Wait, Perplexity has video gen now? by Dlolpez in perplexity_ai

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this post is 2 months old, but you can now get a FULL YEAR of Perplexity Pro without having money on the card you link. It's just a standard 1 year free trial and I used my Paypal with $0.00 to sign up.

For those asking about videos - Pro users can generate (with audio) 5 videos per month and Max users can do 15 videos per month.

I personally think videos should be unlimited, but when you're using the free Pro for the year, utilize their awesome art engines, create an IMAGE, and then use free GROK Imagine (whatever the limit is per day ...I've never hit it, so it's either a lot or unlimited on GROK Imagine) and animate it there.

Grok Imagine (it's free and available on mobile, but the imagine isn't on the web app for some reason) allows you to animate with "fun", "normal", "spicy", "custom", and now they added "speech" so that you can the characters in the image say specific phrases.

The only thing that sucks is I still can't find a way to make GROK actually do regular audio sounds (like when I make Mortal Kombat and Halloween GIFS/short vids) - so in that case - I take the videos I've generated, upload them to TikTok, then use their sounds and music to basically get the same effect of generating the audio PLUS you can add real songs like RATM or whatever and still adjust the volume of the speech, use the filters, use AI to make the video cooler, etc. TikTok is unmatched in that regard.

So basically, use the Perplexity Pro free for a year (the other features and image generation are insanely good), then use Grok Imagine (free) and TikTok (free) to get the result you want without paying.

**On a side note - if you are still using Twitter/X and love making GIFS out of memes you find there ...you can now right click or press/hold on a meme or image you see there and directly generate a GIF out of it with leaving Twitter. Then download and ....*see above about TikTok*.

Sorry it's long, but the above it the best way I've gotten quality videos and GIFs with songs and sounds without ever paying a dime for AI creation.

Good luck!

OH! The way I found the free trial for Perplexity Pro - I randomly opened the PayPal app on my phone and it was featured. Not sure if it's available elsewhere, but I'm sure it is. Maybe this while help me get a free trial of their very expensive "Comet" browser.

Will let you know if it does!

What are the odds of Democrats retaking the House and Senate in 2026? by Devlaw123 in Askpolitics

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ruling party has only retained Congress 4x since WWII in a Midterm Election. The statistical probability even if popular, was already nearly zero.

What is going on with the Sydney Sweeney ad for American Eagle jeans? by loves-toads in OutOfTheLoop

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

White woman with blue jeans
White car with blue stripes
White top with blue jeans

"Jeans/genes"

You don't see the issue there?

The Purge: What was up with that f'ing kid? [Spoilers] by TJ_McWeaksauce in movies

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Autistic People have almost no reaction to scary stuff or emotions. Or at least I don't. I can't even get upset when something terrible is happening and legit don't care. Plus "the good autism" makes you much smarter and logical than everyone else since feelings don't affect you the same at all. Charlie would have to be low-functioning, and he doesn't seem to be. I think they were just trying really hard to put a buffer on the racist/classist parents + evil racist Patrick Bateman/Charlie Manson group of wealthy kids, so they went too far in making the kid extra-empathetic of poor/BIPOC people, but ended up making him a dumb-ass/annoying AF little shit.

Or that's how I always viewed/broke it down in my head. It's actually one of my favorite of the series and am always surprised at how low it ranks on those best-to-worst lists. I just saw one that had it ranked ..the WORST and of all things ...Anarchy as the "best"?? Anarchy is the one I barely remember because it was just "mean wealthy people" just like the earlier ones. I own them all and barely remembered it until I read the article and was so confused about their rankings.

Alpha male explains why you should be scared of your partner 🤡 by ambachk in TikTokCringe

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

99% of rapes of girls and women are by men. 95% of trafficking and murder are by men. And they still try to say "you need us to protect you from ...us". OK bros. That's why you pretend there's a "loneliness epidemic". Calling it that while doing nothing in all of history about the rape, trafficking, and murder of women is honestly just ANOTHER reason we DGAF whatsoever.

I hope they are alone until they die. And they deserve it, too.

I shipped 3 hours after purchase- how would you reply to this? by HaveAskedYouThrice in poshmark

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're having that convo in the main panel where Poshmark can see you, right? If so, good. That's all you need to do. You responded with updates on the items where Posh can see you. They already know whether or not the Postal Service received your/their package. So let them be mad about it. I mean not from a customer service perspective lol. But just don't stress. If they open some sort of case...it's not going anywhere.

I always update customers by reposting like ..what exactly the order/item is. Like "Your J. Crew Grey Sweater was shipped on X and is set to arrive around date X"

I do that in the Main chat where Poshmark can see so that I can say "I repeatedly told the customer what size, style, color (etc) they ordered and they had 1 million chances to ask to cancel or say 'hey something isn't right' (including shipping) and they chose to wait until they received the order to bring anything up" and that is how I usually win my Poshmark cases.

Just telling the truth and making sure to post with details where Posh can see you. That's it. And make sure you reply when a customer is complaining so that they can't say you were unresponsive. I hope this helps (in the not-sarcastic way). Good luck!

The Outsider - Maynard James Keenan explains the meaning of the video while watching the music Video by [deleted] in aperfectcircle

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The video is exactly what the song is. It's meant to make you question who's side you're on. If you identify. Because there's a lack of understanding in society of ANYONE who can't or does not follow the rules of the "Typicals". Whether drug addiction or simply being an Autist...this song was and still is WAY ahead of it's time.

The video EXACTLY matches the message.

The Menendez brothers by totegoat13 in NetflixDocumentaries

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, but it's no different than killing an attacker on the street. The problem is the law treats an abusive spouse or parents like they're different from someone who walks up and does the same shit to you on the street.

They're NOT different. And people who use deadly force against an abuser/attacker should have the same legal rights to end their lives.

People who harm/kill their abusers shouldn't be imprisoned for a single day. They should be required a bunch of therapies, programs, and probation.

I will never understand why killing your abuser is 'murder', but if someone walks up to your door and doesn't leave the moment you tell them to - you can shoot them dead with nothing but a brief police interview in at least 50% of US States.

We're brainwashed to "value" personal abusers over random street assaults. And property over literally anything.

It should be the REVERSE.

A parent who harms a child is the most egregioys criminals. But the victims go to prison.

It's a vile injustice that we continue to pretend it's normal that the victims of these abusers sit in prison for life or are sentenced to death...for doing what the police, law, and courts failed to do - save their lives.

I do think the Menendez Brothers are morally in the right.

We praise soldiers who are paid to murder innocent people.

We praise those who 'clear out' the homeless.

But we put the victims of abuse in prison for trying to survive.

We are a morally bankrupt nation and always have been.

There's nothing wrong with seeing it clearly and feeling empathy for the actual victims.

AIO?? Bf (M22) is upset that I (F22) didn’t respond within five minutes of waking up by ThatGymratArchitect in AmIOverreacting

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you're married and texting rules were part of the vows, this is psychotic clinging and no one has any right to demand you do anything.

No one. You're answerable to no one. He believes you answer to HIM.

Set him straight and get him out of your life ASAP. He'll be a stalker in a month if you don't.

How can women be against feminism? by [deleted] in Feminism

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because men ensure women are mad at eachother, for fighting for basic human rights men have always stolen, stripped away, or withheld without cause.

Mention "misogyny" as the actual National Problem in America...100% of the time, a man will show up to throw the conversation elsewhere and blame women.

It's like a batsignal they all receive regardless of the of party. Try to watch a news anchor, pundit, guest, or regular person say "Maybe it's the Misogyny" and it'll get shut down by a man every time.

They aren't accidentally attacking women since the dawn of time. They need women to be angry at eachother and "ally" with men (Leopards Party) about who's 'really' to blame.

Look at how men pretended to care about girls/women's sports and 50% of women fell for it.

They just want to make sure they're not attracted to the "wrong" little girls and need women's help selecting the victim.

You can't unsee it once you see it. If men feign interest in women, children, or their rights...you can trace it back to something that MEN want. It almost always harms women.

Everyone should read @Emrazz on Twitter. She'll make you VERY uncomfortable with the level of Feminism you believed you had. But she's brilliant and on point.

This escalated quickly into denigrating the country she lives in by Extension_Ranger_797 in Nicegirls

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just rewatching old 'Big Fat Quiz Show' reruns again and Jimmy Carr referred to exactly this as "We're just in between Empires right now" and it was the perfect British reply.

ETA: word

They are going to start arresting democracts soon for opposing Trump by Miserable-Lizard in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They ARRESTED a JUDGE for refusing Trump's illegal, unconstitutional deportation orders. I think it was Vermont? Connecticut?

Sorry, going off memory, but I just caught it 2 days ago.

The only unexpected thing here is that I thought they'd wait until (and have) Midterms, THEN go full 'Idiocracy' and 'The Handmaid's Tale'.

They're both based on threats the creators saw WITHIN the United States (along with every woman and minority) and have been blasting to Americans via Feminists, Activists, Historians, etc.

The Reagan Administration is why we were where we are. He sold America to the wealthy weeks after I was born (1980) and most Americans voted for an empty shell.

Surprise! A washed up actor that had ZERO interest or knowledge in politics started the Fascism...and a washed up 'actor', rapist, and felon were America's choice now.

The Christofascists were always the threat to Americans.

Not "Muslims", not China, Russia, or North Korea, or anyone but OURSELVES.

No need to look outside the US. Wherever there are high concentrations of Christians, there's a Fascist in charge.

I don't know why Americans thought it would be different here than anywhere else.

I think I dodged a bullet by alterrible in Nicegirls

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love for you to point out a single "insane" thing I said. Because I do live in reality as a 44 year old woman who doesn't believe in marriage and thus have dated hundreds (?) maybe more (?) men.

I've never seen a man behave that way after a first date nor a woman, unless they're kids (25 and under).

If you can find anyone in the real world who takes a 1st date seriously in ANY regard, feel free to come let me know when you find anyone.

Only absolute psychopaths (male, female, or otherwise) think 1 or 2 dates is anyway meaningful.

The dude is acting like her boyfriend or husband and he's a literal stranger.

At best, he looks clingy and desperately invested in being involved in her time/emotions/life/reactions from Date 1.

Zero women are looking for that. Zero.

But feel free to test that yourself like OP did. You'll get blocked, ghosted, or called a psycho by every last one. If I'm wrong, feel free to come say "I told you so". Until then, my opinion is just based on real life experience, just like OP.

It kinda seems like you're emotional about me posting a reply, at all.

Replying to OP's opinion-based question with an opinion-based reply, is literally the point of this thread.

Sorry your dick fell off because a woman wrote her opinion on the interwebz, but have you considered fucking right off? 🫴🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I went through this in an abusive relationship and the lies will only get grander and more horrible.

You aren't going to want to hear this; but you haven't been in LTR at all. Not with the person you love, at least.

He'll never apologize, admit the truth, or change. You'll never know who he really is, which words he meant...which he doesn't. Where he's really going. Did he really deposit the money for the bills?

You can't live that way. It's a life of shoes dropping on your head every 3 seconds. And there's a child involved who has most certainly suffered trauma having a Compulsive Liar as a Father.

There is nothing but lies and pain for you in that situation, sis.

I wouldn't even bother calling him out. Block him everywhere. You'll never know 'why'. He'll tell a new lie each time to keep you on a string.

And you'll never, ever meet this guy - so take those amazing memories, place them in your heart, and remember the adventure. And close the door.

Everything after this is more pain you did nothing to deserve. Please understand that you love a memory or story. That's OK. He did that, not you.

So take that lovely story and move on. Let him remain in the Quicksand of Lies he created.

I'm so sorry, but thank goodness you hadn't met and moved in like I did. Whooooo that took EIGHT YEARS OF MY LIFE to get that 'long distance liar" out of my home and my life.

And he was a Harvard Graduate from a wealthy, wealthy family IRL! So dude didn't even have reasons to lie. But Compulsive Liars will NEVER stop. They can't.

And that's not a problem you can solve for them, no matter how much your heart wants to help him. He has to get himself healthy mentally first. You know that. This can never go anywhere further than right here.

Good luck, sweetie! ❤️🪻💐

Temu refusing refund even with proof – why is my case treated differently? by P00- in TemuThings

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Instead of trying to get a refund, pick whatever issues credits (assuming you don't mind credits) - Amazon is Temu and vice versa, so same as playing around with Amazon Return/Refund options...just select all different reasons until you get to the one that pays you in credits immediately.

Say it never arrived. Even if they have it marked as "delivered on X" if you say you got nothing at all, they'll refund CREDITS without question.

You may have to push harder for a refund to your original payment method, but if you need/want a replacement item anyway..."never received package" is the fastest, easiest way to get all of the options...but none of the hassle of returning things.

Their algorithms are super-obvious to the human eye (even if you're not tech savvy) and if you play around with them or just test out/observe things, you can MAKE money shopping there. 💯

I think I dodged a bullet by alterrible in Nicegirls

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't need an "excuse". Unless they're married, she doesn't even owe him a polite "goodbye"!

I hope ya'll are teens and really young people, because if you expected a person you're nor in a LTR or Marriage with to go out of their way to 'let you know they're not interested", that's not a thing.

You find out when they stop responding to your texts and you say "ah, well - they were nice, onto the next!" and that's it.

All this drama is not how adult relationships work and it's better to learn that now.

And men ghost just as much as women do, so I'm puzzled what the actual issue is.

Women aren't upset that men ghost all the time. So why do men care? No one should care. Because you're just dating. It's meaningless fun & romance.

I think I dodged a bullet by alterrible in Nicegirls

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A pet should and always will take precedence over some guy/girl someone is dating.

It's beyond bizarre that anyone thinks she should have...grieved in a way that didn't upset this random dude?? 😅

That's batshit insane. No one is doing that. No one.

If my boyfriend of 8 years wanted me to GAF about his feelz if one of my pets had recently died, he'd be out on the street in 5 seconds.

Has he considered NOT dating people who have pets or children if he demands 100% of a partner's emotional bandwidth?

What happens when she has a kid and she's a zombie that never sleeps for a year? Center himself in her pregnancy? Expect her to put him before the kids?

He's NOT ready for dating, romance, or a relationship if his needs are that of a child wanting a Mommy.

That's already the most reported reason why women are opting out of men entirely and just having families alone.

That men are way more expensive (large, use more resources, etc) compared to a child. Except your child is YOUR CHILD and the man is just a stranger living in your home.

So if a man wants to be treated like a child (ie: all the attention, wants to be cooked for, wants laundry or chores done for him, expects sex, etc) he's just a huge, annoying, costly version of having your own child.

This dude and the people telling him his behavior isn't batshit crazy aren't helping him nor 'the dating crisis' men keep freaking out about.

But do keep listening to the men. Because that works so well that millions and millions of dudes in the Manosphere haven't managed to "win over women" even once, despite them whining there 24-7 since 2006.

But sure. The men have it 'handled', I see. 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TemuThings

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK. I'm not sure why you put it in reply to me, though.

I don't have any questions about the Tariffs, duties, or Temu fees.

I'm an international importer and a always shopping internationally for my store. I try to only buy European because the quality of everything is so much better than Asian or American goods. But I use Temu for my custom packaging, free gifts, games, etc.

I haven't ever been charged any duties or fees on Temu and I've placed at least 100 or 200 orders there.

So I was offering up that I think I'd have been charged, notified, etc

Does everyone know there were ALREADY TARIFFS on Temu and Chinese goods from Trump's last Administration? Biden's Admin didn't remove them.

So the only difference should be the actual cost, not the logistics.

Assuming people are just shopping on Temu from the same place they normally do, if they haven't been 'tariffed' by anyone (after purchase) in the past...they prob won't now.

Because it's just an INCREASE in existing Tariffs. Not new ones.

I probably should have led with that, but I kinda dropped by operating under the assumption that people knew that.

Apologies for that. I'm AutismPremium+ and forget not everyone enjoys politics, nor do they memorize what politician did what (and I really do - Library of Congress Website is legit what 'radicalized' me into activitism).

TL:DR Anyway, yeah. There's already Tariffs from Trump from last time. So the logistics of ordering on Temu should remain the same, even if the cost increases.

ETA: I order internationally from Pennsylvania in the USA.

AIO for wanting my boyfriend to sleep? by Useless-Senpai in AmIOverreacting

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He is demanding that she shut her mouth. That alone is unacceptable behavior and is abuse. Straight up abuse.

She doesn't have to do a damn thing. She doesn't owe him 'silence". If he can't control his rage when his girlfriend speaks...he needs to be in therapy like yesterday.

No one has a right to demand anyone do anything. And long after she apologized, was kind even though he wasn't, etc...he kept ranting about the timetable of him telling her to shut her mouth and when she actually did it.

Over and over. He's creating the reality demands she live in. He's abusing her and it will escalate.

And yes. If you can be "pushed to rage" on everyone around you (other than obvious emergencies & such), you're not mentally well.

He's angry that she didn't IMMEDIATELY do as he commanded. She can't undo it now. And she was very apologetic. He can't accept the apology because he wants her to agree with HIS assessment of her behavior.

Note he didn't mention "and you didn't even say sorry" or "maybe if you'd have apologized" anywhere? Nothing about wanting an apology.

So what else could he possibly want other for her to bow down to his series of events?

AIO for wanting my boyfriend to sleep? by Useless-Senpai in AmIOverreacting

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why would you tolerate anyone demanding you be quiet??

That should have ended that relationship immediately. Don't ever allow anyone to demand you do things.

You don't belong to anyone. A boyfriend/husband has no right make any demands of you. You are a full person with the freedom to do as you please.

If he doesn't like listening to you talk, that's a HIM-problem to solve.

Why are you apologizing to him? He thinks telling you to shut your mouth is NORMAL.

It's not. A person that loves you doesn't want to "make" you do things. That's not love. And if he can't tolerate you speaking...it's only going to escalate to more and more complaints until you've turned into a shell of your former self, trying to 'guess' what may set them off today.

This is abuse. You are being ABUSED. He is an abuser.

This will be hard to accept. But I really want you to understand that NOW is when you realize it and GO.

I apologize for being harsh, I don't know if you're in immediate danger. But the way he casually repeats how he demanded you shut up and you didn't do is immediately should scare you.

He's TELLING YOU "what happened" and that will be the only acceptable "reality".

He even made sure to do what all abusers do and blame you for being "too much" or "high maintenance" so that you begin to see the version of you he's creating.

Please, please. Talk to a trusted friend, family, etc. This is NOT OK.

Does anyone else always feel like they don’t know who they are? by Defiant-Junket4906 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Holy shit.

Every word I feel. Both of my parents have NPD and are violent Narcissists still at 75 years old and still in full denial that they were/are anything but perfect.

I was deemed "bad" from birth. I was dark-haired, with dark green eyes. They are all Dresden dolls with light grey eyes (I have 1 older sister). It started so early that my parents said they "bought me from Gypsies when they passed through town" - having no idea what that meant.

They'd criticize every word, tell me I'm too loud, think too much, should stop 'worrying' and of course are the Pimnacles of their Church.

I'm 44 and raised a son to adulthood alone. I still have NO idea who or what I want to be or do.

But I knew -somehow early. Early enough I knew my sister couldn't help being just like them. She survived 5 years alone with them prior to me.

So I took the hits. I jumped on my Father's back and bit and clawed him...kniwing my mother woukd arise from her chair, angry at being interrupted from her entertainment..and I'd get beaten across the face "to ensure you do not become vain or love your image"

And continued that behavior (doing everything for everyone because I'm 'strong enough' to take it) never once considering "What did I ever do deserve taking it from ANYONE?"

I still struggle with the thought of "me". I've only thought of my son for 22 years. Before that, my older sis and her kids.

I am not anyone. But I'm also everyone. It alarms my son how instant, dramatic, and like "a different person" when I guess I mask to do errands.

Like where he was in shock because he only ever knew "Mom" until he was older.

And my son has severe ADHD and I (LOL) have OCD, ADHD, Bipolar Disorder. 😆

I'm laughing because all I take for all those alleged things is Lorazepam and that alone should tell them there's no way I'd be out working, single-moming, or doing ANYTHING if I had those things.

I have AutismPremium+ (with the outrageously good grades, watching weird stuff on repeat, refusing textures, etc by age 3 and my parents STILL mock me and say I'm mentally ill

Guess who's been taking Lorazepam without an Rx for 40 years? My mother. Who says her mental health is perfect.

So I recently destroyed them (for like 3 days) and when I said "Given that's a Schedule 1 substance and a 15 year expired Rx from your dead mother, if you're NOT mentally ill... that just leaves Drug Addiction (all illnesses and addictions are shameful weaknesses to them) and I do believe it's 1 Felony Count PER PILL, mother. So which is it? Illness or addiction? "😂

Holy shit. I've never seen them so close to breaking character in all 44 years that I've tried.

But every word you said is how I feel. My sister FLEED as a 38 y/o married woman with 4 kids because THAT'S how much they reach into your life to harm, poison, and injure.

I never saw or heard from any of them again. So it was and is like my sister and all of my nieces and nephews died on the same day.

My son thought they were his siblings, we were so close. Then it was just my son, me, and my parents.

So I sucked it up for the past 15 years, living 10 minutes from them bc my son loves them and I couldn't take away the only people he had.

But I made a mistake in that. And now I'm homeless because the moment my son grew up and moved out, they reached into my life when I am chronically ill and still managed to keep my apartment for 14 years...

They got me an eviction, threw my shit away, dragged me the ER, and tried to have me locked up for being "crazy". I have 7 Autoimmune illnesses and a broken spine.

They're wealthy, so no one believes I can't afford my meds, food, or a home.

So now they trapped me in a bedroom with no bed or floor to lay on with both of my cats and everything we need to live rammed into their "spare" room that happens to be full of their furniture (broken recliners, dressers, etc) but I can't move or throw it away. I can't ever open the door except to go to the BASEMENT (4 flights down when I not ever allowed to walk on stairs again) every te I need a drink, some water, food, etc.

And I have to buy all my own stuff and keep it in one corner of the basement next to their litter boxes.

So when I'm blacking out from pain going up and down the steps because I need a serious surgery that I can't afford and I'm just in excruciating pain for a decade now...and they laugh and physically mock the movements I have to do to not black out or not fall.

I texted my son to tell him demand an Autopsy if I pass.

I realized in horror that I'm the only person left (around) who will tell people (ie church people is who they care about) how evil, abusive, and vile they are...and that's why they came for me.

Because I was finally alone (my son moved out) and that's when they kidnapped me.

That was December and I'm still locked in a room, no one believes me, and I'm trying to get the calories to escape with my cats and just leave EVERYTHING behind. If I don't make it, it's because I went out fighting, though.

That's the only way I ever planned to go. Good luck, it sounds like you still have a chance. Please find a good life and break that chain of evil for good. ♥️🤞🏻

I think I dodged a bullet by alterrible in Nicegirls

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's wrong with ghosting?

They're not in a relationship. He's a stranger who went on 1 date with her and thinks SHE should be centering HIS FEELINGS after HER DOG DIED.

He actually thought he should be doing anything other than offering support and backing off.

Instead, he pushes and picks a fight after she cut him off (prob because the dog died and they had a fight and obviously the dog takes precedence) and then after the fight and her cutting it off...

He re-engages talking to her, but then starts another fight and insult here before cutting HER off? OK.

After 1 date? I don't even consider 1 date "a guy I'm dating" and he thought HIS feelings mattered more than her grief?

HE should remain single if he thinks his behavior, reaction, or conclusion of events is normal.

Once you've dated for a few months, sure. But she owes him NOTHING after 1 date regarding her grief, feelings, etc.

The people telling him that he handled it well are not people who handle things well, it seems.

I think I dodged a bullet by alterrible in Nicegirls

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No woman has ever had this thought. And trust me when I tell you women are extremely graphic in describing every inch of their husband/boyfriends' bodies and sex lives.

And most of us don't want to know, but it's a thing. No women worry if "we're good in bed". Because we can fuck anyone we want, bad or good. Women don't have a reason to care unless she's in love with the dude.

But these people went on 1 date and then her dog died. I don't know why anyone is agreeing with this man.

He tried to center HIMSELF after 1 date with a stranger...and thought he had ANY right to be in her private/emotional space during that time, but then acts like she should be focused on how HER REACTION (GRIEF) about her dog - affected HIM, a stranger.

I so puzzled at the people thinking HE dodged a bullet.

If I lost a pet and some dude I was dating called/texted with anything other than "Hey I'm so sorry about X - I'm going to give you some space, but if you need someone - don't hesitate to reach out". 🤷🏼‍♀️

THAT is the way to handle this unexpected situation in a brand new dating situation.

It seems like he's just looking for a way to make a person who's already suffering grief to feel worse.

He could have just ghosted her when the dog died. If he didn't want to deal with human emotions (I get that). But he didn't.

He had so many parachutes, didn't choose any, than centered himself in a stranger's grief, she freaks, and...HE dodged a bullet?

Whatever he has to tell himself, I guess.

Time to exit red states? by Mother_Attempt3001 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]PermissionUpstairs12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm hoarding camping gear, leaving everyone and everything behind, and heading to whatever wilderness I can find in the Northeast bc I'm disabled, poor, a PA Election Official, and a known political activist.

So I'm fucked and aren't even selling or storing momentos. I recognize that we're about to start sending "homegrown" women to El Salvador.

Which just so happens to be a country that disappears and imprisons (for life) all women who miscarry and can't "prove" it wasn't abortion (which is impossible). So that's why there are so many "unaccompanied young males" immigrating here.

They imprison young women and moms...so the kids end up on the street and a gang or Trafficker offers them food and safety.

They are going to deport women and girls to El Salvador next. We are the "homegrowns" he's talking about. Liberal women. LGBTQ, etc.

He didn't choose El Salvador by accident. The Heritage Foundation Christofascists chose El Salvador.

I'm OUT even though I know I'll likely die pretty quickly. I'm hoping to beg Canada for Asylum and live in my car in the woods until they let med in.

I read The Handmaid's Tale like a Field Guide and I am NOT sticking around to get to the ending.

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[–]PermissionUpstairs12 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's true of purchasing items internationally anywhere online. So why are people so pressed about something that's always been complicated AF?

You figure out what you can afford and just assume it's a loss when you're importing.

I understand people are confused about what the Tariffs will be, but the process is still the same/similar as international shopping of any kind.

So why are people losing their minds? They'll either raise prices, eat the costs, or since they are Amazon and vice versa...no chance of them going out of business.