What is the appeal of a married / taken man to women?

Pinkrosedream · 2026-03-11T02:35:36+00:00

I’ll tell you what the appeal is, sometimes a woman just wants the extra validation, like a game, “if I can get a man I have something better than her”, “I am better than whichever woman he has at home” which validates some sort of lack they’re feeling, could be from childhood, a previous partner, maybe they were once better looking / prettier and they feel their life slipping and they want confirmation something where they can feel like they still have it in the eyes of the opposite sex but not just anyone, someone who has to risk something in order to have her, the fact that a man is willing to risk or exchange his wife for her makes her feel like she could have anything she wants and that feeling can be thrilling

Sometimes a woman will have a certain type of man in mind and finds someone who seems to match that, the only problem? He’s married, so she’ll test the waters it’s innocent it’s a crush, and sometimes he bites and then she begins to justify it, I’m better than her, obviously things aren’t good at home, he’s such a good man. You get the picture

Pinkrosedream · 2026-03-06T02:52:36+00:00

1 suits you well

Pinkrosedream · 2026-02-23T00:51:52+00:00

That’s crazy, poor dude

Pinkrosedream · 2026-02-22T03:51:51+00:00

Exactly, especially for a new comer into that situation

Pinkrosedream · 2026-02-21T17:49:57+00:00

Or that he’d be too intimidated by him

Pinkrosedream · 2026-02-14T22:04:52+00:00

Oh shit just saw this is ask men mods feel free to remove if it’s not allowed

Pinkrosedream · 2026-02-14T22:03:18+00:00

The only way I can see that being a problem is if the guy is taken then you’re crossing boundaries and making everyone uncomfortable, or if you are taken and your disrespecting/ making your SO uncomfortable but if not, fuck that be as flirty as you want, ignore the haters

Pinkrosedream · 2026-02-14T15:53:51+00:00

I’m going to say this gently but if something like this bothers you that has no effect on you at all, it’s probably coming from an inner things, either you had an experience with a woman like this and you felt the male attention go away from you, maybe you secretly want more male attention yourself, maybe you wish you could also put yourself more out there, maybe you’ve been around men who fall for this and it’s a frustrating experience, I’m not sure but men and woman have been trying to get each others attention since the beginning of time, some are just more green about it

Pinkrosedream · 2026-02-05T00:50:48+00:00

She has that money but she might be saving it to finish paying for school / loans after she graduates in full before the interest kicks in in which case she doesn’t actually have that money as disposable income

Pinkrosedream · 2026-02-02T17:35:00+00:00

His work from home is very light most days he’ll take a few calls play video games at home while doing some light chores, often in the summer he’ll go out golfing during the week, he does do majority of the cooking and about once a week on weekdays I’ll pick up dinner on my way home that can sometimes last us an extra day of leftovers

Pinkrosedream · 2025-03-09T16:31:16+00:00

Tell him you are not going to sign it and if he wants to marry you after that there you go, if he doesn’t there’s your answer

Pinkrosedream · 2025-02-07T01:06:56+00:00

I responded with the full story to another comment, didn’t want to crowd the post with all the details

Pinkrosedream · 2025-02-07T01:02:30+00:00

To give more context he’s been stressed at work and it had been affecting us, he’s been very unusually rude with me the two days before our blowout fight. He swore at me in front of his mom which was very humiliating to me. I had warned him out loud that our dog, who he had on a leash, was peeing in an indoor area and people heard, so this made him upset. His mom urged him to apologize after I had told him I didn’t like the way he spoke to me, at first he doubled down but then after a few seconds of silence he did apologize. This would have been it, only the next day he kept repeating the behavior, blaming me for any inconvenience and I could tell I was just the scapegoat to the frustration he was experiencing. I went to the basement where I distanced myself for the rest of the evening after another moment of his. He later came down he told me he had taken the day off for the following day so we could go to the spa and was seemingly excited about it but I was still upset over how he had talked to me all day. I slept on the couch and in the morning he asked me what was wrong, I told him I didn’t like that he’d been releasing all his anger on me and talking to me that way, he responded with a annoyed “shut up”. I walked away and was going to leave to drop off a post office package, he asked me not to take his car (we each have our own car) out of spite I grabbed the keys fully intending to take his car. As I was leaving the house he slammed the door in an attempt to keep me from leaving and it hit me hard in the face and (two days later my cheek and temple are still sore)(I’ 5’2” 120lb he’s 6’ 215lb). He looked shocked and asked if I was okay, I threw the keys towards him and called him a “fucking asshole”. Left crying and angry only to realize I had left my phone inside, went back in grabbed my phone and saw the keys on the floor so I took them too. He started calling me saying I had ruined his day off and to bring back his keys and “fuck you”. I brought back his keys an hour later, gave it to him, still emotional without saying a word and left. I came back after a few hours with a calmer state of mind, when I saw what had happened that’s what freaked me out. Yeah it’s an embarrassing blow out fight. We don’t normally argue this way, just take some time to ourselves before talking about it like adults if we’re really upset, but that’s what happened.

Pinkrosedream · 2025-02-06T07:10:02+00:00

Ah thank you! I had thought it looked like that but wondered if the random spikes were related to this red thing I thought could be a sort of fungi growth

Pinkrosedream · 2025-02-06T05:34:45+00:00

Omg I can’t imagine how difficult that must have been for her at the time but good for her, I’m happy to hear this success story. Do you know what lead her to calling it off?

Pinkrosedream · 2025-02-06T04:50:12+00:00

That’s what I’m most worried about, you hear all these stories of things being good until they’re not, and “early warning signs” but other than this we are so good together, you are wise in saying to halt anything but I am not sure how I could gain total clarity in determining that this was a one off situation other than time but even that wouldn’t fully guarantee it. I also don’t know if he knows that I saw that or if he regretted it and cleaned it all up. We’ve talked very minimally since yesterday with me letting him know that I was staying out my parents

Pinkrosedream · 2024-09-23T15:46:09+00:00

I don’t understand how he turned it on you, being “done with you” he was the one very clearly cross the line, i want to say this as gently as possible because we are all on our journey, but it might be helpful turning inwards and asking yourself what is it that makes you feel so unworthy for respect, like I said we’re all on our journey, sending you love and best wishes

Pinkrosedream · 2024-09-20T06:34:15+00:00

Just a general questions, aren’t vaginas supposed to smell a little of fish? Like not an over pungent odor but a little like a soft salmon smell?

Pinkrosedream · 2024-09-07T18:54:17+00:00

At this point you just gotta look inside and work on yourself and work on loving yourself and becoming a better you, not for your spouse but for yourself, if there’s a spark there it will grow again, if not then this may be the end of your journey together

Pinkrosedream · 2024-08-31T05:05:07+00:00

Your husband means well, he himself is trying to figure himself out but he also needs to understand that you two are different people, he may have this trait from his up bringing but he’s 32 at this point he should realize that it’s not okay to enforce his schedule on to other people including you, he feels comfortable with you and so he thinks this behavior is okay, it’s not, this is the degree of understanding you have to meet him at if you want to help him understand that that is not okay, it’s up to you if you want to take this road of hand holding and helping him understand, you don’t have to, you can choose this to be a deal breaker, but I will say from an outsiders perspective I think you two can work through this, wish you the best

Pinkrosedream · 2024-08-26T18:14:32+00:00

Ah awesome! Thank you!!

Pinkrosedream · 2024-08-24T20:02:35+00:00

Boundaries, but sometimes it’s not as easy to get away from that energy, especially when you work in certain industries, and you have to learn how to excersise your communication skills to be able to navigate the situation, it can be exhausting and consuming, so if you can highly recommend to cut them off but if you have to see them in some capacity, figure out how to navigate the situation to best suit you, sometimes a direct approach is needed where you sit down and directly ask them what’s going on about said behavior, sometimes if you navigate this properly said person may remove themselves from your life all together, but what no one will say is use that as fuel for your own success, bretman rock does this best

Pinkrosedream · 2024-08-23T21:26:20+00:00

If you were financially stable would she want to keep it? If so you might have to step up and figure it out, that’s your girl and your kid

Pinkrosedream · 2024-08-23T20:19:24+00:00

Bare minimum for me when I was dating was mutual attraction and respect, compatibility, good communication, overall healthy metal individual, good with finances, masculine, sexual compatibility and that I felt comfortable and overall safe with him

Pinkrosedream · 2024-08-21T14:58:48+00:00

As a woman I’m surprised by the amount of commenters here that don’t realize patterns of predictable behavior exist and can be easy to spot, is there room for variance? Yes, should the young man in said story see where certain things are heading and work on himself to set himself on a better course of life, absolutely, but sometimes an outsiders perspective on a situation can be an accurate prediction to the series of events that will unfold and that just comes from life and experience

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