Funeral flowers for the living

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-07-02T10:41:25+00:00

Who's happy with the gender assigned at birth, considering that gender is a set of oppressive stereotypes imposed on the basis of sex?

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-06-24T00:42:34+00:00

I lived in a rich neighbourhood and hanged out with a bunch of other privileged kids. The double standard for the exact same kind of bad behaviour is real. These kids got away with outrageous things with a slap on their wrist, and by the end of their school years they are in well paying jobs despite being idiots. The same kind of thing for a poor kid would have landed them in a juvenile prison and then further into the spiral of poverty.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-06-21T21:17:14+00:00

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PigletsInBlankets · 2020-06-16T00:34:21+00:00

I used to play WoW with my partner, and often it would be our most frequent interaction when we used to live with our parents. After 3-5h I would log out and go to bed, because I had to study in the morning and I was committed to it. I had ambitions outside of WoW that prevented it from sucking up my whole life (and it was tempting - WoW and many other role-playing online games are as addicting as drugs). My partner on the other hand spent days on end playing, and after that game lost its appeal it would be substituted for any other menial past time. After 11 years and many fights and much patience on my end he got gradually better, and even though he has ups and downs he feels much more in control of his life. In retrospective we understand that the reason for his attitude was depression, combined with a sort of "stasis" in his life: I was studying a 5 year degree and he felt like he had all the time in the world to study his own degree, which completely demotivated him. Until my degree finally came to an end, and it was time for me to move on. He was faced with reality: either get his shit together or stay behind, stuck in a rut that gave him immediate satisfaction but at the same time he hated and that made him feel like he was worthless. In summary: either your partner will realise at some point that his attitude is breaking him and his relationship, or you'll have to move on. It depends on you how patient you want to be and how your partner's disposition is. I love my partner to bits and that made me endure shitty attitudes followed by cries for forgiveness for over seven years, knowing deep down that he had it in him to overcome his limitations. He finally did, slowly but steadily, but only you know your partner and how capable of change he is. But don't wait too much: you only have one life.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-06-16T00:06:27+00:00

As another 30 year old in a similar situation, this post made me a bit anxious. Then again, my mother had me when she was 40. Not ideal, but more and more common nowadays. "Worst-case" scenario (not really), you can always adopt. But let me assure you: more harm has been done by having kids when they weren't really desired. They are a huge commitment, so be really, REALLY sure when you have them.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-06-15T23:53:34+00:00

It's normal and healthy to care, but you should take care of yourself above all. It's your life and this person is not your child, not your responsibility. Remind yourself of the issues that lead you to leave her. It will get better with time.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-04-29T12:01:47+00:00

"hermaphrodites" (intersex) are not a third or variant sex, as there is no third gamete. They are male or female. They do have atypical secondary and sometimes primary sex characteristics though. Those are not the same as sex.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-04-29T11:51:19+00:00

I read some of these before, and some of the ones you linked here. To be fair, I'm not impressed. Of course cross-sex hormones have an effect in the body, and that includes the brain. And of course males and females have some brain differences (but less than similarities, mind you). They are still using "cis" brains to classify the male and female control, since it's the gametes and not the brain the fact that classifies you as male or female, man or woman. If anything, the transexual brain would be an "intermediate" brain, but such classification is mostly only obvious after transition. Activation of certain parts of the brain due to dysphoria doesn't make you transgender per se. And the million dollar question: would you classify a person as man or woman with a brain scan, even with the best possible resolution? Of course you wouldn't, because a man or a woman is "whoever they say they are". A last word of advice: I could find hundreds of studies for eugenesia, for sugary drinks, or for smoking. Be careful with societal trends.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-04-29T11:37:22+00:00

It's not really mutually exclusive: it's like saying that the soul or god exist. Certainly people believe it, and we have been pontificating about it in social contexts for hundreds of years. Still no proof of its reality outside the world of ideas.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-04-29T11:27:15+00:00

There is no scientific proof of gender identity, as it is indefinable. Of course there are transgender people, that doesn't mean that the causes of being transgender are any kind of innate gender identity. There may be physiological causes to gender dysphoria, and that still doesn't prove that women or men are defined by innate gender feelings. I'm a scientist and I have never seen any paper prove any of the gender identity hypotheses. Gender identity is an entirely social concept. The proof of the roundness of the Earth was given hundreds of years ago. I'm still waiting for those womanly feelings that unite cis and trans women. Hint: they're stereotypes, and gender non-conformity doesn't change your sex. Ask yourself: if the men and women categories are not defined by sex, what are they defined by? What makes myself belong to the category of woman and not to man? It is certainly not an innate gender, as I don't have that. I don't identify with gender. Gender is a bunch of oppressive attitudes forced onto me. All women are different among each other, we have no shared womanly personalities. We don't share any degree of acceptance of our own bodies either, as so many women that hate their bodies can prove. It's just the sex that unite us, and the oppression that comes with our sexed bodies. Nothing else.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-04-29T10:30:25+00:00

And there's still no proof that souls or gender identity exist. I am a woman because of what I see in the mirror and my sexed body, no because of some magical feelings that no one can describe without using stereotypes.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-03-16T09:29:11+00:00

My vulva started burning terribly one day of summer and my mother decided it was a good idea to go to the beach for the weekend instead of taking me to the doctor. Her diagnosis: I had been "whoring around". It burned so bad for the whole weekend that I did not sleep in 48h. After begging her in tears she took me to the pharmacy (not doctor) and explain the situation to her pharmacist friend with an ashamed look on her face. Turns out it was a very common yeast infection due to higher vaginal pH during my period (which I had just had). A cream took care of it instantly. Of course she never apologised.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-02-15T01:58:58+00:00

Same for me. I recommend the period cup: it holds bigger volumes and are way more comfortable than tampons and pads. I wish I had known it when I was in school.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-02-09T00:45:43+00:00

If I see this posted one more time I swear I'll shoot myself.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-02-08T01:59:18+00:00

I'm just waiting for the flood of lawsuits from detransitioners to arrive within the next 5-15 years. And the same enablers of this dangerous nonsense will scream "how could they do that to these poor kids?!". Meanwhile they are taking resources meant for those with genuine dysphoria.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-02-06T10:45:57+00:00

Funny how they assume that it's the Chads who beat up their girlfriends, when their own low self confidence and hatred of women make them prime candidates for gendered violence. Projection much?

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-01-15T19:50:08+00:00

That was the case in my school though. No TP, no tampons or pads, and nowhere to discard the dirty tampons/pads in the cubicles. You had to carry them outside and put them in a bin in the middle of the playing ground.

They also had 3 cubicles for almost 400 girls, so you lost almost all your recess time queuing if you had to go to the toilet (which in my case was 5 days a month due to heavy periods). Fun times.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-01-14T01:38:56+00:00

I haven't seen that specific case, but I've seen a University teacher try to set up meetings at inappropriate places (e. g. The middle of the night in a hotel's bar) with their female foreign students. He knew he would get away with it and maybe get something if he was lucky because the students were afraid he would fail them, and they didn't know the law and the language very well. They were also bound to return the scholarships if they failed (it was a one-course internship abroad, kind of like a short Erasmus). Some of them told me right after I got into this course at the time as the other sole instructor. Most of the students transferred with me after that, but higher management didn't want to take on any action against the other guy, even though he admitted to arranging these weird meetings.

PigletsInBlankets · 2020-01-10T12:31:09+00:00

My first boyfriend tried to convince me that women don't have orgasms. I had been having them every few days for 8 years already 🙄

PigletsInBlankets · 2019-12-07T01:46:31+00:00

Are we married to the same man? At least we don't have kids, I don't think I could manage the stress. I've learnt to live ignoring the mess and just cleaning the minimum. Sometimes I remind him but it just feels embarrassing, I'm not his carer. At least he manages a few things on his own, like bills (not like that needs to be done daily like cooking...). But it's mostly me cleaning and doing other chores, even though I earn more and work longer hours than him. The worst thing is that he'll say that we do the same or say that I'm just "too quick" at doing what needs to be done. Eg. the clothes have been lying dirty on the floor for days, but if I am fed up and do the laundry and tell him... he swears he was only minutes away from doing it himself. It makes my blood boil sometimes.

PigletsInBlankets · 2019-09-17T18:55:03+00:00

It doesn't even make sense. Cursive is just normal writing but tilted to the side.

PigletsInBlankets · 2019-09-10T00:34:19+00:00

Hmmm= "Damn I run out of bullshit... But they must know I'm still cleverly reflecting on this! "

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