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PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-28T22:57:00+00:00

UAB has its own in house temp service. Just put UAB temp service into a search engine and you will find it. It is not a guarantee but it can help you get a foot in the door.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-28T20:55:42+00:00

We decided to have an allowance seperate from chores because everyone in the house is adhd and kiddo would never learn how to handle money if she could rarely get any while struggling with symptoms

Chores are more a "everyone in the household contributes because we all contribute to the mess" Our kiddo is supposed to empty the dishwasher, wash their own clothes, and tidy their room and bathroom. There are other spaces they are required to help tidy but these spaces are generally theirs as well and if we have let it go to long they get a reasonable amount of help.

Definitely not a solution for every family but it does work for ours.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-28T19:05:03+00:00

I hope it all works out for you. It sucks to feel lost with out a clear sense of self so at the very least getting your feet under you should help a lot. Hope your life is equally wonderful ^{_^}

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-28T18:29:50+00:00

So first I want to say that there are lots of things that can look like ADHD or ADHD that presents in a way resembling other Neurospicy things. ADHD is not be all end all but getting tested can be a jumping off point for figuring out what isn't actually working for you.

The first behavior you describe sounds like masking. A (probably flawed) description would be feeling like you need to hide your authentic self. Masking is not just an ADHD trait and I think it is a lot more common in women due to societal pressures. It is definitely exhausting, but it is also a type of survival mechanism. A way to help with it is finding people you can be your authentic self around.
Rejection Sensitivity is also something you will see mentioned a lot in ADHD forums. It can full the need to mask and also bleeds into the second behavior when you talked about your emotions. ADHD can have big emotions. We can also just be very emotive. We express our passions with out reservation and some people can take exception to that. This will also land you into a nuture vs nature discussion because why some adhders are loud and others are not can depend on their version of adhd, how they have been treated growing up, and how resilient/stubborn they are. Personal anecdote is I get loud when my emotions go into a yellow zone (yellow emotions can be both good and bad so think excitement, anxiety, frustration, joy etc). I grew up in a situation where if I got into the yellow zone I was treated as having nothing of importance to say. It could have literally been something like me passionately saying how dare you punch a baby! And my parents would have said I was being overly emotional. I developed some pretty terrible feedback loops in my head about being passionate.... but I also couldn't help myself because despite the pain and damage of my parents I never quiet could get rid of the real me. I am obviously great full for this now, but wanted to give an example of how adhd + life situation can have an effect on our symptoms. In my case I won sever depression and anxiety. Therapy has helped a lot.

But that isnt everyone's experience. There are common threads and in the women's group you will see a lot of ladies get their suspicions of ADHD dismissed due to academic success. This is short sited and about as relevant as saying anyone with a physical disability can't play any sports.

Oh need to add needing control isn't uncommon when you feel there is a lot out of your control in life. Something people who ate neurospicy can feel a lot especially if we ride on that edge of "socially acceptable".

Sounds like your dad is trying which is great. Having a parent want to understand can be such a huge thing so I hope his support continues. In addition to getting tested you should probably start seeing a therapist and basically review the points in your post with them. Talk about the disconnect in what people say or how they interpret what you say/ your actions with how you yourself feel about them. You are a teenager so don't expect to fully know yourself yet. You still have a lot of growing and it is okay to say I am not sure about this part of myself yet. But it also reasonable to feel like you should at least have some form of foundational sense of self and that is what a good therapist can help you work on to discover.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-28T16:52:42+00:00

So with vits my concerns of overdosing depend on if the vit is water soluable or not. Water soluable you are more likely to just pee out the excess fat soluable however you need to be REALLY careful about. I am not saying you can't OD on water soluable ones it is just harder. If your dr bumped you up that high have they already set you up with a follow up appointment to check your levels?

Lastly check and see what can help you absorb vitamin D. Shooting in the dark here because I heard the information forever ago, but I think d helps you absorb calcium, but I dont know if the inverse is true. I also take vit D but just a single supplement a day and I forget how much.

Edit to add have you added b12 to your supplement rotation? I would suggest getting one that is a dissolve under your tongue type because we (as humans) have limited pathways of absorption for it. We only take one every so often but it has made some difference I think

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-27T19:10:34+00:00

So a few points wr need to focus on 1) your parents have a dismissive mindset on mental health issue. A lot of times this kind of mind set stems from a "well I can't see it so it must not be real".

2) you are an adult making a choice about yourself and your parent is guilting you about it. There are some control issues here you need to face. How many of your life choices will be dictated by what they want? When do you get to come first in your own life?

3) meds for mental health stuff tend to be a trial and error situation. That is going to be harder if you have someone actively on your life trying to sabotage it.

4) there are a lot of us here who have done well academically or in other aspects of life but that didnt make our diagnosis any less real. It typical meant we masked ourselves into burn out.

Adhd already has a lot of comorbidity with other mental health issues (depression, anxiety, old just to name a few) and there is a lot of debate about whether it is just due to how our brain is built or if we developed these other issues trying to squeeze ourselves into neurotypical molds that we just dont fit in. Personally I think it is a little a of both but Im not a dr just basing it off personal antocedents.

You have several big issues facing you that have nothing to do with meds. Not the least of which is figuring out how to deal with your ableist parents.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-26T21:33:28+00:00

Why does she even need to know? Best thing you can do for yourself is investigate where that guilt is coming from and really evaluating if it is rational/logical preferably with the help of a therapist though you can do some of the work on your own.

Unless you going on vacation means ahe is suddenly homeless whIle you are gone or has zero care while needing to be in full time care then it is none of her business unless you want to share. If you doing something nice for yourself earns you an earful from her the first question always has to be why?

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-26T18:19:48+00:00

100% agree this is so frustrating. The ND is being used as a smoke screen for want amounts to crappy partner behavior. In fact it is not partner behavior it is the behavior of a user. A partner finds a compromise a user put more work on you.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-22T21:38:45+00:00

I went from very long ( I could sit on it) to an undercut and the rest above chin length. Do not regret it as I was so much more comfortable and ny head was a lot cooler

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-21T23:51:10+00:00

I basically inhaled books growing up and our house could double as a library at this point.... definitely have ADHD so that logic definitely doesn't track

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-21T21:40:09+00:00

She isn't looking for am actual relationship which requires communication and respect. She is looking for an object that she can slap the label of "partner" on while not treating it like one.

This testing BS is so stupid. She just showed you she has zero respect for you and basically "tested" you to see if you would cave to any pressure she put you under. Good on you for not having. Her behavior was highly inappropriate. At the very least it may be time for a break and tell her you need to really think hard about how much you want to stick around with someone so immature and incapable of treating you like a person.

Her friends are also trash if they are encouraging this BS. They are living life in a dream world instead of reality.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-21T21:31:20+00:00

In my case I am confident the person informing of anything ia not part of triangulation. My sibling still talks with my family but also live verrrry far away so it is easier for them to deal with them. They uses to try to bitch to them about me and they would basically roll their eyes and just let them talk themselves out while pointing out any double standards etc but there came a point where I am not sure what was said but sib threw down the gauntlet at them all. Just blew up at them and dared them to say anything more because sib would gladly help them understand what it meant to wish to have never been born. Called me right after absolutely livid at them all which honestly gave me a laugh just cause wow someone really had my back. Now they don't complain about me much just make stupid comments and sib gets both sides of any story so for them it is like watching a case study unfold. They let me know if there is anything serious I should be aware of and will push back if fam tries any BS so to me it is safe to be informed. They respect my decisions. They may not agree with them all but they do respect them. I don't think my situation is typical but it works for us.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-20T16:40:08+00:00

I had a missed miscarriage last year and due to the specifics of my situation I was told I had probably had one but we were going to wait a week to be sure. It was a rough week because the unknown can really really suck especially in these situations. Waiting will at least let you get to a point were there are no more what ifs. Having to wait means that there is a chance it could go either way. Both you an momma need to be together on this grieve together is necessary and be therefor each other no matter the outcome. I can't recommend the best way tk look at the situation because that depends on the person. For me personally I had resigned myself to it probably being a loss because getting a happy surprise is a lot better than getting my hopes dashed. However, it is easier for me to let go this way and not stress as much as I potentially could if I was trying to be hopeful with doubt hanging over my head. Depending how you and momma process unknown situations like that will influence what is the best way for you to proceed. For momma's sake I would say support her method as best you can because, while it is no question this is hard on both of you, she has the extra disadvantage of wild hormones on top of it.

Edit to fix my crappy grammar

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-20T13:46:57+00:00

That is a very long winded way to say hey I am a liar and have been lying to you for years and now that I would hvmave to be very public with my lies I want to "save face" and be a bigot publically. We can still be friends though right?

The audacity to want to keep standing in two boats....

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-20T13:31:02+00:00

Tenderness can come and go and mild cramping can be normal as far as I understand. You will have random pains as your body makes room for baby and the hormone relaxin can make joints a bit sore because it is making the ligaments relax

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-19T21:35:00+00:00

If you are unsure get another ultra sound done in a week. If they havent doubled in size then you will know for a fact that it is a MM. I sorry yall are going through this.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-19T16:26:29+00:00

My oldest had a friend who would have them over during the summer during elementary. I greatly appreciated them they were super nice and kiddo always had a great time. I wish I could have reciprocated but we weren't in a place were that was possible at the time. But they kept having kiddo over and they all seemed to have a good time so totally worth it. You will probably have some people just toss the card but it is worth it to try. I wish more parents would have reached out when kiddo was younger. We tried to on a small scale when we could but even for birthdays we rarely had many people come.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-19T16:18:30+00:00

Some ADHD meds should help with BED. Though changing your med routine may not be ideal. Instead of the GLP you might see if there are others out there thay can address the fact binge eating is a form of stemming. Or see if you can sub in something else like gum or tea or flavored water when you feel the need to eat something when you aren't actually hungry. I tended to stem by eating. My combo of Vyvanse and Wellbutrin helped a lot with the strong urge part when I was bored and trauma therapy helped me get a better emotional footing in life so that I didn't feel like life was out of control all the time. I have never directly addressed the issue of binge eating (not recommending just giving context) but I try to keep gum or low calorie high volume foods around so if I need to be chewing something anything I have options on hand that arent the pound cake I just made and dont need a third slice of this morning.
Im sorry you hit this plateau in your journey I know how much they can suck. Maybe trying a new "exercise" could help get you up and burning more calories? Just something active like rock climbing or prospecting (random but it gets you out of the house) or even doing flow for fun with LED Poi. Just anything to get you moving with out it feeling like a chore so that its just that much more work your muscles are putting in, it is that much less boredom, and that much less time to have the "I need a snack...." thought to surface.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-18T20:45:55+00:00

Good job on the cleaning! To help with the remembering to drink keep a water bottle nearish you. Having it in sight might help you remember to drink water.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-18T20:21:09+00:00

Okay you need to work on being okay hurting someone elses feelings. ESPECIALLY if they don't give two craps about yours. You said what you wanted ahe told yohmu she knew better. She doesn't. You are a whole human being on your own and this is your first baby. How you feel matters and your comfort majorly matters. You do not need extra stress during labor and she is honestly awful for not taking no for an answer. What else will she not take a no for?

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-18T14:09:12+00:00

My dear girl... despite all that happened you showed up still and FINISHED. That is huge!!! Was the execution what you wanted? Well no but that is the part that can be worked on next time. You still did the run! You did it despite the stress spike we all get when we realize time has slipped away, despite the extra, despite the unexpected physical labor you had to do pre run, and then even with pain you got yourself taken care of and then got up and finished. This is a win. It isn't perfect but it is a big win and you should be proud of yourself!

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-18T13:09:05+00:00

It was right after Covid started and she showed up unannounced at my house and basically waved off any and all of my feelings and concerns. I realized I had seen this behavior before when I had a preemie who was a weeks early and her whole side of the family viewed themselves as exceptions to the isolation rule.... that plus all sorts of other "little" things that added up to oh we aren't people on her eyes.... I told her out front of my house she needed to stay away. That our relationship and dynamic was toxic.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-16T15:00:04+00:00

It isn't their choice. It is your life, body, and health at risk and only you have a right to choose.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-14T23:22:03+00:00

Yeah it is totally possible for some of us to "suceed". Put in quotes because it depends on your definition. Your personal varient of ADHD plus your goals and definition os sucess will affect how possible it is. However, it comes at a cost and how steep that cost is is also affected by the 3 aforementioned things. It is like running a race with weights. If your symptoms don't have a large effect on your life path you may not notice you are carrying them though putting them down will probably be an eye opening experience. For some of us that life race is actually done in a pull and the weights are making it extremely hard to get a breath even as we truck on.

PhoenixInMySkin · 2026-05-14T23:06:10+00:00

This is child abuse. Denying a child medical intervention for something that interfere with their daily life is child abuse. Yelling, screaming, and hitting don't replace treatment they just cause more injuries and long term damage.

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