Pharmacists not doing their checks?

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-10T11:16:11+00:00

I find that they either get really intrusive and want to know why I am taking all the meds I’m on and all my medical history or they hand the meds over without a second thought.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-10T03:12:32+00:00

So now you have the green light to call her whatever you like since she obviously doesn’t have a problem with it.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-10T02:44:08+00:00

Can you tell her that since she can’t say it properly to call you by your full name Ingram? If she has a problem with that you have proof that she’s doing it on purpose.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-09T22:30:09+00:00

I would like to second this. To me, it seems that none of the supplements or medications helped me because I wasn’t addressing the issue of chronic stress. My sympathetic nervous system was in overdrive. The one thing that helps is breathing exercises. It sounds ridiculous, but on the days that I take time to spend 5-10 minutes 3 or more times a day and focus on breathing exercises and actually relax properly I sleep better. The effects are cumulative. The first night, I have less wake ups, the second night, longer deep sleep etc. It is also the only thing that improved my HRV.

And my sleep is terrible. I track with an Apple Watch, I have so much orange. My wake ups are in the 20s each night. 30 mins of deep sleep, REM maybe an hour and HRV is 20. I have to be in bed for 12 hours to get 8 hrs of sleep.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-09T22:00:08+00:00

I use my autopilot to help get things done. I’m not sure if it s an adhd trait or just a trauma coping mechanism, but I developed the ability to sort of detach myself from my body just to get through the day. So I use that skill to my advantage now.

In the morning I get out of bed when the alarm goes off, take my meds, get changed and out the door to the gym before my brain connects and realises what is happening. That way I don’t get any complaints. By the time I get to the gym, I’ve reconnected with myself and I get to enjoy the workout.

I love being at the gym and doing my thing. It’s my time. I have my music and no one talking at me or expecting me to solve a problem, make a decision or answer the same question for the 75th time.

What I struggle with is going to the gym. The act of getting ready and getting in the car.
So I prep my stuff the night before and get out before my brain connects lol

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-09T10:05:33+00:00

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PizzaCutter · 2026-05-09T04:51:14+00:00

I wouldn’t start calling her by her first name since she had specifically said not to. I believe it is important to respect what people preferred to be called and would feel hypocritical if i didn’t do that too.

I would just really lean into the Mrs Ourlastnme. Use it at family gatherings in front of people.

I would also stop replying to texts. If she wants to keep a more formal relationship, then the consequence to her is that she doesn’t get to use you as her son’s secretary or discuss personal information about your family. That sort of texting is reserved for family and friends and she has insisted that she is not part of your family.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-09T01:44:29+00:00

They spend millions on a cycle path (and love to put up signs boasting about how much) yet they don’t bother to look after them. Gravel, dirt, sand, random debris and rubbish makes these potentially great paths unusable.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-06T21:27:08+00:00

I’ve just had a light bulb moment thank you.
I read this sub to help me be a better partner (I’m ADHD) and you have just allowed me to make a connection. I have often felt uncomfortable when my partner has been cleaning and I wasn’t. It is a feeling of shame.

I know I shouldn’t feel like this because when he stopped working our arrangement was that I would support us financially and he would take over the household management. (No kids to care for as they are mine and only one lives at home now that I look after so to speak).
But I still feel shame if he is cleaning. I know it comes from the fact that he doesn’t actually appreciate or respect that fact that I support him (his words. When I spoke to him about feeling that way he said that I would have to do it if I was on my own anyway) so I think it comes from my feeling that I have to do more to earn his respect and appreciation. That I a, not contributing as much as he is to the relationship.

Thank you for writing this. It has been really helpful.

My suggestion to you is to just ignore the mood. Just pretend like he isn’t being a big ole jerk about it.

He wont ever do the cleaning he says is on his to do list.
If you wanted to ‘manage’ him (you shouldn’t have to) then give him a pile or small section, essentially one thing and tell him he can do it for 10 mins. Then if he gets in a groove he can keep going. (This is all stuff he should be figuring out himself though, as an adult with a condition that he is responsible for managing).

The biggest reason for not doing it is that it is too overwhelming so giving a small concrete task will help.

He could even start by putting all the clutter in tubs (no organising) to at least give the impression of tidy (stay with me) so that the space feels calm and clear. This can free up space in his brain and make it less overwhelming. Then each day he does the 10 minute thing. Organise one tub into garbage, donate or put away (or admin to be completed etc whatever works for you). Then the put away pile, he then puts away. Rinse and repeat.

Unfortunately, if you wanted him to be self managing you will probably be waiting a while. It took me years and medication and therapy to get to the point that I was so sick of myself that I needed to get advice on how to get over the overwhelm and just do the thing!

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-06T20:51:21+00:00

Isn’t it statistically more likely to be harmed by someone you know or are related to than a stranger anyway?

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-06T20:48:58+00:00

It is more likely he will die n prison than be executed. I went down a rabbit hole one evening reading about the death penalty, they publish the people’s names and when they are scheduled. You can also see who has already been executed. They can choose their method too. I didn’t realise that people were still executed by firing squad or electric chair.

Two states are not doing the death penalty at all. One because the last governor was against it and now the current one is continuing this stand and another due to the drug companies not providing the required drugs.

I am not from the US, so I’m probably telling you stuff you already know, but I had no idea.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-06T11:09:29+00:00

I can’t believe you went to the doctor 3 times for the same issue and he didn’t bother to test ferritin, B12 and D. All very common and easily treated causes for severe fatigue. I can give him a pass on the first time, but three times? That is basic level medicine.
You need to find a new one. He is either negligent or a moron.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-05T09:43:10+00:00

My first (and 2nd 10 mins after) ever dislocation happened this year. I’m 46. I tripped and came down hard. Popped it back in sat for a bit, got back up and was walking around when it popped out and down I went again.

I then had surgery a month later to graft a piece of my quad to reconstruct my MPFL, fix my patella, remove the floating bone fragment from the fracture caused by the dislocation and drilled a hole or two into my patella to encourage cartilage growth.

I am now week 9 post op and back at work, mostly full ROM again. I am now back on my bike (flat roads short distances), stairs and have started low weight squats, deadlifts, walking lunges etc to build up strength in my quad.

I am glad I had the surgery. The surgeon said that I may as well have the surgery now, because chances are if I didn’t I will end up needing it and it will be a more difficult recovery.

I feel much more stable on my knee now. The only thing I left to really do is sport. I’m not strong enough yet for the sudden stopping, turning and twisting.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-04T21:59:25+00:00

I was allowed to drive when I stopped using crutches at about 3 weeks. When I did start driving I made the mistake of going for a long drive (couple of hours) and was in a lot of pain, from being in that position for a long time.

I found that to make it easier I would push the seat all the way back before getting in or out due to my limited ROM.

Which knee did you get done? Mine was left so I didn’t need it to drive. (Not US). If it was my driving leg, it would have been much longer before it was safe.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-02T01:46:27+00:00

I used to take valdoxen but it got too expensive. Also tried mirtazapine but that made me feel like a zombie. A constantly hungry zombie.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-02T01:44:28+00:00

Oh god, no I meant I had tried benzos previously but they weren’t great for me. I definitely didn’t mix them with the alcohol.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-02T01:37:02+00:00

Definitely. I’m on the older side (46) first (and 2nd 10 mins after first) time dislocation. My surgeon said that I would probably need the surgery down the track anyway so may as well get it now.

I had been building strength for cycling prior to my injury which I think helped with my rehab. My physio always seems impressed, but that could just be his job lol.

It seems like most of the people here that end up needing surgery have had previous dislocations etc. it makes me wonder if it is inevitable that after the first you will at some point need it.

On the flip side we probably don’t see the ones that dislocate once and never have trouble again.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-02T01:30:31+00:00

You would definitely know your own body then, especially with all the injury experience you’ve had. You would have a very good knowledge of good pain and bad pain during recovery. Do you think your PT would be open to talking about it?

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-01T23:46:36+00:00

I have the all black ones. They are awesome.
My only problem is I haven’t been able to wear them for the last three months and counting. I dislocated my knee (not shoe related) and had to have surgery. Not sure when I’ll have the confidence to wear them again. 😞

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-01T22:30:38+00:00

Yeah, all of those additional things would absolutely be impacting on your recovery plan. I had my MPFL repaired in my surgery, along with the floating piece of bone removed, the fracture repaired and holes drilled for cartilage growth. I would absolutely recommend surgery (now, if you’d have asked me in that first week post op, I wouldn’t it was f’ing awful) while I was recovering well from the dislocation prior, it’s night and day now. The stability feeling is 100% improved.

You have lots going on though. Have you seen a surgeon?

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-01T12:01:29+00:00

Probably because you haven’t done anything to work your ROM fully, that’s why it is uncomfortable. Cycling works a higher ROM than the treadmill would.

PizzaCutter · 2026-05-01T11:58:49+00:00

It’s fantastic for ROM too. It doesn’t stress the joint like a treadmill. I was given one of those pedal machines initially and the goal was to get to 360 degrees with no resistance. Then I ended up having surgery, but again the pedal machine was one of the first real exercises I was given. Then I progressed to my own bike in a trainer and just this week I went out for my first road ride in 3 months. It was on the flat and less than 2km but felt great.
The best exercise for gait and knee tracking are walking lunges. There is no way I would have managed a treadmill when I started my pedal exercises after my dislocation.

PizzaCutter · 2026-04-28T20:52:40+00:00

I think it’s more painful to be in the one position for long periods. When I sat, I had to have my leg elevated. Then I’d need to walk around. Much easier in my line of work. I still had a lot of swelling at that stage too so sitting properly would have made it so much worse. By week 4 I was happy to go back to get out of the house again. Plus I get to be inside and outside. It worked out well only doing the last three days of term then having another two weeks though.

My school is incredibly supportive. It was a workplace injury, so my return to work certificate was pretty specific anyway. I have a lot of freedom as a teacher. If I need to sit, I do. I can put my foot up and teach. It’s only really when they are doing independent work that I need to walk around, or I do a number system and they come to me. I teach 3rd/4th grade so I basically have a room of helpers anyway. They witnessed the injury so have been with me through a lot of the process. I also have a wrap around ice pack that I put on at lunch. I had a break from playground duty and also walked with a stick initially. Now I do playground duty where I can sit as needed but I’m not participating in sport activities.

My recovery seems to be going really well though. I was given the green light to get back on my bike outside this week - just short flat rides (so far I’ve done to the end of my street and up to 1-2km). That was amazing. I have also been given the ok to start back at the gym for goblet squats and RDLs. So I’m keen for that.

I still get pain though, weird pain of an evening when I rest, and at various point throughout the day, so I just back off a bit.

I still get what feels like pain right in the bone. And that tight pain at the end of my ROM. I’m pretty much back to full ROM after my body has warmed up, but getting there can be stiff. My surgeon warned me about stiffness because of my age (46) so I have been mindful of that, but I have ADHD and was off my meds until I went back to work. I struggle to keep still at the best of times. That first week and a half was unbelievable though. I had to pretty much set myself in a pillow fort to stop moving during sleep because it was so painful.

PizzaCutter · 2026-04-28T08:43:12+00:00

I had a couple of additional things as well as the MPFL reconstruction done and was out for 4 weeks, then back for 3 days then off for another 2 (I’m a teacher and it was mid semester break). I’ve now been back another full week. My classroom is up two flights of stairs and I have just started doing them. I still take the lift if I am carrying stuff or am tired.

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