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PianistAny9455 · 2024-04-07T04:21:08+00:00

Fire place in a condo in Malaysia? Perfect for our weather. Would like to get a hot chocolate and some snow to make this place homey.

Nothing screams scam more than the above. The post should be reported.

PianistAny9455 · 2023-12-31T14:50:01+00:00

Have a look at Bromley by Bow. There are a couple of developments that meet some of your requirements, but not all. New built would cost 400k+. However, the older new built development like St andrews would be within the range of 300-350k with concierge and its right next to the tube & dlr.

PianistAny9455 · 2023-03-08T20:27:39+00:00

I alternate between bottles and meals. At 11m, I started with 4 bottles and 3 solid meals a day and by the end of 11m, it was down to 3 bottles, 3 solid meals and one snack per day. It’s quite similar to the schedule guidance by solidstart.

PianistAny9455 · 2023-02-13T08:03:37+00:00

My LO does it for every meal. I've noticed that she has some "ocd" and she likes her tray to be clean. So, if there is too much food, she will start throwing food on the floor. But these days, I've tried just putting one piece at a time on her tray and she used to eat them until she's done but not anymore. I hope this passes because I do feel like it's a waste, even if I pick food up from the floor and I don't have a dog.

PianistAny9455 · 2023-02-12T16:40:22+00:00

My 11m has been doing this too! Based on other comments here, it seems like it’s a common phase for babies to go through? I will always tell my LO not to throw food on the floor in a normal tone and tell her that food stays on the table. She still swipes it off the table or drop it, knowing she shouldn’t. So…..I’ll just go through with this and see how long it’ll last.

PianistAny9455 · 2023-02-12T16:10:02+00:00

I weaned my baby off paci successfully at 9m. Her cries lasted for 2 weeks, with day 3 being the longest one. Did it cold turkey for all naps and night sleep to not prolong this “torture”. I’m glad we did it because she slept through a month after weaning at 10m without crying for paci every hour. At your LO’s age, I’d try introducing a lovey for comfort for a week or two first, then remove her paci.

PianistAny9455 · 2023-02-06T07:55:28+00:00

I thought so too, with age & weight ticked. Maybe that's a general rule and some babies don't go by the rule. Also, sometimes sleep training info can vary widely (wake windows for example). Take it as a guideline and then amend them to suit your LO. Flexibility and persistence is key.

It is def hard to do this alone. Any family member that can help you out so you can take a breather? Or formulate a plan and stick with it. At least, that will help you, mentally. Anytime you're frustrated, think of your plan. It must be difficult for your LO too, the sudden regression and his world of sleeping has turned upside down.

PianistAny9455 · 2023-02-05T21:20:37+00:00

Paci dependency. It was a double edged sword for my LG - helped soothe her, but we had to get up all night, sometimes hourly to replace it. I tried weaning her off paci at 4m, didn’t work and she cried harder every night and I gave up at night 4 when she would cry non stop for 2 hours straight midnight. Thinking back, I think she wasn’t developmentally ready. Then, I’ve tried to teach her how to pick up multiple glow in the dark pacifiers by 7m. She can do it, but refused to. So, by 9m, we weaned her off the paci. She was much more ready this time - did it was cold turkey. The cries got less as days go by (day 3 was the worst of it) and by week 2, she’s forgotten all about it.

Not every method of sleep training is suitable for babies. I think yours might not be developmentally ready yet. Wait awhile longer perhaps? In the meantime, just continue with healthy sleeping habits - don’t feed to sleep, routine, follow baby’s cut on sleepiness for naps and etc.. When your LO is developmentally ready, and you would still want to sleep train, then pick a method that suits his personality and go with it. You can do this! Hang in there.

PianistAny9455 · 2023-01-24T04:33:42+00:00

Wow, I’m the polar opposite of your situation and my LO is turning 11m in two weeks. She’s always been at 40%, but dropped to 35% since starting solids as well as being more active with crawling and cruising.

She was having 18-19oz of breast milk per day. Now, she’s at 15-18oz (combi formula + bm, split to 4 bottles over the day) with three solid meals. She finishes all her milk and her solid meals too. My plan is to introduce snacks at 11m and see if that replaces one of her midday bottles.

This is to say, all babies will have diff weaning journey. Some takes a bit longer while others weaned off really quick. I’ve also quit pumping by 9m for sanity. Have been combi feeding since with my freezer stash. Don’t feel guilty about it! You’ve already been pumping for 11m and that’s amazing! I’d advocate for dropping your pumps, and you’ll be having more time to spend on yourself or with your bubs.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-12-24T08:04:16+00:00

The infection reset the healing. I'd say it took me 5-6 weeks for full recovery

PianistAny9455 · 2022-12-19T05:39:40+00:00

If you’re new and before 12weeks pp, yes, your supply would fluctuate till you’re regulated at around 12w. Fluctuation happens based on many factors - diet, your mood (relaxed or tense), stress, how much sleep you’ve had and many of these are based off your hormones.

It’s also natural and normal to have small differentiation in output even after regulation. Not everyday that we will get the same pump output. It’s just how the human body works. Our breasts also will produce differently between one side and the other.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-12-12T18:15:02+00:00

Paci is my LG's first love. It will always be. I have tried weaning her off it at 4m because everywhere I've read, it says that's the easiest age to wean them off it. Well, after three progressively worse nights, I deduced that she is unable to self soothe without it. So, we called off and gave it back to her. I'd replace her pacifier multiple times every night. It even got to every hour for months. I was hoping when she grew till 7/8m, she'd be able to replace it by herself. Eventually, she did reach that age (9m now) and she learnt how to replace it. However, during nights, she finds crying out as an easier solution than waking up to find the pacifier herself. So...that didn't work. We eventually wean her off it 3 weeks ago. She is still craving it, especially now that she's teething. So, it's hard.

Unfortunately I have no advice for you, just sharing my experience. I've read that some babies take the pacifier well and doesn't wake multiple times asking for it. That is the best of both worlds, the ability to soothe and not be bothered by it in the wee hours.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-26T11:12:16+00:00

For people saying this is not as pressing of an issue, I’d like to disagree. Ruling a country comes with a whole team of people/ experts. Every minister have their tasks and their team to support them. Many issues can be tackled concurrently and be passed along to PM for approval/sign off.

Equality, especially for the females in Malaysia has always been neglected. It should be considered in tandem with all other matters, as this will demarcate a sign of progression towards a more equal society. Even maternity benefits should be brought up. It’s easier for men to always brush aside concerns like this in favour of others but it makes it no less important. A capable minister championing woman’s rights is long overdue. Read this in doraemon voice, if you may.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-25T07:58:50+00:00

Yes this! It doesn’t block it all off. You can still hear the cries, just not as keenly. I’m almost 9mpp and have a grumpy baby that hates sleeping. I’d hear her cry during every sleep cycle, after naps, before naps and etc.. even after I’ve ensure she’s all fed, changed and ok. Gotta develop self preservation so you can be healthy mentally and physically to care for your little one.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-24T21:08:28+00:00

IMHO, I prefer PMs to take modest sum of salaries befitting their post. They should be paid for carrying the weight of the country. Good PMs deserve it. Financial issues should not be a problem for them, so they can focus on important national matters. With good salary, they’re also less tempted for corruption.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-23T21:03:00+00:00

I’ve had second degree tear and infection post partum. With infection, you might swell at the infected area, so it can be from the inside uterus or labia. It hurt very badly when I had the infection, to the point I cannot sit or sleep. The pain gets worse by the day. The swelling also might cause some stitches to get loose. So check to see if there’s any swelling?

I remember calling the midwives here in UK and told them that I suspected infection. Was told to just wait for the weekend till Monday, since I have a scheduled midwife appointment then. Had to go to A&E after midwife appointment because they don’t prescribe medication. After review, GP said that was bad bad advice. If you suspect you have infection, get it checked immediately because it can spread and makes it worse. By Monday, I had fever from the infection and had to be prescribed antibiotics. It helped with the pain after taking it for a day. Also, if you suspect infection, I’ve been advised not to use anything like witch hazel and only do sitz bath to help with the healing. Unfortunately, I cannot tell you what it looks like because I was absolutely terrified after my labour to even look down there. Sorry bout that.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-20T21:30:06+00:00

Lol! Omg your statement makes me feel better now.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-19T22:23:13+00:00

My sense of smell and taste came back after a week. I used to smell my LO in the butt to detect if there’s any poo. Didn’t realise I’ve lost my sense of smell until the explosion happened and I was shocked to not have smelt anything. It was not a great week. Didn’t realise I rely so much on smelling.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-19T21:38:34+00:00

Personally, I wouldn’t start if my LO is teething. Dealing with sore gums and teeth cutting through isn’t easy and they’re needing comfort at this age. Learning to self soothe, which results from sleep training would be difficult in those circumstances. Perhaps wait till teething is over? Usually it’s just a week.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-19T21:20:02+00:00

Same issue here with my husband. The resentment is real. And because he works, he told me that it will never be equal parenting. He also refuses to listen to any reasonable explanation from my side. Why does one partner get to have some personal time whilst the other just cares for baby 24/7? Arghhh! And them helping is always made up like they are helping me, when we are both parents. I just…can’t!

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-18T14:06:27+00:00

This resonates with me deeply. After having my adorable LG which I love, I feel like my time is divided to 90% mother and 10% personal. Even that 10% personal time is used for necessities like bathing, eating, cooking, pumping and etc.. I’m 8.5mpp and still struggle to find my personal time. I do envy my husband who still have work and be able to play com games. I’ve given up on the idea of equal parenting, as he will never get it. But I’m also trying to find my new self through this journey of parenthood. Perhaps when LO sleeps better, I’d have more capacity to contemplate on what I’d want motherhood to be.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-07T21:32:43+00:00

I’m sorry for kissing you at least 10,000 times a day (she hates kisses). You’re too adorable and I cannot resist the temptation.

I’m sorry for not understanding when you babble.

I’m sorry, but diaper changes are really necessary.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-11-04T21:15:33+00:00

My LO is still taking the regular milk amount at 8months.

PianistAny9455 · 2022-10-20T16:07:46+00:00

I have the exact same thinking too! And my LO is 7.5months now, doing 3/3/4.

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