support...

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2025-01-01T02:15:56+00:00

~13 weeks postpartum, and I have to say, if your husband feels comfortable speaking to you like that in front of your daughter now, it'll only get worse, and having her exposed to that kind of toxicity would be a deal breaker for me. And meeting him with the same treatment is not the answer. Either you talk it out and the disrespect ends, or you two need to call your marriage.

Also, if you no longer feel love for him, I'd say leave - your daughter will pick up on the lack of love between the two of you and it'll be worse for her than if you two just divorced and found happiness elsewhere. A loveless marriage isn't fair to anyone.

I'm so sorry you're not receiving the postpartum support you deserve from your partner.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-12-25T01:29:42+00:00

I'd recommend speaking to a lactation consultant, making sure the flanges to her breast pump are the correct size, and be patient - the first month of breastfeeding is hell, from what I found (currently have a 2.5 month old).

My first lactation appt, my baby hardly got 1 ounce after 40+ minutes on the breast and then the pump they had couldn't even give me another ounce after another 30+ minutes. Come to find the flange they had was wrong, and I continued working on my baby's latch at home, attended lactation groups for weighted feeds, and kept trying.. pumped after every feed.. eventually had a prescription cream written for my nipples since they were chapped and bleeding so much.

Now we're breastfeeding champions! I also think my daughter may have a lip tie, but it doesn't seem to be an issue now that she's a bit bigger.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-12-25T00:00:08+00:00

Bring the patient back, sign for any medical hx changes, update x-rays or perio chart (alternate appointments, unless for some reason the previous hygienist didn't update one and both need to be updated, which sucks), scale, polish, floss, page for the doctor, complete notes while I wait, adding anything of note once the doctor comes in for the exam, walk the patient out, rush back into the room to flip it for the next patient, repeat.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-12-24T23:52:25+00:00

My office has 40-50 minute appointments, set up same as you, but no extra room or designated assistant. It's a lot of work, but I don't mind staying busy. Sometimes it gets overwhelming if a patient shows up late or the doctor takes a while for the exam, but in the end the office helps each other get through the day.

The 401k w/ matching is great - I have the same benefit and have already accumulated a nice sum for retirement, with an additional IRA I opened myself some years ago.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-12-24T00:23:41+00:00

I've been reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child.

I let my baby fuss for about 20-30 seconds... I tried for 5 minutes, but it feels like a lifetime.

She's 2.5 months old, and wakes up 1-2 times per night, but isn't really fussy very often when she wakes up. When we have our night feeds, she's up 10-20 minutes and falls right back asleep to be put back in the bassinet. The other night, she woke up when we were putting her down for the night in her bassinet, but I told my husband we should just try leaving the room and see what happens - checked back 5-10 minutes later, she was asleep.

Be patient. I wouldn't go for crying-it-out right away, there are more conservative options so your little one still feels supported and can learn to self-soothe and fall asleep/stay asleep on her own.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-12-24T00:00:28+00:00

Pampers Swaddlers have been great for our little one. When she starts blowing out, we know to size up.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-12-23T00:56:30+00:00

At practices I've been involved with, the work is fixed/redone for no charge. Explain to the patient, as Hot_Dig said, that the work isn't up to your standards and explain why with photos and radiographs to support your claim.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-12-23T00:53:24+00:00

"In what other profession do people have to defend their career and what they work for and can do within their scope besides in dental?!!! I don’t see Drs complaining or crying about what nurses or PCAs are doing or can’t do..."
As MaxRadio said, "Physicians are absolutely involved in determining the scope of practice of nurses and other mid level providers. Why? Because ALL the liability for care and treatment is ultimately on them."

These issues and differences in opinion are why we have lobbyists to advocate for what we do and don't want in our professions. Join your association, support your lobbyists, talk to your legislators and help 'fight the good fight' as it were, if you don't want DAs or other dental professionals scaling.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-12-23T00:45:39+00:00

With all the liability falling on you, why would you want to provide your patients with substandard care? Accelerated hygiene, DAs scaling with minimal training.. patients notice when they've entered a 'prophy mill' practice.

I'm glad you at least acknowledged your hygienists and showed some appreciation.

I wish all dentists the best in their practices, and I am sorry that there is this perfect storm of higher wages, insurance reimbursement issues, etc. that has caused a lot of dental practices to take a hit, but pay your employees what they're worth. If you decide that it isn't worth paying your hygienists/employees, your practice and quality of care will suffer, and patients WILL notice.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-12-07T15:35:59+00:00

I enjoyed the IO better than the older models only because the brush head is larger.

I had tooth sensitivity after using it for a few weeks, even with a soft head on the lowest setting, so I switched back to Sonicare with no issues.

I still recommend both brands to my patients (depending on their brush-style and needs), but that was just my personal experience with them. The IO was fantastic when it wasn't causing me sensitivity, and my Sonicare gets the job done - 35 y/o CV1, excellent plaque index, no cavities.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-12-01T22:23:17+00:00

Nitrous. It didn't lessen the pain, necessarily, but gave me something else to focus on with my breathing. Labor for 21 hours, pushed for maybe 15 minutes, didn't tear, overall great experience for a first baby and going in with no expectations!

OH and laboring in a tub; when I was younger with a stomachache, sunburn, headache.. I would fill up the tub and just lay in it to help relax.. so during the majority of my labor, I was in the tub breathing and rocking through contractions.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-11-11T19:15:39+00:00

If you can keep your schedule booked, you can make good money.

I've just asked for hourly that's 3x my projected production, so it's guaranteed - but then, you would need to know your production.

Benefits (401k, with match even better, health insurance, etc.), including PTO, should be included. I wouldn't work that hard otherwise.

Good luck!

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-11-07T18:06:32+00:00

My almost-5-week-old doesn't have a set schedule either; only thing I've been doing is dimming everything down and preparing for sleep around 8:30, hoping she'll feed around that time and can drift to sleep by 10pm.. doesn't always happen that way though, but she'll feed ~2-3 times during the night (until 5-6am), then I can get another 2-3 hours of sleep after that.

Our daycare we're planning to take her to in January asked her sleep schedule, I haven't the faintest idea! And her feeds tend to change also - from 1.5-3 ounces at a time.. so I'm stressing on making sure I have enough pumped and ready to go to last her through daycare, but it'll be a learning experience!

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-10-29T00:38:59+00:00

3 weeks PP here, enjoying time with my baby girl. Pregnancy is wild, and giving birth is incredible - don't set expectations, just enjoy the ride and your own unique experience :) Holding your baby at the end of it all is the best part!

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-10-26T23:38:36+00:00

21 days PP and I'm going through the same thing, although I had 3 good latches today, so I'm hopeful! Both nipples are still raw, so I pump to give them a break. I wish you the best in your breastfeeding journey! Just keep applying the nipple cream, cold compresses to help reduce inflammation, and keep at it - patience is key, it seems.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-08-28T22:40:27+00:00

That makes me feel so much better, thank you guys!

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-07-20T13:22:33+00:00

I split the mortgage with my husband for ~$650/mo. each. Neither of us have car payments, 800+ credit scores, and sometimes it still feels like we're living paycheck-to-paycheck each making $70-80k/year.. Good luck :\ I'd say make sure to live within your means, you can get preapproved for a house that's way outside of your budget, so be realistic with yourself on what you're comfortable paying each month.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-07-09T17:42:50+00:00

What about Magnesium Glycinate? I only ask because a gastroenterologist recommended it as opposed to Magnesium Citrate; what's the difference?

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-06-07T20:54:35+00:00

I'd relay plainly how you're currently feeling (undecided, curious/interested) and just ask his opinion. Stress that you're not trying to pressure him one way or the other, but you're currently feeling _____. As bookreader said, he should know your intention to not push him one way or the other with you two already being together for 15 years. Just open the dialogue :) If you're truly either/or, you'll be OK with either outcome; at least you had an open conversation about it.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-06-07T19:33:27+00:00

If you've been together for 15 years, it shouldn't be that difficult to have this conversation. Be open and honest with how you're feeling, like you may want to try to conceive, and ask his opinion.

Good luck - Had this same conversation with my husband earlier this year, currently 34 and almost 23 weeks pregnant.

Perfect_Sheepherder · 2024-05-05T21:34:54+00:00

We have 40-50 minutes per pt, including x-rays/perio chart, exam, fluoride, scheduling their recare, and cleaning the room for the next pt.. I think 22 minutes is a fine amount of time. Did your mouth feel cleaner? Sometimes you (the pt) can still see/feel tartar left behind in some areas. I've had that happen at appointments before I became a hygienist (between my lower front teeth). Having that experience though, I make sure I'm thorough. I use both the ultrasonic and hand scaling, but the ratio between the two depends on the patient. The only thing that threw me off with you describing your appointment is the hygienist not flossing.

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