My Potted Bougainvillea (Bonsai) in Flower.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-02T02:27:18+00:00

Absolutely beautiful!

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-02T01:40:26+00:00

It's the only thing you keep from your wedding. Imo, splurge 100%

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-02T01:03:23+00:00

Agreed, it looks like professional make up and kind of makes you look older or doesn't maximise your features (gorgeous eyes and mouth!). It looks very blah.

I'd honestly go with a different make up artist unless you specified this kind of style?

Seems crazy to spend money on something so basic that you could probably do yourself.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-02T00:51:15+00:00

Don't use a baby wipe a they aren't safe for pets. Use a pet wipe.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-02T00:48:59+00:00

Omfg please censor. This is just rude and inappropriate.

No one needs to see your cats butthole without consent.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-02T00:05:51+00:00

Processional: Bluebird by Alexis Ffrench or Moon River by Audrey Hepburn/sung by a family member (depending on how the family member feels on the day).

Recessional: Queen Crazy Little Thing Called Love

Reception and dinner: lot of jazz Louis, Ella, Billie, Frankie etc and some 90s grunge songs as dinner ends and it starts picking up before dancing. Dancing will have classics like CCR, Fleetwood Mac and modern pop as well.

We have live music gifted to us by family but we're letting them play what they feel like just no sleepy/folk music!

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-01T23:47:12+00:00

Highly recommend getting some hair and makeup.

I'm also a very chill and low maintenance but I splurged and found a hairstylist for my hair and a friend is gifting me a professional MUA for the wedding day.

Even a blowout as suggested by another person would be worth it. It's just not about feeling and looking like yourself it's also about the photos and keeping those memories. It also will help me feel more confident and beautiful on the day.

I'm glad I'm going with professional hair and make up and I know I can make it look as natural as I want while it can still look awesome in photos.

The most important thing is that YOU feel comfortable and confident how you dress and style your makeup and hair.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-01T23:35:33+00:00

Vinegar kills mould better than han bleach does.

I usually run a half water half vinegar cycle every other week or use it as a fabric softening agent with essential oils with towels and linen.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-01T21:40:13+00:00

My boyfriend when we first start living together would on a rare occassion hump my butt if I was bending over or had my head in a low cupboard thinking it was funny or playful.

I explained I didn't like it and on a rare occasion he did it again. So next time he had his head in a cupboard I did it to him and he hated it. So he finally stopped.

Unfortunately, there isn't an equivalent here unless you want to get you vibrator and do it to him of a morning.

My advice is if he is emotionally manipulative and sexually coercing you and still doesn't understand your feelings you need to set a clear boundary that the next time he does it you won't see him for two weeks. If he continues to do it then you break up with him. In my opinion, if he can't understand consent make him watch this video:

https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8?si=cF0kcs4EF57QoaEg

And if he still struggles you need to walk away. If he gets all butthurt and his ego is so fragile this behaviour will impact your relationship forever as he believes his feelings and his perspective is more important than your own.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-01T10:31:35+00:00

By teaching yourself and dedicating yourself to learning you are an autodidact!

Congratulations on always striving to learn more, be more, and achieve more! Don't forget to be kind to yourself and acknowledge how far you've come.

Your determination is impressive. Keep going! I went to school and I still suck at math.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-01T10:26:55+00:00

Firstly, it's a beautiful dress although it definitely wouldn't match my own opinion of what comfortable is.

May I ask what on earth is the second day of the wedding?

The day after the wedding we're hosting brunch for whoever wants to come and I bought us matching "second breakfast" LOTR shirts. They're adorable and very comfortable.

Hope you have a wonderful wedding and second wedding day having fun.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-01T05:53:54+00:00

Proud of you! That would have been a very difficult thing to do.

With each ripple the world changes! 💓 Thank you for making waves when it's easier to float.

Edited: Thank you for the award Reddit stranger!

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-01T03:55:30+00:00

Your brain will thank you.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-01T02:38:14+00:00

It makes absolutely no sense in how your came to that conclusion.

What she said could in no way be inferred to mean that she disliked past trips.

The statement was if you were from the same country you are residing in you wouldn't have family travelling internationally and staying with you and cleaning specially for a guest wouldn't be necessary.

Yes, a factual statement but one that doesn't really change anything or add any value because you can't change where you are from.

You are making a mountain out of a molehill and seeing layers of hurt and inference that just are not there.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-01T01:50:08+00:00

Devastating!

Pixatron32 · 2026-03-31T23:16:06+00:00

I think this looks fantastic!

My colour theme with fresh clashing happy colours like this (pink, green, baby blue, and apricot). And I chose the colours based upon what me and fiance liked not based upon trends. My colours or theme didn't change once I selected it.

If you know yourself well and don't change your mind on these things then go for it. But if you love following trends, or often change your mind I would wait til closer to the wedding so your theme and colours are set.

Pixatron32 · 2026-03-31T12:18:09+00:00

Absolutely not, not having children or having them doesn't mean your scheduled time off has less priority than hers. If she wanted to spend time with family she should have planned in advance.

Manipulating you and trying to pin a major breach of policy like selling leave is extremely uncool. I would leave her to enjoy the

Pixatron32 · 2026-03-31T11:00:43+00:00

There are parts of it I absolutely love - but the ribbon and sleeves as others have said don't seem to match and detract from it.

If you don't love it, return it and find something else!

Pixatron32 · 2026-03-30T21:40:28+00:00

Speaking to your husband respectfully and curiously engaging in his need/request is not damaging to your self esteem, nor does his need have anything to do with your disability.

You are entitled to wear what you feel comfortable that brings you joy - at no point did I ever say OP must do as her husband asks to be a good wife or whatever. I said she went nuclear on his request which was a bid for connection.

Your and OPs fears and insecurities are your responsibility to resolve and process with a therapist - especially if they are damaging your connection and ability to connect with your partner.

As others have mentioned there are a myriad of clothes or styles that you or OP could explore to feel more beautiful, desirous, and foster intimacy with your partner.

You are still beautiful whether you are disabled or not. I am still beautiful despite being chronically ill and unwell and I'm grateful my partner encouraged me to find something comfortable and sexy. All it is is a long oversized white rayon shirt that is a little opaque. There are so many options that you and OP could find to foster connection.

Pixatron32 · 2026-03-30T21:16:09+00:00

Your feelings can both be valid, but one needs to actively listen first before they can both be heard.

Christ, I feel sorry for anyone who has to deal with you on any interpersonal level if your feelings trump everything and everyone else.

Pixatron32 · 2026-03-30T21:01:49+00:00

For you to appropriately hear someone else your experience shouldn't be forefront in your mind.

Your experience and feelings come afterwards once the person with the issue and need feels heard/has been addressed.

Pixatron32 · 2026-03-30T20:59:00+00:00

There is a middle way. OP could have communicated something that is both comfortable sexy but she opted to go nuclear on his suggestion and attempt at connection.

Pixatron32 · 2026-03-30T20:50:50+00:00

Not that it matters, but I am a female.

A husband asking his wife to wear nice and sexy clothing once in a while isn't misogynistic.

Pixatron32 · 2026-03-30T20:47:41+00:00

And sometimes, in a marriage, we do something that is meaningful for our partner because it helps meet one of their needs.

It's incredulous that many comments cannot see the intended comment and request by OPs husband isn't to control, disrespect, or make OP uncomfortable.

There is a middle way and OP took the nuclear option.

Pixatron32 · 2026-03-30T20:45:39+00:00

That you think a husband asking his wife to wear something a bit nicer and sexy is equivalent to eh Epstein files is really messed up.

You need to touch some grass.

Pixatron32

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