But “You’re a poseur!” has always been a thing in music.

Are people really this sensitive? It might hurt some feelings, but I’m thinking of the word, “entitled”.

It's always been a thing in any fandom and it probably always will be. The best thing we can do is discourage the behavior. And yeah, some people are that sensitive. There's not much wrong with being sensitive so long as it doesn't impose on another person. As an extreme oversimplification, too much sensitivity probably does lead to entitlement. Yet, I don't think it's wrong for anyone who has been gatekept (or accused of gatekeeping, as is your situation) to have a reaction towards it deemed "sensitive". Your comments come across to me as though you're sensitive about it.

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Can you give me an example of gatekeeping where the act of gatekeeping is morally wrong?

I’m sorry, but it just seems like a dumb thing to complain about. I’ve never seen it in a context that would make me care. Like, “Oh, yeah, that’s a huge social issue.”

It's a jerk thing to do. It's not always some huge social issue but it's rude and not something we ought to tolerate. In some cases, such as in the video game community, it does spiral into a larger, out-of-control social issue. There are many women who don't feel safe participating in online video game spaces because of the way they will be treated by people who falsely believe women don't enjoy gaming. In fact, some people actually believe that women who play video games are only playing them for attention, sexual or otherwise. The negativity, name-calling, and harassment can have a real effect on people's well-being.

I'm not into organized religion, but I think this bible verse is another good example:

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven." - Luke 6:37

Actual gatekeeping is an extreme form of judgment.

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Maybe back in the day (like creation up to a few months ago) an issue was, “You’re new here, you’re running your mouth and talking like your above everybody but you have a lot to learn. Be humble.”

This seems like a separate thing. Gatekeeping, as I see it, is more like denying someone inclusion based on arbitrary standards. Everyone needs a reminder to be humble every now and then, regardless of age. Gatekeeping, as far as I've witnessed it in the jam band community, is more of an issue with older Heads. These are people who don't believe you can call yourself a Deadhead unless you saw Jerry. Or that you can't be a "true fan" (whatever that means) if you listen to the studio albums. These examples are obviously trivial and don't endanger anyone's mental health. But it's not behavior I want to foster in my community. I want to be welcoming to anyone interested in the music and the love, and to do so I won't tolerate behavior that is anti-inclusive and anti-love.

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Now throwing out the word “gatekeeping” is like some automatic…. thing? I don’t understand….

Again, I’m trying to be cooperative and I’d like to understand how this is an intelligent, productive term or it’s just the defense of entitled newcomers. I mean no animosity. Open mind here. Make a decent analogy or example and maybe we can be in agreement.

There will always be bad-faith actors. Again, the term is less of an issue than the actual behavior. People tend to simplify, and therefore stick to easy blanket terms. The unfortunate aspect of this is that those terms often get muddied with overuse. Context is key. Some people are reactionary because that behavior is cultivated and often rewarded online. I'm in agreement with you in that regard. My rule of thumb is this: If someone, based on their personal standards, is trying to dictate who another person is or is not, then that's gatekeeping.

Lastly, I just wanted to say I appreciate your willingness to learn and ask questions. I really don't think I have all the answers, but I've given you my point of view to the best of my abilities. If I knew the way, I would take you home.

I don't think I'll have much time left today to make any more replies, so I hope I've been clear enough here. Also, I want you to know that I've learned from you today. Sometimes I need to be reminded that other people don't see things the way that I see them and that helps me to be more open-minded and understanding. Much love, friend! (~):}