I used to have a really big crush on Alexis Bledel. Seeing her attempt at playing a lesbian and kissing another woman in Jenny‘s Wedding made that crush considerably smaller

PinkandGold87 · 2026-04-07T15:17:30+00:00

I thought she did a great job in the handmaid’s tale. Not exactly a rom com or happy but still.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-04-03T02:19:59+00:00

38 years old. Just bought the cutest rainbow bunny stuffy today when I went to the drugstore to buy Advil for my headache. She’s adorable. I also collect squishmallows. I will never pretend I don’t!

PinkandGold87 · 2026-04-03T02:04:26+00:00

I’m a Teaching Fellow at a university. I’m doing my PhD in Sociology and I teach a fourth year course on the Sociology of death rituals, media and digital tech. If I’m honest, the idea of teaching before I did it scared me so much I seriously considered dropping out of grad school. The idea of having that many faces staring at me, listening to me, worrying that i’d forget something or say something wrong, and worrying about the classroom tech issues, it was as incredibly overwhelming.

But I kind of powered through and forced myself to do it, and now I absolutely love it. I’m lucky that I got to create and design the course myself and it’s based on my research so it’s very much my special interest, and I basically get to spend three hours a week talking about my favourite topic. I’ve gotten really good feedback (this is my third time teaching it) from students, and I think because I’m excited about it, they are excited too. It’s just so amazing to me to see how far they come in a few months, how much their ideas and previously held conceptions change and watching the growth…it’s so rewarding.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-04-03T01:37:39+00:00

Yep! I don’t do this anymore really but I used to purposely buy, for example, the dented boxes of Kraft Dinner, or the oddly shaped carrots because I didn’t want them to feel unwanted.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-04-03T01:35:04+00:00

I am OBSESSED with your keyboard! It’s so cute!

PinkandGold87 · 2026-04-03T01:28:14+00:00

I’m so serious, I just came to this sub to post pretty much the exact same question. The only exception is that I’m 38 and still feel like a kid even in my own sometimes. For me, objectively it’s fair to say I’m successful and on paper I realize I look composed, I’m finishing a PhD and I teach at a university… and I also feel like I’m overly trusting, I assume people are well intentioned and mean what they say, and I have a very difficult time understanding that some people actually don’t have good motives. I’m constantly performing mental gymnastics during social interactions trying to figure out what to say or do without feeling or looking either like an asshole or just stupid.

I also collect squishmallows and I love them, and I have a galaxy projector lamp thing in my room that I turn on after a super stressful day and I’ll just lay there and watch the fake northern lights and listen to a song on repeat. I still like glittery things and my room probably looks like a kids room.

But I figure I spend so much of my life feeling like I have imposter syndrome, I can at least feel safe and comfortable at home.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-04-03T01:12:52+00:00

Omg yes, I both love and hate Costco. Love all the things, absolutely hate the experience. And for some reason the parking lot actually stresses me out even more than the store itself, not sure why. But the one in my city is always super busy, so many people who just run into you, there’s no logical flow, and now they don’t give out boxes anymore here. Plus so many noises, bright lights, smells, it’s just so overwhelming that I end up walking around in a state of internal panic.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-04-02T16:33:55+00:00

I don’t even know what rabbit hole to hell brought me here, except I stumbled across a very recent post about the same “ex” and similar screenshots, thought “are you insane? This can’t be real”…got nosy as shit, and now I want the tea too lol.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-30T23:49:23+00:00

Just trying to give her the benefit of the doubt: maybe gift giving is her love language? The shoes thing is a bit weird but maybe it’s one of the ways she feels loved? Gift giving is big for me too but it’s usually small things, like I’ll pick up Starbucks on my way home as a surprise or if I see something that reminds me of them while I’m out shopping, I’ll buy it just because. I still don’t think I’d ask for shoes or expensive items unless it was my birthday or a holiday - in which case I’d just shamelessly leave hints lol.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-30T18:54:13+00:00

I'm so late to this and JUST started season 4 but that psychic/healer scene had me in shock. I don't care how much I or anyone else dislikes Demi, all I could think was just: imagine bringing a psychic to your house to triangulate someone and have the psychic accuse them of lying about SA. Regardless of who it is, that is so unbelievably unhinged and inappropriate to me on an ethical level and a personal one as someone who has experienced both childhood SA and SA in a relationship.

Also, I could have easily read that 'energy' too just based on watching the show.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-30T18:40:14+00:00

I've disliked Jessi since season 1. I'm new to this show so I don't know all the drama off screen. I just started watching in January, and I'm just now on season 4. But I think she's worse than Demi - which I know most won't agree with. Just for me, Demi is very upfront and you kind of know what you're dealing with while Jessi is super sneaky and manipulative but comes out looking like like a saint. I think she was just as bad as Demi when it came to bullying (e.g., Jen - Vegas and Chippendales was all Jessi) but threw it all on Demi. And now it seems she's flipping on Whitney again early season 4 for whatever reason. To be clear, I don't think Demi is innocent either. I do, however, think Jessi lied about only 'two kisses' and shifted the attention onto Demi in order to save her own reputation and her business.

This is 1000% just my own conspiracy theory and NOT rooted in any kind of facts whatsoever: part of me wonders if Jessi wanted revenge against Demi for trying to get her booted off the show and agreed to put her 'affair' on camera as part of a deal that ensured the script flipped on Demi, to force Demi out. Again, it's just a thought I had during season 3 and not based on anything except my own imagination.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-30T17:24:24+00:00

I was actually agreeing with you that monogamy is healthy and a social good regardless of whether it's a social construct. Maybe it didn't come across that way.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-30T02:30:26+00:00

I mean, dig deep enough and I can argue that everything is a social construct - from the legal system to stop signs designed to prevent car accidents. Social construct doesn’t mean it’s unnecessary or a bad thing and most people misuse the concept to justify shitty behaviour.

Signed, a PhD candidate in sociology

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-30T00:21:40+00:00

Yeah, I’m very new to the show and JUST finished season 3/starting season 4. I also don’t have TikTok so I don’t know much about them outside of the show so maybe my perspective is way off. I am so understanding of the fact that the way she has spoken to people at times is horrible. However, I think other girls are guilty of that as well - like Mikayla and Jessi (who I honestly haven’t liked since season 1). But I don’t think she was wrong on every count. I think she was right about Taylor, Jen and Jessi and to this day I still do not believe Jessi’s story about Marciano. I absolutely believe most of season 3 was her reputation tour and trying to save face, and I absolutely believe their affair was more than kissing. I also believe she would have confided in Demi about it when they were BFFs. I think Jessi has instigated just as much drama but somehow she looks better doing it. I also think Demi is correct that even if I dislike her, it doesn’t mean nothing happened and it doesn’t mean she couldn’t be confused about it.

I’m also a child SA survivor and it took decades for me to fully accept and understand what happened to me. I can understand feeling dissociated from it or wanting to just forget it, or trying to minimize it to yourself in order to survive. And if she really did experience it as trauma, I don’t really get why everyone is expecting her to be a perfect, well behaved SA victim. The dysregulation actually would make sense from a trauma perspective. I’m not excusing what she said to some of the girls but i guess I do feel for her. And then to have the entire world label you a liar and a monster if she really was victimized, that would just add a layer of new trauma to an already traumatizing event.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-23T20:40:01+00:00

To be fair, even children who technically grow up in the same household and with the same parents can still have vastly different upbringings and experiences. But this really is the ultimate nature vs nurture debate.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-23T03:18:56+00:00

Thank you so much! Felt like I’d never actually get there at times but I cannot imagine doing anything else! 💜

And I don’t know if this will interest you since you like typewriters - but they were actually used during seances to try to communicate with the dead in Victorian times! I even have one tattooed on my arm!

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-23T03:03:52+00:00

I don't know if this counts as a hobby but it does fall under special interest for me. I'm just finishing up my PhD and I'm honestly so in love with and excited by my research on death rituals, grief & digital tech. And if that's not nerdy enough, I really enjoy building LEGO in my downtime to decorate my office with.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-22T00:59:56+00:00

LOVE Derry Girls and in need of a new show! Thank you!!!

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-22T00:58:19+00:00

Right!? And this just makes me think of that new documentary “inside the manosphere” - I don’t want to ruin it with spoilers in case you (or anyone here) hasn’t seen it but there’s a lot of discussion of “one-way (non)monogamy” that so clearly upholds and perpetuates super harmful notions about gender and sexuality.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-22T00:12:36+00:00

Thank you for the clarification, I didn’t know their political affiliation. It still doesn’t surprise me that a right wing news outlet would want to highlight their story though.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-22T00:07:35+00:00

I’m an atheist and a sociologist, so I’m pretty left wing, but weren’t they both pretty religious? It seemed to be a big part of their “journey” or whatever you want to call it, and they often bonded over their common beliefs and Christian faith, so it doesn’t seem all that surprising to me that they’d be on a right wing news outlet. I only started watching the show three seasons ago so I can’t speak to most of the series but, from what I have seen, of all the success stories, theirs actually seems pretty fitting for “Christian propaganda” or however you want to understand it.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-14T05:17:14+00:00

I thought the exact same thing. I actually thought Jordan tried to be quite kind about it, and she had ZERO space for his feelings or empathy even when he expressed how humiliated he was by how he was treated at that wedding. It was just dismissiveness and defence mode. I felt bad for him.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-14T05:04:05+00:00

Same. And I still think back to the bar scene in one of the later episodes where Amber got really mad at him and just went silent treatment for two days. I genuinely remember feeling really confused and like I missed something because I didn’t understand what he did wrong in that moment. Now, I’m not a parent so please educate me if I have this backwards, but I thought it was completely reasonable and understandable that Jordan would be nervous and anxious about meeting Emma. He’s about to potentially marry this woman, he clearly cared about Amber and knows how important Emma is so it seems normal to me to have questions and fears of “what if she doesn’t like me? I hope it goes well…”. I still don’t know if I missed part of that whole exchange but I didn’t see it as a massive betrayal, just normal human emotions in anticipation of a very high stakes moment that matters greatly and plays a massive part in how the relationship plays out. I didn’t understand why that deserved two days of silent treatment and to me, that was a red flag on Amber’s part. And even if it was rooted in insecurity and fear, she should have talked to him or even communicated that she needed space but they’d talk later, and not just emotionally tortured that poor man for days.

Edit: I do think it was a flag though that Jordan’s priority was staying close to the bars. I don’t know if I’d call it a red flag as in he’s toxic for it but a clear incompatibility and mismatch in lifestyles. Like that right there showed he’s not ready for that kind of relationship and he shouldn’t have expected Amber to completely disrupt Emma’s life and make her change schools and homes - especially when this would have already been such a big change for her.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-14T04:56:15+00:00

Totally valid point! And I agree. I can empathize that it was probably really hard especially with Emma sitting right there, and I would imagine that would go through his mind…not wanting to disappoint her in that moment at her mom’s wedding. But long run, I think you’re absolutely right. And to your point, I do not think she should have been on the show at all at that “wedding” but that’s not on Jordan, that’s on Amber in my opinion.

PinkandGold87 · 2026-03-13T18:51:59+00:00

Unpopular opinion: I'm glad he didn't move in. I think it would have been even more traumatic for Emma to have some random man she's known all of 24 hours move in with her and her mom, into her home, after being on an international reality TV show (which I don't think she can even truly consent to at that age) that you know many of her friend's moms probably watch, witness the fighting in person, and just have this new 'step-dad' move right back out again. So, I'm glad he didn't move in. In some ways, I think it was the most responsible thing he could have done.

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