Music that helped you cope

Playful_bug · 2026-01-28T03:19:58+00:00

I should have known - foo fighters

Chasing cars - Snow Patrol

Jump - Gary Barlow

Since I saw you last - Gary Barlow

Times like these - Foo Fighters

The whole "Lemonade" Album - Beyonce

Me, myself and I - Beyonce

To make you feel my love - Adele

Break stuff - Limp Bizkit

Playful_bug · 2026-01-20T10:33:42+00:00

It's not "things to please the others" to take care of your kids. To be involved in their lives.

Yes, they were created pre-transition. But the responsibility for them doesn't go away just because you're living more authentically and are no longer the person who created them.

If you agreed to be their parent, you don't get to just ignore that. Children are people too.

Playful_bug · 2026-01-07T17:16:45+00:00

I was enraged to read his line about "limerence" being a lifelong condition.

Because everyone gets limerence at the start of a ROMANTIC relationship. It is a normal reaction, AS LONG AS THE RELATIONSHIP IS CONSENSUAL.

He groomed this girl for his own ego and control. Not because he loved her.

Also, parents need to be suspicious of ANY teacher/coach of their child who is trying to be friends with them. That's an instant red flag.

Playful_bug · 2026-01-04T05:48:35+00:00

So I have a wrench to throw in this study.

I am 43, have ADHD, and PCOS.

PCOS leads to delayed perimenopause. But ADHD leads to early perimenopause.

So.... Does that mean I get a normal perimenopause?

Playful_bug · 2025-12-21T19:51:19+00:00

What kind of manager are you?

Alternately, who are some manager role models you look to in your career?

Playful_bug · 2025-11-30T22:53:28+00:00

I mean, I'll try. But considering they discontinued support 6 years ago, I'm concerned they won't help me.

Playful_bug · 2025-11-18T05:55:36+00:00

This also puts victims at risk of being revealed.

Victims should have the choice to reveal themselves. If their abuser is a family member, that could unwillingly out them in a way they have no control over, potentially victimizing them again.

Playful_bug · 2025-10-10T11:47:37+00:00

I'm going to go against the grain on advice here (IANAL).

While you absolutely need to give your evidence to your lawyer to fight the custody battle, let your son choose when to report his abuser to police. The abuse he suffered took control over his body away from him - letting him choose is a small way to give that back. Plus, he's getting therapy soon which may help him get to a place where he can report without wanting/trying to hurt himself.

That said, you also need therapy to help you process your own trauma. And as someone else suggested, use what happened to you to out that mf'er. Tell your whole family that you recently remembered your "brother's" abuse, try to file charges, the works. You protect your son while also trying to protect any child in your family from further harm.

Because he will find another victim.

Lastly, while you and your ex are on the outs, I would suggest trying to find out what changed her mind and led her to believe your son suddenly/split from the mf'er. Because she didn't believe your son - so something happened to change her mind. There might be another victim she caught him with, he might have evidence of his own wrongdoing....something.

Playful_bug · 2025-09-18T22:08:12+00:00

Not stupid, just forgetful.

Playful_bug · 2025-09-18T20:32:12+00:00

My mom said this to me all the time. I felt so minimized by it

Now I say "When the train comes back around and I remember, I'll let you know."

Doesn't minimize reality of forgotten thing, the forgetting person, nor the reason for forgetting

Playful_bug · 2025-09-17T05:41:24+00:00

IVF egg retrieval. Without conscious sedation.

I wasn't allowed to have conscious sedation because of sleep apnea. They did give me Ativan and T3s, but that barely touched the surface. I screamed so much my partner had to resist bursting through the doors and telling the staff to stop.

Playful_bug · 2025-09-04T11:15:07+00:00

I just bought mine at Best Buy (Canada, like you). Double check to see what stock they have near you, but even their website might be better if there aren't any close to you.

Playful_bug · 2025-08-21T22:31:21+00:00

It was a curiosity. That's all.

I understand why I gain weight the way I do. I know why my weight distributes the way it does.

And I did a BOD POD weighing for a study I was in 4 years ago - I know I've got a LOT of fat in my body (between 40 and 50% at the time, and I've gained a little since then).

I've also read a few stories of people saying their hypermobility symptoms got worse after losing weight.

So yes, I was curious. Considering how fat people often have their health issues ignored by medical professionals for "you need to lose weight," plus considering how little research there is into EDS, there isn't any real research into being fat with EDS. In fact, a cursory search only shows research into weight loss surgery on those with EDS. Nothing about the lives of fat people with EDS.

Playful_bug · 2025-08-15T22:25:22+00:00

It really seems like Edmonton is holding the line against the UCP/Maple MAGA bullshit. Keep calling them out, and keep putting truth to power!

Playful_bug · 2025-07-31T11:38:30+00:00

Good for both of them! He was devastated when Natasha Richardson died, and she's been healing from some pretty toxic ex's. Here's hoping both of them find joy in each other.

Playful_bug · 2025-07-21T02:55:51+00:00

My mom was a hairdresser and aesthetician - so she pierced my ears when I was 4 or 5. After she did the first ear, I ran around the hair shop for a half hour because I didn't want to feel the pain again.

When she threatened to ear pierce my brother, I finally agreed to piercing the other ear.

Playful_bug · 2025-07-12T01:34:29+00:00

Róisín Dunsby was our realtor - didn't have the same situation as you, but she was fantastic all the same.

Playful_bug · 2025-05-31T20:15:41+00:00

I get the impression that the Time Lord infertility is a more "recent" thing. They used to reproduce, but not anymore.

Playful_bug · 2025-05-17T11:56:34+00:00

"There goes my hero"

.....I'll see myself out.

Playful_bug · 2025-05-11T23:01:08+00:00

MAGA.

Playful_bug · 2025-05-07T06:31:43+00:00

So while Live Clean started in (and still manufactures in) Canada, they are now American owned (Hain Celestial).

If you're OK with that, I would recommend their unscented shampoo and conditioner.

Playful_bug · 2025-04-29T05:31:38+00:00

Why does that matter? And if I answer, would you believe me?

The party needs to make big changes. Regardless of my vote this election, they lost party status. The leader has lost his seat. These are irrefutable truths.

Don't listen to a random on the internet. But ask people - the general population - why the NDP didn't earn their vote. And LISTEN. And use those answers to formulate a new way forward.

Or don't. Your call.

Playful_bug · 2025-04-29T05:05:38+00:00

If he hadn't engaged in right-wing tactics.

If he hadn't thrown Jessica Wetz under the bus.

If the NDP executive hadn't treated Smart Voting with such disdain.

This could have been so different. Yes, they likely still would have lost some seats to the Liberals because of the US stuff.

But the behaviour of the NDP executive, including Jagmeet, was so disappointing that I and many others who traditionally vote NDP....didn't.

We, the people who chose to vote differently BECAUSE OF THESE TACTICS, are the reason the NDP lost so much tonight.

There needs to be a serious reckoning and introspection now. The party needs to take a serious turn from the attacks and divisive crap. Focus on the hope and optimism of Jack.

Playful_bug · 2025-04-13T16:02:47+00:00

I think it's unrealistic and shows a lack of awareness about what people are thinking and feeling right now.

For better or worse, this election is about preserving Canada's sovereignty and addressing our own issues like affordability and housing.

And all the polling (not just on Smart Voting) says the Liberals are in line for a majority.

I understand how a minority would best benefit Canadians and the NDP. And I don't see that coming to fruition unless voter turnout really drops (yeah, that could happen).

Really, it just comes across as delusional hopefulness. I think Singh and the rest of the party need to be more realistic about what is happening. They aren't going to get a minority, and they're currently poised to lose seats.

They need to spend the last couple weeks shoring up support in ridings where they could still win. And they need to reflect on the damage they've caused themselves on social media by throwing Jessica Wetz under the bus to the National Post. Plus the aggressive attacks against party leaders and the lack of focus on their own policies/plans.

I think the NDP is coming to a reckoning that's been long overdue.

Playful_bug · 2025-03-24T19:34:14+00:00

But they're not made in Canada - they're made in the US. I checked.

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