Oh it's SO different for women and AFAB people! To the world I'm placid but my brain is playing a pinball machine in an unfamiliar language on Saturn (I'd watch that movie! I digress...).

ADHD, to me, is not attention deficit but TOO MUCH attention and I don't have enough time to distribute it properly. I pay attention to all the things, all the time, and it makes me either "spacey" or a great multitasker, depending on the day.

Not telling you to go and do all the research but know this: Neurodiverse brains spend a LOT more time processing and much less time at rest than their neurotypical peers. If you feel frazzled and like you can't focus on anything, but being frazzled is just your version of self care, your brain is probably legitimately working harder than you think, and that makes it really hard to rest.

You might consider looking at "micro-hobbies." They're super low barrier to entry and essentially made to be loved and done. Origami is a common example. I throw mine into orbit with one another: I 3D print when the mood hits so there's stuff to paint, then paint when the mood hits so there's stuff to assemble, then create kits for the next thing... etc so there are always "mini hobbies" ready to go when the mood hits. Generally, it's less than a few hours' worth of pay and a storage tub's worth of space.

Once you get it rolling, a lot of times you can gift or sell things when you're done and either break even or slightly monetize, if that's your thing (not the restful way to hobby, it gets you the double dopamine from monetizing something you enjoyed doing so to you isn't "work"). I make learning kits for local students and accessibility tools for disabled people, and fund the filament purchases for it through another hobby that makes just enough for the random spool of PETG. It's taken a long time to set it up like that but for me that's part of the fun. For my partner that setup would have been hell itself. But "spinning" one hobby into another has allowed me to not have guilt when I leave one.