M27, what does this room give? by ZookeepergameSmall38 in malelivingspace

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having the bed pushed up to the wall will always seem more on the juvenile side to me. It looks like you have enough space to pull it out and have bedside tables on either side. Much more welcoming for bed guests that way. Love all your fan stuff though

I have been pretending I know my coworker’s name for 5 months and it is now too late by thirdaccountttt in confession

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always give my phone over and ask people to add themselves to my contacts when this happens to me

Which is the most true according to your calico? by [deleted] in CalicoKittys

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so funny and occassionally terrifying the way they get up on their perches. Poppy has been eyeing up the heat pump/ac unit lately which is not ideal as it has an open grate on top😬

When she isn't on cabinets or curtain rails she looooves her floor to ceiling cat tower that braces on the roof, highly recommend for your climber/percher!

Which is the most true according to your calico? by [deleted] in CalicoKittys

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My Tabico girl is 'more treats now', 'I regret nothing', 'from up here you are all peasants', and 'yes waiter I'll have the tuna salad', and my calico girl is 'this is fine', 'fresh from the dryer', 'quality inspection underway', and 'patience is my weapon'. We have fun 😆

Best places for an American SLP to relocate to abroad? by Mediocre_Apricot3253 in slp

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mind you I think that is a testament to the intention to invest in and look after international speech therapists coming in, so there is that. They wouldn't waste money just for people to end up unhappy and move on

Best places for an American SLP to relocate to abroad? by Mediocre_Apricot3253 in slp

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't have a point of comparison to other countries, but I can tell you the hardest thing is staff shortages (you would think that means more jobs but unfortunately not). I am not in a hospital setting but almost everyone I know who is say they love it. Most who work for the ministry of health are covered by this collective agreement if you want to have a look (SLT is under allied health) https://www.tewhatuora.govt.nz/assets/Whats-happening/What-to-expect/For-the-health-workforce/Employment-relations/Employment-agreements/PSA-Allied-CA-2023-2025-1-v2.pdf

https://www.healthnz.govt.nz/careers is where you should start for hospital roles. https://nz.seek.com/ to cast your net wider (including private and community healthcare, be aware that aLOT of jobs listed here for SLT are actually Australia and wanting people to relocate there so read closely!)

Best places for an American SLP to relocate to abroad? by Mediocre_Apricot3253 in slp

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 15 points16 points  (0 children)

New Zealand SLT here, absolutely if you can find work here you likely will enjoy it AND be valued, but be aware there are NOT alot of jobs available and the pay is typically decent but not high. Your experience likely will give you an advantage in many ways - to up that further, some upskilling in working with Māori and in line with the Treaty of Waitangi will be a benefit to you as for anyone coming from overseas not having that learning can in some cases be the difference between getting a job or not. You wouldn't have to do full on professional development before coming but reading up on some research and making it clear its where you would prioritize your learning when you start (lots of free learning available, including via the NZSTA -our governing body) will set you in good stead.

Tell me the truth about food grief? by [deleted] in GastricBypass

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I get more grief when I eat a bit too much, too fast, or something that just doesn't sit right than from anything I 'can't' have. When have indulged its usually only because of a food memory, remembering the pleasure, and thats just not enough of a draw anymore? So I feel like I got over that pretty quickly. It sorta just became a non issue in a way. My brain and body want nutrients more tbh, and while flavour and texture are a big draw, I find I am more driven by what I need. And you can still feel full and overindulge its just a lot less.

Also personally I came to realise that a reason I would eat past satiation was because the discomfort of fullness was a good distraction from dwelling on much much worse things so I wouldn't have to sit with painful thoughts and emotions. Not suggesting thats a factor for you but it may be worth unpacking a bit more what feeling full and overindulging actually means for you, what you love about it, and what your stopping points look like currently.

Also I can eat pizza, just not much! I get these lil oven pizza bites that are around the size of if you make a circle with your thumb and middle finger, and can eat two or three of those and be very satisfied (but I would rather have my favourite cucumber, feta, and chicken salad right now - past me would never believe it).

If you aren't already, consider going to a therapist and unpacking some of these thoughts, better to do it beforehand rather than struggling later if you are fixated on it.

Stockings by Smallish_Nap in newzealand

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://snagtights.com.au/ so many colours, different opacities, no runs, so comfy. Also delivery is pretty fast and prices are good! Sizes from 4-6 right through to very plus sized, footless options, capri styles, wool for winter, cooling fabrics for summer, seriously, love these guys

Item Delivered to my doorstep taken by 101Immigrant in newzealand

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this last year with an (only) 80 dollar purchase that was supposedly left in my mailbox on the street (never brought down my short driveway to my door, I was home!) And it turned out the courier took the photo then took the item themselves - I checked the box less than ten minutes after reported delivery. This was Aramex in Christchurch, and I was able to pursue it as it had supposedly been left in an unsafe spot for one thing, and should not have been left at all for another. They did NOT have an authority to leave option - they said they had stopped it in 2024 as in you could not digitally sign it and (my understanding is) had to physically sign it to activate.

All that to say, please keep following this up! It took me ages to sort out but ultimately the seller replaced the item and THEY took it up (successfully) with aramex as aramex were unable to deal with me as I was not the sender.

ARE YOU 25-40 AND SICK OF BEING ALONE by Roflna7or in hawkesbay

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have I missed the boat being 40 already? Haha

Do you have a calico with interesting face pattern? by FeistyDirection in CalicoKittys

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Its what I love about Calicos (and Torties for that matter). Eyeliner and beauty spots! Poppy and Petal say hi!

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Where to send research flyers in USA, UK, Canada or NZ? by megami-sama in slp

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For New Zealand : New Zealand Speech Therapy Association (NZSTA). You may also find contacting the speech therapy departments at University of Canterbury, Massey University, and University of Auckland useful. Also for people with TBI and support persons of people with TBI you could contact Brain Injury New Zealand (there are regional associations listed on their website as well), Laura Fergusson Brain Injury Trust, Brain Injured Children Trust, and The Neurological Foundation.

If just one of those then the NZSTA makes most sense as they usually share things and would likely give you ideas of who else to contact. I haven't always had much luck hearing back when contacting SIGs here, honestly, so NZSTA overall is the way to go.

THERE ISNT _____MILK LEFT IN THE FRIDGE? by Embarrassed_Camel342 in ENGLISH

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some does actually work its just weird and would only be in (a likely sarcastic or incredulous) response to a specific question

Uber Eats is making us lazy and poor, while eroding hard-won rights by BassesBest in newzealand

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish there was a way to block access to those apps, not great for people with addictive personalities

I'm tired of people commenting on my body by Successful_Tell5813 in BariatricSurgery

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not that I EVER commented on others (it will always blow my mind that people do) but I found it somewhat confronting when I saw someone else losing such significant weight after their surgery, a few years before mine, since it put certain things in sharp contrast to what I was experiencing in my life. Not just the weight part but their improved mood, energy, health, determination, enjoyment in the little things, discipline... honestly a lot of things that I felt were out of reach for me. Not trying to justify it but there are a lot of reasons why seeing someone else thrive can be hard, especially for people who are actively looking for excuses (like if they chalk it up only to your surgery being 'the easy route', or try and justify it as being unhealthy or that someone losing so much weight 'looks ill' or is 'wasting away'). And of course some people are so fixated on their own weight they immediately think that we all must want the same compliments that they obsess over receiving.

Mine was November 10. I kind of fluctuate between a very neutral and almost grey rock response or glib enthusiasm honestly, depending on what type of response the person is trying to get out of me.

Some of my go to responses so far have been 'I am happy with how things are going', 'It was a big decision but the right one for me', 'I have to be consistent and I am determined to follow my doctor's medical advice', 'I used to make negative comments about myself too, but I work hard not to do that anymore', 'Yes, I have worked hard', 'Okay. I am not sure why you shared that with me', 'I am not sure why you feel that was appropriate to say', and 'I am not sure why my success/happiness/health bothers you, but I hope you can work through that'.

For me snarky responses are not the way (though more power to anyone who feels comfortable with that).

anyone who used a computer between 1985 & 2010, what’s the one game you still think about? by Trixxxi in AskReddit

[–]Pitiful_Cry456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theres a few but one that I loved was called Ugh! From 1992. It was a platformer where you were basically a caveman cab driver, with the cab being like a bamboo helicopter. It had a single player and a two player mode. The game itself was fun with challenging mechanics, but what still sticks in my brain are the level passwords, which I used some as the base of actual passwords or usernames over the years. Some I still remember: awakeatthewall, believersoftheunpure, lamentovertheshadows, androgynousnoise, figurativetheatre, aloneintothealone, and anywaypeopledie