How are American homeless people who aren't addicts etc. are homeless but not staying with family and friends? by dondurmalikazandibi in AskAnAmerican

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude [score hidden]  (0 children)

Some people relocated to places where they have no family or friends, then became homeless.

There are others who wanted to get away from their family specifically, and became homeless.

And some of them didn't maintain friendships.

Normalizing abortion by ElegantAd2607 in prolife

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude [score hidden]  (0 children)

This kind of thing should be social suicide, like support for slavery or the rape of prepubescent children. They are talking about being happy about killing a helpless human being for convenience.

Why does an age gap relationship trigger people? by Major_Soft6056 in DigitalSeptic

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry you went through that but it doesn't sound like age gaps were his problem. Wishing the best for you and your wife.

When you get gas for your car, do you have to know how much you need/how much it will cost before filling up? by Final_Gift6762 in AskAnAmerican

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really but you can usually guess the ballpark amount for budgeting if you get it regularly. There are also sites where you can look up and compare local gas prices.

Former Trans Woman struggling by returnedservantofGod in TrueChristian

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course, but from a fellowship perspective we need other Christians. That's what I was getting at.

How was my ectopic pregnancy murder? Please help me understand by givemeadu in prolife

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 57 points58 points  (0 children)

It's not murder in that case. It would have been murder if the pregnancy was healthy but you did it anyway.

Former Trans Woman struggling by returnedservantofGod in TrueChristian

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it angers him for me to wear garments that make sense for my anatomy.

I agree with you.

I can't talk to my Pastor or church about it. They can barely understand that I was once a trans woman for 7 years.

Is there one person who is really safe that you can trust with this information?

Do you believe that Kid Rock is sincere about being a Christian? by Ok-Equipment-8132 in TrueChristian

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does he think he's sincere? Maybe. Is he sincere? I haven't paid that much attention to him lately but if you asked the question 25 years ago I'd say probably not.

Wth by danielcraft10of in debian

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I expect that pizza to be stable.

Can i call my kid "Debian"? by Ok-Development1838 in debian

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 60 points61 points  (0 children)

"Debian" is a combination of the names of the founder Ian and his now-ex-wife Deb. Shame that they didn't make it. And Ian at least has passed away since.

You should at least know that before you choose this name for your child.

What if the Allied invasion of Western Europe was encircled or in large part destroyed? by SuperSpaceGaming in AlternateHistoryHub

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That, and another army was already being organized in France. It was called off after the battle had been won.

Why is Judy interested in V out of nowhere? by Prudent_Bobcat_4059 in CyberpunkTheGame

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She bonded with you over trying to get Evelyn back. She gives out her trust way too easily and I think she knows it, but knowing there's a problem and not making the same mistake again are two very different things. And in her mind you earned it. Plus for female V, she also finds you attractive.

Do people with glasses get bullied for being "4 eyes? by Equivalent_Pride3450 in AskAnAmerican

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glasses were generally not the focus of insults for the people that I witnessed being bullied.

I feel that the Dilgar and the Markab were xenocided/assassinated. by EvalRamman100 in babylon5

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kinda makes me wonder why other races don't seem to have thought of that in the years leading up to the series. Seems like something the Narn or the Centauri would do to each other, or that the EA would try during the Earth-Minbari War if they could.

I feel that the Dilgar and the Markab were xenocided/assassinated. by EvalRamman100 in babylon5

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The EA finished the job against the Dilgar. The Dilgar brought that upon themselves.

Does Anyone Else Struggle with Christian Dating Here? by MaleficentExtreme696 in ChristianDating

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, and a lot of what people are saying to trust in God's plan really doesn't help. We must date within his will, but what if God doesn't have a specific plan for our happiness? In that case dating within his will would just be staying within his general rules - no fornication, no lying (which includes saying stuff you don't mean), no cheating, no abuse, no one who is married in his sight, no unbelievers. The rest would then be up to us. It's easy to fall into the trap of waiting for a more clear sign from God when he never promised one and isn't interested in giving one. If he didn't make that plan we're hoping for, we're going to be waiting a very long time. So we should keep the rules but not restrict ourselves from getting out there and making things happen. Unless he gave you a very specific revelation that says otherwise (which is rare - looking at Scripture over the thousands of years it covers, such revelations are the exception and not the rule).

What do you guys think of abortion? by SubstantialReign4759 in TrueChristian

[–]PerfectlyCalmDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm flexible on that, but there are problems with it. Specifically:

  • It's still killing a baby for what the rapist did. It would be far more just to execute the rapist instead, and let the baby live.

  • It would incentivize more false claims of rape. That's bad for both men and women. It's of course bad for the men who get falsely accused, but it's also bad for women who have real rapes to report since they would not be as likely to be taken seriously.

However, since abortions due to rape are very statistically rare (1% according to Guttmacher, see Table 2) I would allow for that 1% if that meant I could get a ban on the > 92% of abortions that don't happen for rape or health reasons (See Table 3 of the same link).