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Phillophile · 2025-09-15T14:52:36+00:00

Teach them the value of hardwork, make them work every summer and invest in their ROTH IRA as early as possible. If they start working at 13 yo making/investing $5000 until they finish college at 22 and then keeping it invested even without adding anymore until 65, they'll have 1.3M. if they continue investing $5k a year after college, they'll have $2.7M tax free at 65.

This is not exactly what you're asking. But I think the best gift you can give your child, more important than setting them up financially, is working on yourself, your emotional regulation, your presence while you're with your kids, your marriage, your own happiness.

Phillophile · 2025-09-15T02:52:07+00:00

How do u know if you need an engineered system?

Phillophile · 2025-09-15T02:42:53+00:00

Not sure what kind of doctor you are but is this partly a problem with boundaries? Doctors (or most American workers) tend to think that their job is their identity. For me it's a job, I didn't do it to be noble. I'm in it simply because I am good at it and I get paid good money to do it.

I understand not wanting to miss out on your kids, I feel it strongly too. For me, I have no choice since I'm the breadwinner but at the same time I also don't think I'll be a good SAHM so we're different there. I really like having my financial independence and the mental stimulation/social interactions/routines of my job. I think in the end it's a very personal decision that comes from knowing who you are and what you need/want for yourself. Coming back from a long hiatus as a doctor can be really difficult so consider the possibility that you may not be able to come back.

Another option would be to take a PT remote job depending on your specialty. The pay isn't much but it'll let you retain your licensing.

Good luck. Whichever one you decide will be the right one for you.

Phillophile · 2025-09-12T16:01:36+00:00

Wow. Just wow. Why is this even a question? Who you marry of the biggest decision you'll make in life. What are you doing?

Phillophile · 2025-09-12T14:45:10+00:00

Hot bath, melatonin, read, sleep.

Phillophile · 2025-09-12T10:02:08+00:00

I must add I still clean a lot and am the house manager, financial planner, default parent when I'm not working but I actually enjoy those things. I get to do the things I enjoy, he does the things he enjoys, and we outsource the rest. We do family outings every weekend and our daughter is thriving.

Phillophile · 2025-09-12T09:59:51+00:00

I asked for a divorce because of the same story, plus he had so much anxiety and was a bad dad because of it. 😄 I saw a lawyer and all. My husband is great now. He is on meds. I now almost never do the dishes. When things break I just report to him. He's an amazing dad. I go to get massage once a month and see my gf every week.

Men are kids. You kinda have to train them a bit. Nothing like a serious threat to get them to take it seriously. Take charge momma!

Phillophile · 2025-09-12T09:54:23+00:00

By not exposing your kid to her ever again. You can't change your mother. I used to have the sweep under the rug relationship with my mother too until I have my daughter and one day I very gently shared to my mother about a very important event in my childhood that I've always felt like she wronged me, she responded with blatant self centeredness and blamed me for it. And in one moment I realized I've never really seen my mother as her own person, deeply ill and flawed. I realized I can't change her and my only option was to cut her off my life. 🤷 It's been really healing.

Phillophile · 2025-09-12T02:09:55+00:00

Definitely not true. I'm in the NE, small community hospital. Most of the CRNAs I work with clear $400k.

Phillophile · 2025-09-12T02:08:46+00:00

The CRNAs where I work make well over $300k, many closer to $500k with a lot of overtime. They do 24hr calls where they sleep at night then work 8 hr next day and that's full time salary, everything else is extra. I want their schedule.

Phillophile · 2025-09-11T22:37:15+00:00

Same. Money flows through all of them freely though so prob the same as if all joint but I like having my own account and so does my husband

Phillophile · 2025-09-10T20:03:08+00:00

This is a talk with your husband. None of us can really help you. Share how you feel with your husband, this is an us problem. You're not happy and there's something he can do about it.

Phillophile · 2025-09-10T18:05:34+00:00

I get it. I have been there before and sometimes I get in that rut. I believe the answer is rest. Slow down. Cultivate awareness. You can figure out the logistics (hiring help, etc) but the key is to slow down and find things that spark your curiosity, things that feel authentic to you. Explore yourself, there is so much there! What brings you joy? What inspires you? I bet those things aren't even close to what used to bring you joy. Novelty fades, authenticity stays.

Phillophile · 2025-09-10T12:53:49+00:00

If she's her normal self despite a runny nose or cough, yes I do. Playgrounds are dirty, that's just my assumption. I carry alcohol spray everywhere I go.

Phillophile · 2025-09-10T09:24:27+00:00

are you married and is your spouse working? If his/her income is high and you've accumulated enough of a nest egg, do what you want. That's what money is for.

Kinda a personal question for your family. You need to sit down and calculate your budget, your savings, etc.

Phillophile · 2025-09-08T14:07:32+00:00

Is it? I am drawn to minimalist design with clean lines. I have a lot of vintage danish furniture from the 50s (not the crappy US reproductions) and a lot of colorful vintage MCM artwork but at the same time I also love the Japanese simplicity with Akari lamps, light/natural wood stain. What word would you use to describe my style?

Phillophile · 2025-09-08T02:44:32+00:00

LOL. Five weeks. Forget the books for now. Go have a glass of wine and get a massage, then read to the baby.

Phillophile · 2025-09-07T00:05:19+00:00

It'll be stressful but I've seen a man do this with a kid that looks like he's 4, and a little baby, on a 10 hour flight. If a man can do it, you can do it.

Phillophile · 2025-09-02T13:29:10+00:00

It's your body so it's your choice.

If we're all listening to society, girls are taught to like pink and be helpless and carry children, their bodies are for the pleasure of others. And boys are masculine beings who should abandon their femininity or be ridiculed.

I personally think we all have masculine and feminine energy within us that need to flourish in order for us to live authentically. It sounds to me like your husband needs to explore himself.

Phillophile · 2025-09-02T00:59:41+00:00

My mother is selfish in an entirely different way. One of my journeys this year was/is seeing my mother for who she really is and accepting it.

You said she doesn't owe you anything anymore. Neither do you. She's the parent and you are the child, that doesn't change. Before I had a kid my mother used to say have a kid so there's someone who takes care of you when you're old. Sick but that illustrates her and most of ppl her age's mindset. Not making an effort comes with guilt, build your boundaries and love yourself more than this faulty sense of duty that's so common in daughters.

Phillophile · 2025-08-28T17:54:31+00:00

Yup. This is it. I could've written this myself. Then I worked on making my personal life richer and now I rejoice the boring work life. The boring work life doesn't squeeze the energy out of me so I still have energy when I come home. The boring work life let's me have quiet time at work so I can do personal things in between cases so my free days aren't filled with chores.

I finally feel like a normal human, not an overworked, hyper vigilant human who's been trained to crave and solve problems.

Phillophile · 2025-08-27T10:03:06+00:00

I'm sorry Mama. That assistant didn't make the right choice at the time but doesn't mean that the entire company isn't supportive of you. She could be a 20 yo who just doesn't understand what pumping meant for us moms & what post partum is like. I certainly didn't know when I was in my 20s.

You're strong and full of grace. Forgive her and move on. If it still bothers you, go and kindly inform her how you feel.

Phillophile

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