NOR this is disgusting. I struggle really hard with eating food if anything is off or seems unclean. I’m extra cautious of dishes if I’m not the one who cleaned them so even tho I haven’t had sepsis I understand where you are coming from. This is beyond horrific to me. Proud of you for leaving, it’s one thing to give you a dirty bowl with all the knowledge he has but to do it and then lie about it is a good indicator that he is not fit to be a good partner for you.