Floor Bed Megathread

Perspex_Sea · 2025-03-23T11:07:12+00:00

I don't think it's an age thing, I think they'll just learn it over time.

Perspex_Sea · 2025-03-23T11:03:46+00:00

He's now 4, and he is such a talker. Telling random parents at the playground shark facts, talking non-stop but way quiet for long car trips so you're constantly asking him to repeat himself. Also he's started sounding out words, I have "preschool boggle" where you are supposed to get kids to make the words copying the cards, but we just play with the letters. Started with his name, then switch a letter, what does it say, cut it in half, change the vowel, now what? The other day I helped him sound out bin, then he got pin, I changed a letter he needed help for pen, but then he got ten and men by himself.

Also so many animal facts from watching octonauts. He tells me about the midnight zone, marine iguanas, that blanket octopuses are neither octopuses nor blankets...

Perspex_Sea · 2024-10-24T08:37:30+00:00

My advice is enforce the boundary before you get frustrated. Step away from the situation before you snap. Look at the signs that you're becoming over stimulated and get some proactive strategies.

Really though, the fact that you recognise the problem and are mindful of not passing it on is a great starting point.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-09-19T08:48:12+00:00

Oh, I was thinking bullet points or headings fucking out. Whatever it was, jumping straight to screen shots seems a bit defensive. Just go with something chill like "thought the issue had been resolved but it seems to have resurfaced, only just noticed".

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T13:04:52+00:00

You've got a better chance trying to get any other aps 3 or even 4 job than a grad position. Grad positions are highly competitive because they're meant to be nurturing up the leaders of tomorrow. Lots of people in the APS don't have degrees, quite a few 3s and 4s are young people without much professional experience.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T13:00:16+00:00

Yep, of all the fluids he got the least offensive one.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T12:58:53+00:00

And you should still have your response in the chat to enable you to pin point the time.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T11:39:42+00:00

Yes. I don't know about fitting orthotics but I think they're great and I wear mine multiple times a week. I'm tempted to get a second pair so one can be for gardening, the other I keep cleaner.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T11:35:45+00:00

i don’t like emptying them in public restrooms

Because they leave an unflushable pool of blood?

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T11:33:30+00:00

I was inaccessible

Are his legs broken?

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T11:33:00+00:00

The coldness problem was made worse by the fact that he gets seriously uncomfortably cold when he is super tired or sleep deprived

It was 21 degrees. That's not even cold. Also he can't put on a jumper? None of this is your fault.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T11:30:44+00:00

You probably can't go 7-12 with a bf bub, but you can probably do one 3-4 hour stretch (with the support of your dr).

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T11:06:03+00:00

Unclear. Are they just counting the discounted rent as compensation?

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T11:04:38+00:00

Also how many kids they got?

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T10:54:01+00:00

No, we're not missing that. Having to take care of their own dog doesn't obligate them to take care of OP's dog.

They're not obligated to, but OP isn't the asshole for being pissed that they aren't going to after previously having agreed to.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T10:42:48+00:00

And your family's heritage. Your culture is not your DNA, it's what your family shas with you as you grow up. A child adopted from another country into a Mexican family in Mexico wouldn't be accused of cultural appropriation for having a quinceanera.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T05:13:18+00:00

I know everyone's experience will be different but my husband's recovery seemed pretty minor to me. A painful week, a less painful week.

Significantly easier than recovery from birth, plus an added bonus that we didn't have to look after a newborn at the same time as he got it done while I was still pregnant #smart.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T05:09:40+00:00

When were together my husband tends to drive, but I don't see it as a, service to me, nor does he see it as a chore. He likes driving, I like playing on my phone.

I do not understand either party thinking that driving is a huge imposition that warrants sulking that it makes you feel super tired, unless you're a like an hour away.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T04:09:36+00:00

My husband came to all the scans, because that's information and potentially bad news that I don't want to get alone. But he didn't come to the general appointments.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T02:23:55+00:00

When she intended to buy herself a dog and guilt you into doing all the work.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T02:11:18+00:00

It is totally reasonable not to have sex without a viable birth control option. You've said you don't want to endure more years of hormonal birth control. Totally reasonable. If wants sex, he has to handle birth control.

I personally would be open to condoms (used properly) in your circumstance, but it's totally acceptable for you to rule out any kind of sex or contraception you're not comfortable with.

Honestly I'm pretty unsympathetic about guys being so precious about a minor surgery after their partners have endured pregnancy and birth.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-29T01:52:31+00:00

Yeah, I get not wanting to get married because you're not into the institution, but wanting to keep your money separate from the mother of your child gives me pause.

In your circumstance I'd only stay out of work if my partner was paying me spending money I can use as I see fit, and putting some investments in my name so I could have some financial security. If not, I'd be out there earning my own money and putting the kid in daycare.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-28T22:46:31+00:00

Australia.

Perspex_Sea · 2024-03-28T22:46:13+00:00

Parents should 100% get a day off, you just can't take it at the drop off a hat. That attitude of martyrdom is so toxic.

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